Doesn't scare you that one day the person you love most will just leave you?

in love - you and me against the world.
Philippines
November 30, 2008 11:22am CST
There are just a lot of things that are going on in my life and that's probably why this question's been bugging me recently. I had lunch with my friends from school and this was one of our topic "BEING DEPENDENT TO ANOTHER PERSON IN A RELATIONSHIPS". Probably to one of them it was bad and to the other seem to be good. But what if the bad side of it happen to me? What if I became too dependent on my partner and he will leave me afterwards? Sounds odd but it's a thought and every single thought needs to be pondered upon.
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22 responses
• Philippines
30 Nov 08
Not at all, i think its part of the game, the person i dearly cared and loved just left me a month ago, I'm so disappointed on my self and confused, I don't have any idea what had happened, she just said "I'm Far". I don't understand, i always have time to visit her, and always give a present when we see each other. But I can't do nothing I respect her decision, i know there's no permanent in this world, some good things never last. All we can do it to accept, and have the courage to face the pain and move on with our lives.
• Philippines
1 Dec 08
sorry to hear that! thank you for your comment! maybe she find better than you that's why she said "im far" or maybe she has a reason, we dont know. have a happy christmas ahead.
@eynjel05 (444)
• Philippines
30 Nov 08
I understand your question. Nobody wants to be left by the person that they love most. As much as possible we wanted to live life forever with the one we truly love. But the reality is: "Theres no permanent things in this world except for changes" If comes the time that we need to be separated with them, then lets just think that God wants that to happen because he have a very good reason for that. And he have a better plans in our life. Just smile. Enjoy life with that someone that you love while you're still together.
• Philippines
1 Dec 08
hi eynjel05! thank you for your post! have a nice day!
• India
22 Dec 08
Ya thats a though which most of us are afraid of and i think it really affects our relationship with the person and you should enjoy with the person every moment with him/her and not think of these things since these really affect your realtionship and i think if he leaves you he's really unlucky since you really love him and he doesnt realize your love and i think you should not care about these sort of relationships since it affects only you and not the person who broke your relationship...happy mylotting...
• Philippines
1 Dec 08
if we let worry over power us we can never be happy in life. well it is a possibility but why think of something negative you would just kill your self slowly with that thought even if it is not true. just be the person that your partner loved and as much as possible try to work things out. remember that trust, love, faithfulness and respect are important in every relationship. we just have to remember that being in a relationship is a gamble that would be a game that you have to play and it has its risk. don't worry on it too much!!! enjoy life!!!
• Philippines
2 Dec 08
Yes, I agree with you that it really matters to us even if you're not really depending on that person but you are really in love with him..
@piya84 (2581)
• India
22 Dec 08
hi ranjet we are in relationship to give each other support and complete each other.Nthing wrong in depending on each other.But one shud balance thing dats what i think .I mean this depending shud nt become too much dat one partner start thinking other as a burden.
@Rozie37 (15499)
• Turkmenistan
1 Dec 08
I think that you would need to elaborate to what extent you are dependent on this person. Is it financial? Emotional? Physical? Mentally? If you are obsessed with a person and feel that you can not go on if they are not a part of your life, then there is a serious problem. I use to have this problem, because of abandonment in my childhood. It seemed impossible for me to let people go, no matter what went wrong in the relationship. Then I found Jesus and he filled that void in my life. He has proven to me time and again that he will never leave me or forsake me. No one else will ever have his place in my life.
@munhozmib (3837)
• Sao Paulo, Brazil
1 Dec 08
Hello, ranjetjoy. You should not be thinking about that. Everybody will leave one day. You must live the NOW. And, right now, you are with your partner. Just be prepared to live by yourself when he leaves. You do not depend on him. You are free. You were not born with him, and you will not die with him. You can live by yourself, but you chose to be with him. It is not like a need. It is a desire. Your desire is to be by his side, but it doesn't mean you can't be alone. You can, and, if needed, you will live by yourself. Respectfully, Munhozmib.
@cybersoft01 (1284)
• India
1 Dec 08
When I was young and was in love I was always scared that I might lose my love. But not now that I am married. I also wrote a poem about my loneliness. I can send you if you want.
• Qatar
1 Dec 08
Nobody wants to be left by the person we love. There's no permanent thing in this world. If this will happen, lets just think that GOD has another reason, anothe plans in our life. We should be ready and accept and have the courage to feel the pain and move on. Happy lotting!
@luvandpower (2048)
• United States
1 Dec 08
it is possible it will happen, you must be in love with him, and he must be in love with you...true love is the chains that bond the greatness of two together, to die for one another. keep that love as chained, and keep that love as bonded as possible and it will never happen. have not those thoughts and thw world around you comes into crystal clear. love is love.
@faizi1 (157)
• Pakistan
1 Dec 08
my dear ranjetjoy don't take tension relax and re cool if you hear that every thng is fair in love and war so when you make friendship with your choosen partner so you must know about his nature that which type of that man so in friendship some times the you sacrifices your self and some time the other one scaarifice her self and dont take tension it will be alright by the passage of time.
• Philippines
1 Dec 08
There's always a possibility.. People always change and even the most amazing person might turn out to be the person you dread about one day. So I guess, you'll just have to be prepared, without being paranoid:) And you always need, no matter how much you love the other person, to keep something to yourself. Don't worry, even if he does leave, you'll always have yourself with you-- that is enough for you to go on and live again..
• China
1 Dec 08
i have the same concern too. i thought about it a lot before and in the end i found that the only thing i can do is to have more interests, make more friends. do not let him be the center of my life. i am not living for him only. by doing this, i felt free. i do not need to worry about whether he will leave me one day or whether i can live without him. suppose he left me, i will be sad. but life will continue~ life is short.
@Celanith (2327)
• United States
1 Dec 08
I have been married almost 40 years to my one and only husband and we love each other deeply and I know there a good probablity one or the other of us will one day not be here. Not because one of us walks out but because one of us is no longer in this world and living. This makes me very sad and I think about it and cry. It makes my husband sad and sometimes we cry togather. We pray it is a long time away yet. He is 59 and I am 59. So I hope it is far away down the road and that when it comes we will be ready and have lots of family and friends we will have around.
@xParanoiax (6987)
• United States
30 Nov 08
Ha, the people I love most tend to just leave me. While underneath my bravado there is an underlying current of insecurity, I mostly try not to let it bother me and take the appropriate steps if and when they do this. I let everyone know upfront that I have abandonment and trust issues, but I HATE the idea of being seen as clingy when I'm a normally laid back type...so normally I don't have that much of a problem with becoming dependent on those I love -- (although, this probably ties into my "must always protect and be there to take care of others" combined with, "Don't be a burdon. Take care of everything by yourself."...thing. ^_^'). Overall, even though this isn't a huge issue for me, my own underlying problems make even this probably not a very healthy thing. I think alot of people worry about those they love just leaving them. We all have our own issues and insecurities, and there's usually some reason hiding back in one's history with this thing. If you're worried about it, then make sure you're OKAY if they just leave. I know it's rarely ever a GREAT thing when this happens, you're usually miserable, but you gotta be able to take care of yourself. That never stops being important.
@xavier_sh (222)
• Nepal
1 Dec 08
Yes, i scare if two important person inmy life. they are my husband and my son. My heart severe with fear when I think that they would leave me. Once I dreamt that they were leaving me and I cried in my dream but i was also crying in my reality. that night i could not sleep the wholenight and felt unhappy for the while next day.when my husband knew that he was amazed that i was serious for the dream and he made me feel good by saying that theyare not going to \leave me at any cost to the end of our life.
• United States
1 Dec 08
i don't worry that my boyfriend will leave me. however, he is 14 years older than me and i think about having to live without him all the time. not to be negative, but chances are, he will die before i do. and i don't know what i'll do. he means everything to me. he's my life. i hope he'll marry me someday and i don't want to be alone. but i have hadd lots of important people in my life leave me and it's scary. it's scary and it hurts. but it hurts less as time goes on. you still feel it, but the pain is not as sharp.
@rcfranz (180)
• Philippines
1 Dec 08
no,in fact i already set my mind that someday we will be parted due some circumstances of life...everything has a plan,maybe theres a better life after these one...
• Philippines
1 Dec 08
then, dont be too dependent on him. just live your life then enjoy his company.. if u two were to be together then act as if ur time is not mostly dedicated to him but also to urself.