Went Looking & Ended Up With A Broken Heart.
By Chevee
@Chevee (5905)
United States
November 22, 2008 5:20pm CST
I was just sitting here doing a little MyLotting and thought I would just talk a little about this.
I had a cousin visiting me from Tennessee today, he got a phone call, now I live in Alabama so this is where he is. The call come from his daughter who is in Arkansas. His daughter went their to see a friend of hers (male), who is avoiding her, not answering phone calls. The daughter lives in Tennessee too. She calls her father crying telling him that she has caught the boyfriend cheating on her. I heard the father say I told you that before you went out there. That is why he wasn't answering you, you went looking for trouble now you need to get on the highway and get back home before you get into some big trouble.
Now I don't know what is happening because my cousin has left my house. He is leaving tomorrow going back home to Tennessee.
I just Hope his daughter gets home fine.
I have been young and in love myself but I just can't wonder why do young people put themselves through this misery.
What would you have done if that was your child and you were miles away from her and she was upset?
The daughter is 21 years old.
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13 responses
@ANTIQUELADY (36440)
• United States
22 Nov 08
there wasn't much else to tell her but to go home. i probably would not have thrown in the i told u so statement. noone wants to hear that especially where she was. por girl, i feel sorry for her. she didn't need to go there in the first place. hope she gets home safe.
@ANTIQUELADY (36440)
• United States
22 Nov 08
i don't know if i'd be is girl or not after the way he talked to her.
@fwidman (11514)
• United States
22 Nov 08
Since the child is not really a child, I would have probably given her the advice that her dad did and hoped that she pays attention. I wouldn't want to have to bail her out of jail because she did something stupid 
Why do young people do these sorts of things? For the same reasons that we did those kinds of stupid things when we were 21 
Why do young people do these sorts of things? For the same reasons that we did those kinds of stupid things when we were 21 
@rusty2rusty (6771)
• Defiance, Ohio
26 Nov 08
I think your cousin handled it just fine. Told his daughter to get back home and quit looking for trouble. I suppose your cousin went back home to meet the daughter when she arrived back home.
Yuur cousin is right, go looking for trouble and you will find it. Of course young adult never seem to understand that the elder folks knwo what they are talking about when it comes to situations like this. Instead they must see for themselevs and to me I think they get hurt worse.
@checapricorn (16060)
• United States
24 Nov 08
[i]Hi Chevee,
That is very sad, as a Parent, I will feel bad about it that she is far away and I know that she is very sad and frustrated this time but I hope this girl is strong enough and will be home safe! If I am in the situation, I will imagine myself calling her often to know where she is now, things like that![/i]
@tyc415 (5706)
• United States
22 Nov 08
It would break my heart and I would also worry about her for sure. I hope that the girl will see that the guy is a jerk and not waste her time and energy on him. She needs to listen to her dad and come home and let it be. I know it is all easy for me to say since I am older now and not sure what I would have done years ago in that situation but I really don't think I would have gone to another state if he was not taking my calls, I would have just written him off.
@Chevee (5905)
• United States
22 Nov 08
Exactly that is what her father was telling her on the phone. He told her that jerk is history come on home. Before he left he said that she was on her way home. It's about a 6 hours drive from Arkansas to Tennessee. I should have gotten his cell number before he left my sister came over and it just slipped my mind.
@mariposaman (2959)
• Canada
24 Nov 08
21 is not exactly a child. I am sure the father has already gone through the discussion with his daughter that this jerk is no good and she did the usual thing in defending him. Now that she has found out the truth the father cannot do much about things other than offer sympathy. I know young people think it is the end of the world when this happens but it is not. I just hope she does not become one of those horribly cynical women before she finds a good man. Why do they do it? How else do they learn as they cannot be told as they know better than you at that age.
@stella1989 (2274)
• India
23 Nov 08
Uhh I don't think that 21 is very young..
I am 19 you can call that very young but 21 isn't..
You are out of your teen world and facing the realities of life.
I think she did a right thing for going and looking for her boyfriend.
For some people these relationships are very important and they take things very seriously..
I don't think that she did anything wrong for going and searching for her boyfriend, its better than taking decisions in anger..
If I were her father or mother.. Of course a parent always worries for their children I would have went with her for this.. Or would have sent her best friend with her.
As a parent being very controlling at such phase is not a wise option.
If your saying that being in love is a misery than I am sorry I don't agree with you.
And if you are saying that going for searching for her boyfriend alone is a misery .. then life's another name is taking chances.. And LOVE is all about taking chances!!
But taking some cautions won't hurt I guess..
I will also obviously fly back to my daughter if something like this happened to her..
@Grandmaof2 (7578)
• Canada
23 Nov 08
My daughter is 36, never gave me any grief and if this happened in my world assuming I had a vehicle and the money both ways for gas I'd go get her. If she had her own wheels I'd be sure to be waiting at her door when she got home, and I'd save my breath as fas as saying,"I told you so." I'd jump in my van right now if she needed me. We've all had our hearts broken at some time, me included and I was never a wild or rowdy woman it just happens. My daughter knows where she stands with me and I get more love and respect than anyone else I know.
@sid556 (30953)
• United States
23 Nov 08
I'd probably done the same as your cousin did. And yes...I would have left and gone home, knowing that my daughter probably needed me. I have 4 children so i've been thru all that. They don't take my advice nor do I expect that they will. For the most part they learn from experience. Unlike your friend, I'd probably refrained from using the "I told you so" phrase on them...i know they'll figure it out. As a mom, i'll just be there for them.
@tamarafireheart (15384)
•
23 Nov 08
Hi Chevee,
Well if she was my daughter I would get out there as fast as possible and bring her home, because she is devastated and heart broken she needs her mum or dad to comfort her, then I would have strong words to say to that man. We all been there when we were young, its just a part of life, we can all get hurt no matter what age you are, but I think we are able to cope better with age. Hugs.
Tamara
@Opal26 (17679)
• United States
23 Nov 08
Hey chevee! Ahhh, that is so sad! I feel really bad for her.
Poor thing. That is such a lousy thing to find out no matter
how old you are. But at 21 it is really hard to deal with.
The guy should have been honest with her instead of taking
the cowards way out. He should have spoken to her instead
of avoiding her. Of course she would know that something was
wrong. It would have hurt her if he told her but she would
have avoided going there and seeing it fact to face for
herself. That was just downright cruel! I hope she gets back
home ok and that her father will be there for her to help
console her.
@sheenarobins (547)
• Philippines
23 Nov 08
It hurts for sure. This is where the saying, "Curiosity killed the cat" applies. If she is my daughter I'd probably buy her a book about this things. On the other hand, she had this bad experience for a reason. Right now all she needs to do is to accept the fact that it's over. It's a good thing that she found out before it's too late and end up marrying someone like this guy. Men are like buses, if you miss one there's always another. If she likes to read, let me know I can send her some links that can help her see things on a positive perspective. what she saw may have hurt her but it prevented her from a possible huge mistake that might ruin her future. She'd be watchful next time. We all learn.
@NikkiLuvsAlex (319)
• United States
23 Nov 08
I'm only 28, but i've already been through the whole being cheated on thing. My parents or rather should I say, my mom wasn't really too supportive of me when my emotions were a mess because of it. I'm really happy to have a great boyfriend now who doesnt pull this sort of thing with me.
