how can you tell if your spouse is a gay?

I think today there is a lot of people who seem to swing both ways but they don't really call themselves gay, they just like to enjoy all sides of things, but i don't think it is a new thing its just that we are all aware of such things and talk about it more, I think it could even becoming acceptable in some areas...I have a gay male friend who has said that i would be shocked if I knew how many married men he has been with that don't consider themselves gay..I am not gay but i have a few gay friends and they talk to me and i must be honest i was shocked at first but after hearing so much of this that is going on I am not shocked in the least any more....

Lol, I hope you never told your friend. Could very much be just office gossip. Unless you have really seen him in more intimate situations with other males, not just being in their company, you can't really make that accusation. If you come to think of it, a lot of guys fulfill some of the criteria. Some even all. I know one, and he is definitely not gay;)

Straight guys can be effeminate, and alot of guys take extra care of themselves (liking colognes, clothes that look good on them)...it's called being metrosexual, and it's not usually an indication of being gay -- I normally see it as the whole "gentleman" thing and what it's evolved into today, culturally. There's actually no real way to tell. Not even if you see them holding hands with a guy, or kissing a guy, 'cause he also could be bi.

Are you forgetting males have an XY chromosome? So what if some males choose to use more of the feminine side. That doesn't make them any more "gay" than a woman wearing pants is "butch". So what if he knows more about perfume, and hangs around good looking men, is he supposed to be a dummy, and hang around a$$ scratchin slobs to be more manly? #:)

hahaha!!! it is a sad thing to know. In my own opinion, anybody can tell if a guy is a gay or not. For me, I can tell it through his ways even if it is my first time to see him, I can tell.. hahahah. I think the wife of your boss had known it but she just accept the reality. It is very impossible if she had no idea about it when they are living in one roof. If you and your co-workers, had noticed it how much more for the wife? I believe she did but she is just keeping quiet.

I think rumors can be very malicious and detremental to people. I think that you are in the right in not saying anything to her for two reasons. 1. You can't verify the information and 2. that is something that if he is indeed he should be telling her himself. It is rude for people to even be saying such things to be honest because what if it comes out that he really isn't? What if he's just very metrosexual? I bet a lot of people in your work place would feel pretty bad if they ever ruined a marriage off of false information. I always steer clear of gossip, it does nothing but tarnish peoples names and more so it's often done behind their backs. People like that don't stand well in my books. If anyone had anything to say to me I respect them more if they say it to my face or at least give me the common cutesy of asking me if it's true. It allows the person to defend themselves. Where as petty talking behind peoples back gets nothing done and only makes the rumor grow. That poor man...