is it okey if a guy just suddenly disappear?

For me, it's really not okay for a guy to just suddenly disappear. It makes them look so weak. As if they cannot fight for what they believe in. That makes them a jerk most of the time. A GENTLEMAN would have he guts to tell the girl and not just leave.

well for me its defiantely not okay for the guy to leave without saying anything to the girl...first they want to have a relationship and then they want to run away whenever they think it is time for them to leave the relationship? thats not fair. everyone needs a fair explanation of whats going on rather than leave the other partner in absolute mystery as to what really happened and what actually was the problem...that ways people would stop blaming themselves for something they might not have really done...and if the guys have the guts to get into the relationship by asking the girl out then he should also have enough guts to tell the girl if he doesnt want to be in the relatioship anymore and give a good reason for it too... once in a relationship you become answerable to your better half !!

Well, I don't think it's okay for a guy or a girl to just suddenly disappear. I think both should take care of either's feeling, no matter a guy or a girl. I think it depends what kind of girls are around you, I have met some male friends who really hurt their girlfriends.

Hi this is cherry responding... I don't think a guy should just disappear in a relationship. I he really has fallen out of love for the girl then he must at least have the decency to tell her how he feels. Its true that its very common for girls to break up the relationship or has the last say regarding the relationship but I think nowadays, it works both ways. Just advice to those guys who are the ones ending the relationship, just be careful and take it slow so as not to hurt us girls that much! =)

Well, not all guys are no expressive..There are some guys who also have a guts to be the first one to ask for a break-up especially if they don't love anymore the girl or they were just very paranoid.. Anyway, Yes! is my answer to your question.. It is okey for a guy to just disappear if they want to end the relationship already but make sure that you won't come again... For me, if a guy will just leave me without any words then that only shows that he don't love me anymore and he is very weak because he can't say in my face that he wants to end the relationship.. I will think on him as a weak man and don't have a sense of commitment and responsibility since he is scared of what will be my reaction or what will I going to say.. Both men and women are just the same in ending up a relationship.. There are also some women who just run away or disappear just to end the relationship.. It's not just a guy who made that kind of actions or girl.. Both men and women can certainly do it depending on how he/she is strong in doing it.. But for me, it is good if a men or a women will say it than running away because telling it in face to face is not that hurt than just being disappear without knowing any reasons.. And lastly, running away sometimes doesn't have a clear end of relationship because it might that one of them is still expecting for something like the guy/ girl will return sooner or later.. There's no clear break-up..

I think man's suddenly disappear can mess up the relationship. If it goes to the end of the relationship, it's better to have a deep talk and make a descion. Girl will worry about man's suddenly disappear.

I don't think its ok, I know guys can have a hard time expressing themselves but still they owe it to the girl that they had a relationship with to at least tell her that its over. If he can't explain himself its ok, but to leave a girl wondering what happened or if they are still together or not, its unfair for the girl. What if the girl couldn't move on because she doesn't know if she will be unfaithful to the missing guy? There are many ways to tell someone goodbye, I am not saying its easy, but an sms message, email, letter, thru a common friend... etc. if guys can't do it personally, they should at least find some way to do it.

i agree.... i am that type too. if i get angry i dont talk. if i get angry i lose sommunication to them. girls are noisy. they nag, they cry, they complain and all this cinversation will end up on why are you bnot like this and the girl is the one we guys should pitied. when a conversation gets out of control i walked out. if i get pissed i turn off my cell and give me time for myself to think. now that i am married my wife is not that talking when there is something wrong.... funny that i end up asking her whats wrong. har har har sometimes when what is not there we tend to find it.

i dont think its a good idea for guys just disappear or vanish without even saying Goodbye.i've experienced such nonsense.the guy i met for the first time left impolitely.thats really rude.always remember that most girls like sweet talkers. say something nice but not too far.nothing cannot be forgotten.something tell me that you have some trouble like that. good luck!

You know, with all this email, text messaging thing, if you don't have the guts to say it to her in the face, at least write her, so she will not be left feeling worthless. Like no talk, no world, no nothing? Think about how you'd feel if you were treated the same way? "What goes around, comes around", remember? Better behave nice, I'm sure everyone can fibd a way. Don't just leave without a word! This leaves scares for life. Why hurt someone? Just a simple discussion, or even a text message will turn around feelings.

I don't think it is okay for a girl or a guy to just vanish. If possible, discuss you problems together. Vanishing will not solve the problem the two of them had. And I think, to disappear is to be a coward.

IT'S NOT OKAY. you're leaving the girl hanging and clueless. you cannot just do that to any person for that matter. just put yourself on the shoes of the person you left, what would you feel? it's better to tell it in front of your face rather that disappearing just like that without saying anything. this is so unfair.

actually i dont know but i think you should before disappear..it will not hurt your girl or someone..

man just check here on my lot thred called "BEING A SINGLE MOTHER" i am unble to copy paste link here...as i havent yet reach up to 500 post...but u will get most of the answers there. it realy heartbreaking!! its nt at all ok...its btter u solve relationship issues on daily basis...it saves relationship from falling apart...or even if break girls are ready for dat mentaly..n it dunno heart dat much...suddenly disappear gives mental shocks!

I dont think it is alright. I think for some they need to know the reason to have closure and to get on with their life to begin with. I also think that alot of guys use that as an excuse and a way out of having to face a person. Dont get me wrong some females probably do to and I believe it is wrong of them too. As for the not wanting to hurt someone else, I dont think that anyone wants to but to be truthful its life and there are times when someone is going to get hurt. I think anyone that is breaking up with someone has to have the guts and courage to let that person know why.