Do you feel your friends here let you down?

@bunnybon7 (46396)
Holiday, Florida
November 26, 2008 1:10pm CST
I love mylot. i have 4 or 5 friends here that answer my every discussion. so, they are the ones i try to make sure to answer a lot. i have 194 friends here on my list. but hardly get very many responses. sometimes i even answer friends discussions to help them out even when i dont know what to say. i just say, well thats a good question and im answering so i can see the answer myself. do you feel sometimes like friends are letting you down either here or in life?
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@p1kef1sh (45696)
26 Nov 08
No never. I don't expect them to answer all my discussions, and I don't always answer theirs. It's not personal, sometimes we just don't have anything to say. That said, many of the are very kind and do make comments about my drivel. As for off line. Some of my best offline friends are online friends if that makes sense. Today alone, and it's 7.15pm here, I have communicated and spoken to three myLot friends "behind the scenes". I cannot complain. I love them all and am so grateful for their friendship.
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@bunnybon7 (46396)
• Holiday, Florida
26 Nov 08
me also. maybe my discussions are not that interesting. i dont know. you are one of the friends that usually post to my discussions. i thank you. i just wondered how many people on here have that problem
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26 Nov 08
Hi bunnybon7, Yes it is the same here with me but I don't start much discussions but I do respond to all my friends discussions, I have nearly 200 friends on Mylot and yet when do a discussion I would only get a few response, my real life friends are no better, I don't see them often, but I see them only when they want someting. Great eh? Tamara
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@bunnybon7 (46396)
• Holiday, Florida
26 Nov 08
i know how you feel. its the same with me. you are also one thats always there for me. i imagine your that way in real life. why your friends are like that. always comeing to you
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@webeishere (36351)
• United States
27 Nov 08
I also have days, where with nerly 600 friends, I am lucky to get 10 responses. Then there are times I get 40 or 50 responses as well. It all works out in the end as I make payout each month though. HAPPY POSTINGS FROM GRANDPA BOB!!~
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@bunnybon7 (46396)
• Holiday, Florida
28 Nov 08
yes makes you wonder but at least you reach payout.
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@my2boys (821)
• United States
26 Nov 08
I dont really feel like my friends on here let me down. I think that they answer if they have something to say. I would rather them give me useful information then respond just to be responding.
@bunnybon7 (46396)
• Holiday, Florida
26 Nov 08
yes your right. now i wonder if this was a bad discussion to bring up
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@Opal26 (17684)
• United States
27 Nov 08
Hi bunny! Yeah! That's funny that you said that! I'm always the one answering my friends discussions, but in the few times that I do start my own discussions I don't hear from all the friends whose discussions that I answer. So I know what you meant. It is kind of not fair. I finally stopped responding to certain people's discusson who I felt never commented back in their discussions. I figured if the couldn't be bothered to ever go back to their own discussions then why should I bother responding. I gave them enough chances. I always go back to my discussions. I may not respond to everyone, but I at least do my best. Some people just never go back. That really bothers me.
@oldboy46 (2132)
• Australia
27 Nov 08
Like you I do not start many discussions Opal but my reason is a little different to yours. Normally with my job I am away from home a fair bit and even when I am home there are usually other things which need my attention. So my Lot takes a seat in the far corner of the very back row plus it is wedged in behind some rather heavy stuff as well. lol Actually I think it is rude and lacking manners to start a discussion and then not to go back and read the responses. That will generally mean there would be at least one response I would want to make a comment on. My work situation means that at times weeks and maybe months would pass before I was in a position to get back online. So, for me for now, no discussions are beiong started. Also if I do respond to a discussion and later see that the member who started it has not had the common decency to make one single comment to any of the responses, I am not happy. If the person cannot make a comment to just one response, then it is highly likely they have not returned to the discussion at all once they had started it. There are enough other discussions to respond to without having to do it for someone who appears to be rude and lacking in manners.
@bunnybon7 (46396)
• Holiday, Florida
28 Nov 08
yes opal. its like they just forget. and go on to make more and more discussions to. i usually find some in my unresolved and answer then
@bunnybon7 (46396)
• Holiday, Florida
28 Nov 08
yes oldboy it is very rude to not comment back when someone responds to a discussion you started. kudos to that
• India
26 Nov 08
hmm well... i cant say
@bunnybon7 (46396)
• Holiday, Florida
26 Nov 08
thats nice. you answered even tho your not a friend yet. i see your new. i'll put in a request
• India
26 Nov 08
let it b 10 reqs.. then i'll c
@bunnybon7 (46396)
• Holiday, Florida
28 Nov 08
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@Rosekitty (19392)
• San Marcos, Texas
23 Dec 08
I'm truly sorry for not posting to this sooner since I know its a month old, I've been so behind in responding that sometimes i come here and can only post 1 or 2 responses and then someone needs my help or I'm watching a grandchild..today i had a headstart and am trying to catch up so I'm here now..lol.. I love all my friends and know that they understand..I try to respond when i start a discussion and if days go by and i haven't gotten all then i feel gulity since i may not being able to get on the discussion, so if i've done that to you or anyone..please forgive me.. Huggs and love and here's a brownie...
@bunnybon7 (46396)
• Holiday, Florida
23 Dec 08
well thank you dear. i think i found the problem. most people are very busy on here. and i used to not have enough friends. now i do and im to busy to get to all theirs. it was my misunderstanding. hugs to you to
@bunnybon7 (46396)
• Holiday, Florida
23 Dec 08
anddd! i do love brownies
@wolfie34 (26790)
• United Kingdom
22 Dec 08
Real true friends are hard to come by both on and offline, you can count them on just one hand, the others are mere acquaintances that drift in and drift out of your life. Same can be said with Mylot. You will have as you rightfully said have about 4 or 5 'true' Mylot friends who will stick by you come what may. Sometimes I have to say that some discussions you can't expect your friends to respond to because they may no nothing about that particular subject. For example if one of my female friends started a discussion about feminine things I couldn't answer, and I never answer for the sake of answering just to get a big 1 cent in my Mylot account. But I know even if they don't respond to me they are still my friend. Cherish those four or five friends because they are gold dust, as for the others they'll come and go, don't let it bother you, you have your own standards of how you respond etc. People will and do let you down but you know you are the better person in the end!
@bunnybon7 (46396)
• Holiday, Florida
23 Dec 08
wow. thats a very nice informative response. thanks. your very right there.
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@wolfie34 (26790)
• United Kingdom
23 Dec 08
Thank you for best response, appreciated, may I take this opportunity to wish you a very happy Holiday!
@glords (2614)
• United States
24 Dec 08
I don't expect much from my friends in real life or on the net, and I think it makes life much happier. Because I don't expect anything from them, the smallest kindness seems monumental. I am always so grateful to have a visitor stop by, or a friend invite me to lunch. It makes me feel terrific. I too have noticed that there are a handful of people that answer every post. I appreciate them, but I also look forward to hearing from those silent friends, that only come out of the woodwork once or twice a year to say hello. It's like getting a Christmas card... and you say... ahhh how nice they remember my name.
@bunnybon7 (46396)
• Holiday, Florida
24 Dec 08
exactly. it makes you appreciate these ones that answer almost every post or sends you a card in the mail now and then. im like you, i have some friends on here that answer my posts at least one now and then and i respond to at least one of theirs a week, but some never respond to any of my posts and i hardly ever make a discussion. maybe 1 or 2 a month?
@sameroad (3180)
• United States
24 Dec 08
to be honest.. i don't even know how many friends i have on here lol but i do notice the ones that response to my discussions often enough and i try to answer theirs as well.. i always just my "friends started" and answer a bunch on there.. whatever i can anyway... i'm not really sure if i feel let down by friends on here.. probably not...however in real life.. i do... my friends are never around...they tell me things and then not follow through with them... and so many other things.. but i'm used to it by now.. but they still let me down when they do it.
@bunnybon7 (46396)
• Holiday, Florida
24 Dec 08
yes im getting more used to what happens here. so, im begining to understand its kind of tough to answer all.
@pyewacket (44032)
• United States
24 Dec 08
I have a large listing of friends here too bunnybon, but it seems only a handful answer my discussion. And what I can't figure out, are those who ask for me as a friend then never answer my discussions..not one, so what's that deal??
@bunnybon7 (46396)
• Holiday, Florida
24 Dec 08
i try to answer about 1 of my friends discussions every other day at least. i've gotten a lot of friends lately and try for the ones that interest me. i usually answer 1 of yours every other day or so. i find you very interesting. actually im surprised you didnt find my discussion about my maybe being a witch interesting? i've gotten a lot of replies on it. and yes, i know witches are usually good.
@sudalunts (5526)
• United States
24 Dec 08
I also have a lot of friends, but the responses to my discussions wouldn't tell that. I guess whatever I post is not really interesting to many people, but I will keep on trying. I think some people respond to their friends regardless what they post. I have seen people with hundreds of responses, for rather simple discussions. That is just the way it is, if you are popular you get a lot of responses regardless of what you post, if you are not popular you may get one or two responses to your discussion. I have stopped accepting friends, because I really do not see the sense in them.
@bunnybon7 (46396)
• Holiday, Florida
24 Dec 08
i dont know. i've gotten the idea im not that interesting myself but i keep excepting friends and try to answer at least one of their discussions every other day. then i dont feel im letting them down
• India
18 Dec 08
Hi bunnybon.. whether it be life or be it mylot, always there are two types of friends like associates. One group takes help from you and remain with you so long as you are not in difficulty. i do not think they can be called 'friends' in true sense of the term. in case of online activity they can better be called 'online buddy'. The other group who are always beside you and help you without thinking of reciprocity and on whom you can confide and rely, are true friends. They are just not easily available and it takes time to reveal their true nature. I have experiences both good and bad, like all others, both in mylot and life. It feels bad when when you think someone is in second group and turns out to be a fake friend. However, a disheartening it may be, one has to continue search for the trusted ones.Those found are to be maintained at any cost. Hope you get 'real' friends..
@bunnybon7 (46396)
• Holiday, Florida
18 Dec 08
thank you. i do to some day when i start getting out again. guess my only friends are here
@tryxiness (4548)
• Philippines
12 Dec 08
Hello, I might be one of your friends who let you down. I guess, you just have to add more friends in the process. I believe in statistics, and the more my friends in the list the greater the number of responses I get. I do not usually take it against friends in my list.
@bunnybon7 (46396)
• Holiday, Florida
12 Dec 08
your right. im a bit duh sometimes. im learning
@mtdewgurl74 (18159)
• United States
3 Dec 08
In life..I don't have any but one and then it is not often we talk..on Mylot I have a few. I try to answer all that I can. I have almost all of my friends as on so that I will receive their discussion notifications in my email inbox which is where I answer 99% of mine from. I feel that at times I wish that more of the people on my friends list did answer a few more of my discussions but I guess they are busy...
@bunnybon7 (46396)
• Holiday, Florida
3 Dec 08
yes i've finally come to that conclusion. that they are busy or dont know what im talking about
@shooie (4985)
• United States
28 Nov 08
No in mylot I don't count on responses from my friends list. I go to theirs anyways and when I put something they want to respond to they will. Shrugs I been in mylot long enough try not to let anything get to me. As for friends letting me down in real well we all have friends that we know are just gunna let you down no matter what...have to kinda laugh about it. You can almost always depend on them not to be there when needed. lol is okay. As friend we love em for the good and the bad...
@bunnybon7 (46396)
• Holiday, Florida
29 Nov 08
yes im slowly getting used to it all.
• India
27 Nov 08
Not really! :) I have long before accepted it as the way Mylot works. I have around 13 pages of friends. I certainly don't see all of them. That's life, and we have to accept it. :) Cheers and happy mylotting
@bunnybon7 (46396)
• Holiday, Florida
28 Nov 08
your right. i should not let it bother me.
• United States
27 Nov 08
I would feel let down if NONE/ZERO of my friends did not answer to any of my discussions, but so far they have not let me down. I think new users who don't hardly have any friends on their friends list get discourage with MyLot because they do not receive any discussion replies and they think nobody cares about them because they are new. But I don't think this is the case. I think you're friends are the people who see you're discussion first and they reply before anybody does, then it's bumped up on the list then everybody on Mylot see's it. If you are new to MyLot and want people to reply to you're discussions you will need to add new friends because if you don't it's very likely you're post will not get any or much response. Thats just my 2 cents
@bunnybon7 (46396)
• Holiday, Florida
28 Nov 08
yes i've been thinking the more friends will mean more responses
@maroseqf (3657)
• Philippines
27 Nov 08
Actually, I don't feel that my friends here in mylot let me down but rather, they encourage me to keep lotting. I don't take it against my friends if they don't respond to all of the discussions I've started. Ofcourse it depends whether my topic interests them or not.
@bunnybon7 (46396)
• Holiday, Florida
28 Nov 08
yes your right. i obviously didnt word this topic right. i dont expect everyone to answer and not just about mylot. life itself
@oldboy46 (2132)
• Australia
27 Nov 08
It might be that you have a lot of friends here in myLot bunnybon but do you share similar interests? If you don't then they probably pick and choose which discussions they want to respond to. If you have a discussion that interests them then they will probably make a response, depending on how much time they have available. Also there is a big chance that your 194 friends also have a lot of friends as well and so it is a balancing act to respond to as many as possible. You will also realise that many of your friends will be starting their own discussions as well. I do not think that it would be possible to make 194 good qualty responses in one day here on myLot plus read and comment on the responses to your own discussions. When it comes to responding to discussions, I will only do so if the topic interests me and I think I have something to add to the discussion. Yes it is nice to support our friends here on myLot if we can. But I simply cannot see any point in making a response which is only one or two short simple sentences. It does not add anything to the discussion at all in my opinion, and so should not be done. If you are not happy with some of your friends on the list, then perhaps go through the list. See/read what sort of discussions they have started and the responses they have given. That might give you a better idea whether you need to think more aboupt the discussions that you start. Alternatively, it might be that you have nothing in common with some of your friends. Did you check out your friends discussions and responses as well as their interests before accepting them? That could very well be the key to what you seem to think is a "problem".
@bunnybon7 (46396)
• Holiday, Florida
28 Nov 08
i dont expect every friend to respond. that would be tough. i'd just like to get more than 4 to 7 sometimes. but until now, i guess they werent so interesting
@webeishere (36351)
• United States
27 Nov 08
Nahhh I don't worry about this actually. There are members here whom only start discussions and do not respond at all to their friends discussions. There are members that only respond and not start any discussions of their own. There are members whom do both. It all balances out in the log run so I do not worry if members in my list of friends do not respond to mine. I do not respond to all my dfriends discussions eithert actually. I just respond to those that interest me. So some friends get left out as far as responses from me. In life my friendfs stand by me in my life and in my A.A. life a lot. HAPPY POSTINGS FROM GRANDPA BOB!!~
@bunnybon7 (46396)
• Holiday, Florida
28 Nov 08
wtg grandpa bob my daughter is in AA for years now and they do always have friends there. its like another little family/or big family