Is there a small or large gap between your kids ages?

@maximax8 (29134)
United Kingdom
November 30, 2008 8:59am CST
I have a son aged 13 years and a son aged 18 months and so there is a 12 year gap between my children. One of my friends has a 12 month gap between her 2 children. I think that a 2 or 3 year gap is ideal. My have a sister that is 5 years older that me. Do you have a small gap between your children? Is there a large gap between your kids? If so what is the gap?
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@nannacroc (4049)
30 Nov 08
There's a 6 year gap between my first and second child and a 12 month gap between my second and third. The gap between the first two is too long and the other two were too close but it wasn't planned that way and I wouldn't change any of them. There's a ten year difference between me and the youngest of my brothers and I was brought up almost as an only child. I don't share memories with my older siblings and don't have a close bond with them.
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@atv818 (1988)
• United Arab Emirates
14 Feb 10
I think my kids' age are spaced just right. My daughters are 13, 9 and 7.
@SViswan (12071)
• India
14 Feb 10
The gap between my children is large going by Indian standards. My older son was 6 years and 3 months when his little brother was born. My sister and I are 7 years apart. I don't think a large or small gap is the best. Each has it's own advanges and disadvantages and you have to take into consideration your own circumstances and conditions before deciding on the gap. In the earlier generation, in our community, the gap used to be larger...but of course, with other kids in between. My dad and his youngest sister are 20 years apart! To date, he says that she was his first child:)
@GADHISUNU (2164)
• India
6 Dec 08
I have 2 kids a son and a daughter and the difference between their ages is 10yrs(rounded off. But sibling rivalry is just the same as if it was just 2/3 years. That is what surprises me. Earlier t o this I had a friend when I was in my Higher Secondary stage of schooling when I has first seen my friend(classmate) and his sister were 10 years apart. At that time I was surprised that such things were posible! But just that very thing happened in life. Among my colleagues some have felt that we have done some very good planning. But sometimes I feel I have simply extended the period of my being concerned with family maintenance right into my ripe old age.
@sid556 (30999)
• United States
6 Dec 08
I have 4 kids with large gaps between ages as I was married twice. I have a 31 yr old, 23,22 and alas, a little 14 yr. old. The gap seems to narrow as they all get older. It's great.
@mimpi1911 (25475)
• India
5 Dec 08
Maximax I do not have any kids. But mu sisters have. and my elder sister has a gap like like yours. The girl is almost 12 year older than the boy. This in a way has helped my sister. For Diya can take care of brother and can run little errands whenever needed. so, it's good for them
@riyasam (16571)
• India
5 Dec 08
i do have a 4year gap.some people say this is good,as the first child will be just starting school and you can give the full attention to the newborn but i guess to each one his own.
@aseretdd (13736)
• Philippines
3 Dec 08
I only have one child and she is 2 and a half years old now... so if by next year i get pregnat... the gap would be like more that three years... but if that will not happen... then there will be an even bigger gap because i would have to wait for my husband to go home for a vacation so that we can try to have another baby... i think three years is a good number for a gap... someting lesser than that can be tiring for the body...
• United States
2 Dec 08
My oldest son is 12 my youngest son is 11, 15 months between them. My daughter is 21 months old. So a pretty big gap between the last 2 lol.
• Bahamas
1 Dec 08
i have a son an he is 7,my second child is girl an she is 6,and my last child is 2 on november 12,2008.the two last set is a big gap between them two,
• United States
1 Dec 08
My younger brother is four years older than me and my younger brother is four years younger than me.. so my mom had a gap of eight years between us all. And I have an older sister who is only 20 months older than me. She and I are the closest between all the siblings, and I think it is due the fact we are so close in age. I want to have kids approximately 2 years a part. I want them to be able to play well together and get along like friends.
@sweetie1026 (1723)
• Philippines
1 Dec 08
I do, my girls' age gap is big. The gap between my eldest and my second is 7years, then the gap between my second and youngest daughter is 8 years. When i was raising them and giving birth to them, it was almost like am starting all over again. It was kind of tough but in a way it was better because the older one is old enough and needs a little less attention than the new baby. But it was hard on my part physically,because i get a couple of years older each time i get pregnant and age in pregnancy is a big factor.
@Erssyl (617)
• Philippines
1 Dec 08
My eldest daughter is aged 33 followed by a son who is now 29 next is another daughter again aged 28.I thought she was the last then came another son who is now 15.I don't think there is an ideal age gap.Maybe God gave this gap for us to still have a child with us now that the three have their own family.
@Sreekala (29845)
• India
1 Dec 08
I agree with you, the ideal age gap between the children is 2-3. I have seen some children with age gap of 10-12 and I think it is really good because the elder is able to look after the younger one when the Mom is busy. My elder one is 7 year old and younger one is 19 months old now. So there is an age gap of 6 years.
@deebomb (15322)
• United States
1 Dec 08
I have 2 boys that are 18 months apart then there is 12 between my youngest son and my oldest daughter. 21 months between my younger daughter and her sister. It seemed like I was pregnant all the time. Then there were diapers and bottles for 6 years. When I look back I don't remember it being difficult having then so close. but I really feel sorry for mothers when I see some with little ones like that. By the way I didn't have any help either. Their father didn't change diapers of give them a bottle. The two middle ones were very close when they were younger. They are all up in their fourtys now.
@GADHISUNU (2164)
• India
1 Dec 08
Large My son is 20 and my daughter 10. Is that large?
@sacmom (14314)
• United States
1 Dec 08
There is a small age gap between my kids compared to you. LOL My kids are 3 years apart. Though my husband would love for us to have another. If I were to get pregnant now, there would be quite a gap between the three of them. My sister and I are 2 1/2 years apart. My husband and his brother are 18 months apart, I believe, and he (my husband) and his sister are 5 years apart.
@up9nine (38)
• China
1 Dec 08
i dont think there is gap between two children in a family,,,,if there is,may be age isnt the issue,,,i think the character is the problem,,,i think,,you'd better let the big bro to take care of the little one,,it's will make the big one fell theresponsibility, fell he has been grown up,,on the other hand,,,the little will also fell happiness that he has a bro!
• China
1 Dec 08
Now i am 24 years old, and my brother is 21 years old. We have 3 years gap,but i do not think it is a ideal gap. For our age is so near, so when we go to school, the load of my parents is very large. And when i graduated, i can eran money, for our age is so near, still i cam not solve the econimic problem. For when he need money, i also need.
@Modestah (11192)
• United States
1 Dec 08
hello Maximax8 Like you, I have a sizable gap between my children - my eldest is 19 and my youngest is 6! I have another who is 13. I have had a few losses in between each of them, hence the spacing. my mother has a sister 19 years her junior.