Back from my surgery
By suspenseful
@suspenseful (40192)
Canada
December 1, 2008 3:01pm CST
I went in this morning for my surgery. We could not go across on the walk way because it does not open until eight and not only that, we parked on the wrong side of the building so we had to walk all the way to the proper entrance through the building. I told my husband it is at 820 Sherbrooke, but no he insisted at parking at the other end. But at least that parking was cheaper, but with him using a walker, it is kind of slow. Well we had a two hour wait for surgery, and then they did it. They put me partially under, but it felt like the needle in my right arm was there for a good two hours. So when I woke up, I checked and my br*st was still there and my lump was removed.
But it hurt so they gave me tylenol. Now I have to go back in three weeks for a checkup. Then when I got home, my husband said they would told have told me right away, I said if they did that they would have done more surgery like chop chop.
So for those of you who had surgery, does your husband sort of make you more scared when they say statements like what the doctors should have done, or what they should have asked or said?
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14 responses
@bfarrier1 (2082)
• United States
2 Dec 08
Hello I am glad your back and all is well,I havent had surgery since my husband and myself have been married but he was with me when I had my lump removed and he was great,I was put totally out but as soon as I was awake they released me so he took care of me the rest of the day while I slept it off, at the time he was my boyfriend ,good luck on your return visit.You have agreat night.
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@suspenseful (40192)
• Canada
2 Dec 08
My husband cannot do much since he had a stroke. He kept telling me to take it easy, which for me is impossible. But I wish he would not give me the feeling that my lump has little roots growing and that will spread and make more lumps. Look I am into science fiction, but well that does sound scarey.
@marketing07 (6266)
• South Korea
2 Dec 08
hello,good to see you after your surgery,well when it comes to surgery my husband never say anything that makes me scared because he is worried that i might not go for surgery..takecare have a nice day
@Grandmaof2 (7578)
• Canada
1 Dec 08
NO I can honestly say my husband keeps his pie hole shut whenever surgery is even mentioned. He knows I'm scared spitless so he says nothing and I like that in him.
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@suspenseful (40192)
• Canada
2 Dec 08
That's the best way to be. I have had a rather bad experience when they did not fix a problem and only made it worse, so as long as one says "good luck, you'll be fine." I feel a bit better.
@carmelanirel (20942)
• United States
1 Dec 08
Hey, any chance my husband has to make me scared or upset and feel bad, he jumps at the chance..I don't know what to tell you unless you can find a good friend next time to take you..That is what I would do, especially after one episode years ago on the way to the hospital for surgery and by the time I was there, I was practically a nervous wreck..
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@suspenseful (40192)
• Canada
1 Dec 08
We hard hardly been home when he asked if they got everything. He said that when they removed his polyps (yes, I could have gotten pregnant then and borne a child, but he had to be in the hospital then, darn it!) they did not remove all of them. I told him that of course they got the whole lump, if they did not, it would have been a cancer. Yes here is the guy who parks the wrong place and when I was done and we had to walk back, he lost the way and had to ask and you are talking to a lady who gets lost in a waiting room.
@bellis716 (4799)
• United States
3 Dec 08
I'd like my husband to go with me to my doctor appointments, but he misunderstands so much that I'm afraid of what he might tell the neighbors. Many years ago when I had a hysterectomy, he told people that I had cancer. I asked the doctor at my next appointment and was told that I DID NOT have cancer. He had no idea where my husband could have gotten that idea. I'd like someone to go with me that I could depend on to help me remember exactly what the doctor said. I'd take notes if I could, but my disease has left me unable to write.
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@deebomb (15304)
• United States
1 Dec 08
I'm Glad your back from your surgery and doing will as can be expected. I haven't had that kind of surgery and don't have a husband, But if I did and he was saying some of the things your's is and it's scaring you don't listen to him. Just give him an ahhuh now and then as he talks. it probably will take a while for you to get the results back from the labs. They did send the lump to a lab didn't they just to make sure the lump is begine? any way take care and try not to worry too much.
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@Thoroughrob (11742)
• United States
10 Jan 09
Hopefully you have gotten good news and have fully recovered. I am just catching up on posts.
@slickcut (8140)
• United States
2 Dec 08
Some men( well i say a lot of men have no tact whatsoever,they have no idea that they scare you...I am sure that it is just fine..They always test for a malinantancy thing while you are under, & if it was they would have done the chop chop like you said..I am positive that it was ok since they only removed the lump....
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@LittleMel (8742)
• Canada
2 Dec 08
I had a few surgeries before but nothing serious
hubby was always concerned about me taking more rests at home but there was a time he went home hurry because I almost fainted
I don't remember him saying anything about what doctor supposed to do
unless one time it was unbelievably painful I had to go for check up sooner
@williamjisir (22819)
• China
2 Dec 08
Hello suspenseful. I am so glad that you had a smooth surgery this morning. I hope that you will feel alright soon. Good luck to you and take care.
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@dragon54u (31633)
• United States
1 Dec 08
No, mine (ex) just always said stuff like--it's all done, get over it.
I'm awfully glad that you're okay and nothing was wrong but a lump. God bless you.
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@miraclefreebies (3043)
• United States
1 Dec 08
The only surgery I had since I been with my husband is the c-section I had 9 months ago. He was in the surgery room with me during delivery, then about 12 hours after delivery while I was still in the hospital, he said "baby I seen everything. You should of seen your stomach cut wide open. I don't see how they sewed it back up. They might have to tear it loose and sew it back up to make sure it's done right."
Do you know how bad I wanted to tear his head off?.. I would of snatched him up but the stitches wouldn't let me. That's scary.
@ladynetz (968)
• Canada
2 Dec 08
You now, as we get older, we want to let he others hear our opinion, specially because no one is interested.
So, the spouse is always there, and can hear what we have to say.
Husbands are mostly like that, they are "macho", think they're better and know evrything.
Hope that everything went fine with your surgery and no need for anything else.Usually, in the time you were"under", another sample is taken and checked on the spot. So, if you're after, and not too much taken, it should be it.
You're brave and went through something very hard for most women.
Tell him to sut up and be considerate and supportive.That's what he's suppose to do, not frighten you.
And you, don't listen to him so much...
Be well!!!!
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