are you malleable??

Oh my goodness I know what you mean. I have always been the black sheep of the family when it comes to things like that. I have been the one who has done my own thing and gotten the ridicule from the family. I told myself I would try to support my children no matter what they are doing as long as it was not breaking the law.

I think that there is always a happy medium to be found no matter what the circumstances really. They are YOUR kids and you and your husband will raise them with positive influences from bith sides. Kids that are raised right will end up growing into well adjusted adults that will make their own decisions anyway. All we can do is give them the best tools we can to reach that point! I am definitely a black sheep too but I am also quite stubborn. I am malleable to a point but some things I just won't budge on. This is my right. These are your kids and not anyone else's so to be honest, the outside family's deep seated opinions are really of no consequence. Sure, when with them in their own environment, respect their rules as that is their right also. But this is a small part of your's and your kids lives being away from home like this, so the happy medium found in your OWN environment is what counts.

Not very much.I am one person who can never stand a stupid.Well but I am always eager to learn and correct myself from people who are wiser than me regardless of their age.

Difference of views is likely to be there between two generations. I think, most of us might feel that our parents are very conservative or othodox, so would think our next generation about us. We need to be bit flexible with our kids/next generation in understanding their point of view. I would like my kids to follow my ideas, of course with some relaxation.

thats true you can,t be set in your on ideals you have to be willing to listen even though you don,t agree.if we all was this way we would have never envented the electricity,are created a train,are airplane.we continue to learn as we grow and there will be changes coming about each and every year.we all have differents of opinions but because your is different from mine does not mean your is wrong.we have a bright light of different opinions thats leading to same place.

My dear if you wouldn't want your kids to follow your ideals then I think you have to change your ideals! I mean we parents must set an example. We cannot just tell my children "Don't follow what I do and what I believe because they always learn from what they see from us and not from what we tell them what to do and not what to do.

My mom is the only rigid person I know and she is enough for me. She is not orthodox but very rigid. As a child I just had to listen to whatever she said or I would be termed undisciplined and disobedient. She never listened to any of my ideas always terming me as a child and that I should stay that way and that good girls always listened to their mothers. My dad was never into much of what I did. My hubby though is the best thing that could have ever happened to me. He is not at all rigid and between us, its always a matter of concensous.

I am quite malleable, and I like myself like that. You see in order to hold you own against everybody around you, it needs either an inborn aptitude or training from childhood itself. I have neither…I can be called a ‘weakling’. Gradually as I understood this, I also realized that my only chance of enjoying the company of others without becoming a laughing stock is by becoming malleable. But that doesn’t mean that I let others walk over me…no, in many areas I am firmly rooted to my stand point but in many areas, I understand other’s point of views too.

I guess, you have sorted out the values you want to keep to yourself and by that the act of you rebelling tells that the traditional thinking running in your family is no longer applicable to the changing times in the society as a whole, and I commend you with that. Anyways, I think I am weird in many ways and I try to be firm with what I believe in and somehow I do negotiate on things when I feel like negotiating.

I am open minded. If someone shows me something that I find interesting and have never encountered before I will listen and if I like it and am happy to go along with it I will. On the other hand if someone tries to force me to change my views just to agree with them I will stubbornly refuse and the more they try to force the more stubborn I will become. So I am not malleable to another's interests but I am open minded and willing to change my views if I find something interesting to change to.

let them be the way they are.....cause they have been like that for their entire life that they have lived. It is very essential for us to go according to the world, we cannot be stuck with old thoughts. We need to move with the world to be able to survive. And as you say the do not entertain anybody with a diffrent opinion, it simply means that they just like to force their thoughts on others and feel happy if others listen to them. Try and teach your child what is the best for them and not just to dominate others.

I was raised by Black Sheep to be a black sheep. However I live with a very conservative man and my children are also that way. Maybe it skips generations. But I believe Viva La Difference.

my family is very liberal and Ihave brouth up my daughters too in a liberal way. Iha ve always told them wha t is right or wha ti wrong according to me but they were free to choose what they felt was right. My wife is very balanced and sensible. My father was strict but I always did as I pleased. my relatives are orthdox but I do not care and they know it. They accept it because they know that i am what i am and will do as i please.