What changed your life?
November 25, 2008 10:19pm CST
Or, who changed your life? I'm going to tell you, I have taken a dramatic change for the better in the past two years or so. I'm not going to say my mommy or my guidance counselor or my uncle caused it. Nobody I personally know. Nobody who has actually been there for me. No. You know who changed my life? Dr Phil. That's right. I wasn't on his show. But I have been watching it for the past two years or so every day after school. Except when the show is on, say, something completely different than what he normally does. I mostly like the dramatic shows, the ones with real people especially. It's really not just a show to air out people's dirty laundry, I'm telling you. It's for people with similar problems to learn from it. It's not all ratings. I know some must be ratings, but not all. I mean, they even give free tickets to the show. They're not all money hungry. They do what they have to, you know? Okay, so about my life. I was really really shy and reserved and afraid of people for most of the time, especially in middle school. I was always known for being weird and drawing well, but nobody really knew me or talked to me, and I didn't talk to them. Friendly people would try to talk to me, but I would freeze up and not know what to say. I mean, I don't know what it is. But when my heart goes crazy and I feel like I might not be able to stand up, it's really hard to talk to someone. I'm trying to overcome it each day. Dr Phil has never really done a show about this specifically, but he has taught me that you have to be aware of what you're doing and why you're doing it. I tried to rationalize my fears of rejection and being hated. I realized that being the youngest child, I had to please my older brothers. I had to make them like me, and I had to make sure they didn't think I was annoying, though I often was, just because I was a little child. I think it's the anxiety to be accepted, but still be oneself. I think I gave up on trying to be liked. I'm working on it! I'm letting the other person perform for once, watching and just easing back. I feel so much better. I'm not completely out of my shell, but I am more outgoing than I have ever been before. I don't feel quite so suppressed anymore, not quite as afraid to make a fool of myself. I feel wonderful. Dr Phil changed my way of thinking, and I swear by it. I think anyone should watch his show once in a while, some are different than others. He really does know what he's doing, and I'm impressed by him. He's not a god of knowing and understanding people and I occasionally disagree with his standpoints, especially about raising teenagers, but really, he teaches people to wake up and change their lives and take a different perspective. Sometimes it's just the thing!
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19 Sep 09
Since I honestly never had a good relationship with my mom, and through out most of my life she was my only influence I started to become like her (and that was bad) when I realized this I began looking at older woman that I respected to be like my "mentor mom" like my yoga teacher, my friends mom, and a couple others that I could look up to and learn from.
27 Nov 08
There are lots of chances in peoples' whole life, and maybe walking in every cross we can meet one or more persons who act just as the lamps. Please find them out and put into our mind, if you have done it that is good; if in the other way ,try to finish it . Here I admire you because you just need to do the second step.
26 Nov 08
Hi Sheepie, I am so glad that you have got the self confidence and self esteem from Dr. Phil show, you should write to him to thank him, a lot of shows here had helped millions of people as well. I used to be very shy until I wnt to this social group and now I am can talk to strangers there or help other people that are very shy, life is what you make it in the end, others can help but its down to you at the end of the day. I am very pleased for you and you are going to make something of yourself as you get older. Tamara
26 Nov 08
I'm glad Dr Phil has been helpful to you. I've watched a couple of his shows, and most of what he says is just common sense. Some of the people he has on the show seem to be totally disfunctional and don't have a lot of common sense of their own. I think the main thing is for us all to realise we are worthy and important in our own way - and that nobody can put us down unless we allow them to.
26 Nov 08
well for some people there will be a lot of change in there life...the reason may be anything but i have also a lots of change in my life when i girlfriend entered in to my life and she is very lucky to me .....i love her very much and i misses her because she is out f state...