What do you do when you get discouraged?

United States
November 28, 2008 8:38pm CST
What are some of the things you do when you get discouraged? I know when I get discouraged some times I try to busy myself so I don't think about the discouraging things but if that doesn't work I simply say "Jesus, help me.. This is too much for me" ..You know after that things seem to get better prety quick. What are your ways with coping with discouragemetn? What are some things that discourage you. One major thing that discourages me are friends who promise to do something and then don't or friends that betray my trust! It hurts me immensely and I battle around so that i don't entertain uncharitable thoughts.
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@hanasays (212)
• United States
29 Nov 08
I guess it depends on the type of discouragement. If I'm discouraged about something I'm trying to do (an image I'm trying to finish, a project I'm trying to complete), it really depends if the source of the discouragement is from within (frustration) or without (people saying negative things). If it's from within - such as frustration - I step away from the thing that is discouraging me, or try to distance myself from it mentally, enough to regain my composure. I remind myself of all of the reasons I'm working at whatever task this is, and what the rewards will be (sometimes, the reward is just seeing the project completed... it can be rewarding enough, if you're the sort of person who is satisfied by that). Often, that helps. I try to remember exactly why whatever I'm doing is useful or good, and how great it will be when I'm finished. After a short coffee break and stretch, often I'm ready to tackle the problem again. If the source of discouragement is criticism, I try to sort through the criticism. It goes into several "piles" in my mind: "useful" criticism, stuff I can actually act on ("I don't like the color so much, it's too bright" - alright, I can do something about that, I can tone it down)... "pointless" criticism, stuff I can't do anything about ("I think your bedroom is too small" - well, I can't exactly change the size of the room, can I?), and "stupid" criticism - stuff that is not only pointless, but harmful ("I think this project is really stupid" - well, I wouldn't have started working on it if*I* thought it was stupid, so go take that attitude somewhere else). I try to act on the useful criticism, consider the "pointless" criticism and figure out why it's pointless (something like changing the size of the room, or doing something beyond the scope of the project's budget), and discard the stupid criticism (and maybe tell the person dishing it out to take a hike). Ultimately, I've found the best way to keep from getting discouraged is to get rid of discouraging people. You know who I mean - the people who are always telling you exactly why everything you do is stupid or bad? Tell them to get lost, and suddenly the world is a more encouraging place. That doesn't mean that everyone who offers criticism is a discouraging person - there's often a lot of value in criticism. But there's a difference between "I think that there's too much red in the painting" and "Your drawing sucks, and I think it's stupid". If the discouraging person is yourself, just try to remind yourself exactly why the things you're doing are good. Even if whatever you're trying to do doesn't work out, it's not a complete loss - you can still learn something from tasks you've failed at, and try to do them better next time.
• United States
29 Nov 08
Great Psychological assessment of how to handle discouragement and you touched on many scenarios..thanks for your very nice imput.
• China
29 Nov 08
it is a good share!thanks a lot!
• Japan
29 Nov 08
I will eat something that I like,especially sweet food like chocolate and doughnut.I think eating chocolate can make me happy^^ Besides this,I think watching movies is a not bad idea~~~
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• United States
29 Nov 08
I guess watching them on the internet would be just as good as watching them on tv;)
@shorty08322 (1270)
• United States
29 Nov 08
i just set and write and then i go out somewhere if nt i just set in the house and go crazy
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• United States
29 Nov 08
Yes doing something has been what I have been told is a very good remedy against discouraged..the Old Devil would love to have us discouraged; since once he does there is nothing he cannot say to sway us into deep depression
@margaux08 (1094)
• Philippines
29 Nov 08
I dwell in sweet food! ... and a grande sized White Choco Mocha non Fat from Starbucks. It's pretty therapeutic! After that, I can get back to my own senses and think straight, so as not to dwell on the discouragements. Somehow, that simple act halp me to get encouraged to do positive things...and take life as it is.
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• United States
29 Nov 08
Sounds like you have your moods pretty good controlled. Sweets are a common tool to combat the blues;)