Would you ask your partner to convert his or her religion?

@ronaldinu (12439)
Malta
December 3, 2008 2:04pm CST
A friend of mine fell out with her Muslim boyfriend. He wants to have kids from her but she does not want to since she has already three kids of her own. She is a 37 year old separated woman. I do understand her position. Now he wants her back. To make difficult things for him she said that if he wants her back he has to convert to Catholicism and to inform his family about his conversion. She knows how devout muslim he is and that his family would be shocked. Would you ask your partner to convert his or her religion?
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@rocketj1 (6960)
• United States
3 Dec 08
This is why I believe that religiously mixed marriages are very difficult to maintain. If it was important to her, she should have asked him to convert BEFORE they got married. Just my opinion.
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@hmkoct5 (2065)
• United States
3 Dec 08
No, I would not demand that my partner convert to my religion. I think that if you know what religion a person is at the beginning of the relationship, it is not fair to expect them to desert their beliefs simply to suit yourself. If my partner decided on their own that they would like to convert, it would be different.
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• Norway
3 Dec 08
nope, i wont ask my partner to convert from his religion to mine. When I loved him that includes respecting him, his beliefs and embracing whoever he is. There maybe complications sometimes because there are certain things that your partner is doing, that you dont like but its just a matter of understanding and respecting each other to make everything works.
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3 Dec 08
Hi ronaldinu, That relationship is doomed, I don't think anyone should ask of a partner to change their religion, it would sort of balckmail in the first place and I really hope she don't have children with him, it won't be good for either of them. I wouldn't chane for anyone and I don't expect anyone to change their belief. Tamara
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@snowy22315 (99878)
• United States
4 Dec 08
That is a big difference. I think I would be more interested in converting to a religion that was closer to my own such as protestant to catholic or hindu to buddisht etc. Even Jewish to Chrsitian is closer than Muslim to Catholic.
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@murderistic (2278)
• United States
4 Dec 08
No, my husband is Muslim and I am a Christian and we would never ask one another to convert. In fact it wouldn't be possible for either of us to convert because we would only be lying to ourselves. Converting for anything other than true change in beliefs is in my opinion a shame to God.
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@ellie333 (21018)
3 Dec 08
Hi Ronaldinu,I personally would not ask that of a partner or even of my children, if they chose to live by the ways of a certain religion that is their choice and it is not for me to force my own beliefs upon them. This actually sounds like emotional blackmail and maybe it would be better if these people chose to accept each others differences and move on in life alone rather than both want differnent things together. Huggles. Ellie :D
@Galena (9120)
3 Dec 08
no. I wouldn't. his soul is his soul. my soul is my soul. we bind them together in marriage, but who am I to tell another person to change their truly held religious beliefs. If I LOVE someone, I can't do that to them.
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@aidenw (632)
• United States
3 Dec 08
that would depend on what my religion was. if i was a christian/catholic or a muslim i most definitely would ask my partner to convert as i would believe otherwise they would be damned to hell for all eternity. i wouldn't want that to happen to my parnet would i? but if i belonged to another religion i most likely would not. i personally would not try to convert anybody to any religion (partner or otherwise) because i believe religion is a personal matter and choice. however, i agree that a marriage between 2 people of different religions may be hard ezpecially if one belongs to one of the religions i mentioned above and they're very strong in their convictions.
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@Pose123 (21660)
• Canada
3 Dec 08
Hi ronaldinu, No, I would not ask my pardner to convert, but that is because I believe there is good in all religions. I agree it can cause a lot of problems unless both are very understanding. Blessings.
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@p1kef1sh (45696)
3 Dec 08
I am Anglican, The Boss Roman Catholic Ronaldinu. We had long discussions about whether I would convert, there was NO discussion about The Boss converting. It was all led by her parents. However, we agreed to stay as we were and bring up any children as Roman Catholics. Which is what we did. It was never a show stopper for us, but I was surprised at just how vehemently my conversion was argued (and no doubt prayed for too) for.
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@tryxiness (4548)
• Philippines
19 Jan 09
I don't think that I would do this to a guy. But I guess, I would find a way where our religion can be "flexible" with each other. Where it could negotiate.
• United States
24 Dec 08
I think she said it just to make him go away.I think it was the perfect revenge. I think it isn't right for either partner to ask the other to convert.Religion is a personal thing. The Only reason to convert is because you, yourself want to convert.
@exodamus (1627)
• India
12 Dec 08
no never. I know a few couples who believe in different religions and continue to do so. They have never wanted the other to convert to the same religion. Basically you should respect each others religion. For another example take the super star in our country India- Mr Shah Rukh Khan or the king khan. He is a devout Muslim and his wife a Hindu. They are having a good understanding. so one should not ask the other to convert to ones religion if the other person is believing in another religion.
@santuccie (3380)
• United States
7 Dec 08
That's a tough question. I'm not well-versed in the Qur'an, but doesn't Islam order the killing of followers who convert away?
• India
7 Dec 08
Hmm... I think this girl doesn't really want him. She told him to convert only to get rid of him. :) Cheers and happy mylotting
• United States
6 Dec 08
i wouldnt ever ask my partner to do that.. he didnt ask me to do it so why should i ask him?? (of course now we both are the same religion now) to me religion is too personal to just be whatever because of other people etc and should be taken seriously
@mtdewgurl74 (18159)
• United States
5 Dec 08
No, If I feel in love with my husband the way he was why change that? I wouldn't try to. We might not agree on things religiously and that might cause strain but I would also let him know that I would not interfere with his beliefs.
• United States
5 Dec 08
I don't think it's wise for people of different faiths to get seriously involved with one another. I know in some cases it works; but if both are passionate about their faith, which trumps the other, particularly when children are involved? I also don't think forcing your partner to accept your faith works. They might do it out of love for you, but they're not really believers. If you can persuade through evidence or gentle debate, and your partner comes to agree with you, that's okay.
@kun2349 (23381)
• Singapore
4 Dec 08
Cross religion marriage is always a problem for most ple.. And it's much worse when one believes alot in their religion.. But for most muslim, when it comes to marriage, no matter what, it's has to be their spouse whom has to convert their religion to islam.. But how come this is the other way round?? it's kind of weird, unless his religion is not islam, but other religions??