Now, I doubt if there really is "Friends Forever".

hi i can totally understand what you are going through.. all of us change... sometimes we end up doing things which we never had imagined to do do.. let your friend do whatever she likes doing.. shes your friend.. this doesnt means that she should not be doing things you dont like.. those things may be wrong as per you.. but if she likes them.. let her do it.. if its wrong.. she ll only learn something.. i understand that you care of her and wouldnt let her do things that you perceive as wrong... but please dont judge her... things change, people change and their thoughts change... i, personally, am very unpredictable... and would myself not know how i would act in a particular situation.. i may say something and do something else.. and believe me my frnds get pissed off because of this.. i accept their suggestions but do things i like doing... just be with her... support her in whatever she does.. am sure things will be fine... tc..

how about this for enlightment yes friends last forever I met my best friend whern I was 10 an 32 years later we are still best friends there are times we don't agree on things but we just know its more important to not dwell on whatever we dont agree on she is the godmother to my oldest daughter also I hope your friend comes around it is painfull to lose a freind by the way check your friend invites i will be there

Hi friend! at first I would say; you made a mistake in the first place by possesing the thought that a friend would las forever, but nature doesn't allow that to happen. In life there is a lot of lessons to learn. The truth is; no one can be trusted; not because they (who we consider trusted) can not make themselves trusted, but because of the fact that anyone can fail, but the only one who cannot fail is God. Therefore to get a long-lasting friend; I think it takes time and quality relationship and most importantly prayers, cos prayers can help shape the person we dearly need to be close to. Anyone can change at any time. It is difficult to meet someone whom you can be friends forever, because our world is dynamic and you should try and accept everything that have happened and face the future. Try as much as you can to stop feeling humiliated. I have lot to say, but I hope you understand the little one I have made clear. Thanks and take good care of yourself. Seasons greetings

Personally i still do believe in friends forever. Even my friends has neglected me at times.. So do i, to them.. This is unavoidable as we grew up and have our own responsibilities and problems.. The thing i believe most is being there.. BEing there when he or she needs me.. I can only do that much within my means.. So are my friends.. And when they really cant be there, I do try to understand the problems that they may be facing that they may not be there at all times.. Sometimes being a friend do means understanding and be in their shoes at times... It also means forgiving to him or her when they do make mistakes and be stubborn at times.. Everyone of us takes on a different space to grow and mature.. We understand things differently too.. I do understand that there are times where there are minorities that does not worth that kind of trust and understanding. The thing i do know is try to wait for her patiently.. She will turn back.. I am not saying in the near future kind of thing. I am saying forever. There will be a time where she would come round and realise that you havent left all these while. She/He would be grateful. Sometimes, we need to give a little more than what we expect in return. I guess I am the stupid minority where I believe in this kind of thing. But this is my 2 cents worth.

Hi lloydbelleza. I can understand your frustration right now. I really don't want to criticize friendship or its credibility but I have had some experiences in life that I am not happy about when it comes to friends. I am now forty years old and I have a family of my own and have become content with what I have. If I have friends that's great and if no one keeps in touch with me then so be it. I know that I have tried my best in life to be a good friend and made calls and sent letters without responses or just people not seeming willing to spend a couple of minutes just to have a conversation. Yes it does hurt when you feel that a good friend was going to last forever. I wouldn't say to necessarily give up in your hopes of sustaining a good friendship. It does sound like you are feeling hurt right now. You still have a lot of life ahead of you and more people to meet. My experiences may be different then what yours will be. I do wish you a lot of luck and I hope that you find a good friendship that you deserve.

Try God, I know you miss your friend and you know something is wrong with her, just pray hard, all things are possible for those who believe in God, Friends will always be there, even if they're not around to see you they will always remember the times you've shared together and God only knows one of these days your friend will be knocking on your door, I'll pray for you and friend... Good luck

I see you have got a lot of good advice already, but heres my 2cents. Having been there, kind of done that, I can say most girls are very unpredictable upto 22yrs. You can't take anything they say seriously, cos they change and reinvent themselves, their needs, dreams, visions, everything. If the girl you mention is of this age,you should take things slowly and not get all serious and committed (read scare her off) If she is over it, then probably like the other posters say, give her space, you take things slow and prepare for the best. Good luck, whatever happens!

I'm sorry you are sad,hurting and in pain over your friendship,I know how you feel,but at the same time i know people do change,grow and refocus their lives,I have a best friend whom i have been friends with for over 20+ years,I love her dearly always will,but we did grow in different directions about 5 years ago,we still speak ever now and then when we have time just as we did for hours and hours,but we wasn't who either of us started out as all those years ago,heck not even the same as a year ago,as that old saying goes,some people come into your life for a season,a reason,and some forever,always friends to be found everywhere just got to be open and receiving towards them.

This is so sad. I'm sorry that your heart is in pain. But yes, we must all let someone be as they wish. You can only guide a person and lead them in certain ways, but they must be allowed to be what they are or be able to find themself when the time comes that they are unsure. This happens with many, many people. They do for others most of their life, not thinking of themself for the most part and then walla one day they think to themself that they need to start thinking of what they need and want as they have always put themself on the back burner. Doing ofr others is great but we must do things for ourself too or we wind up doing things that some will not like. I found myself wanting to do things for me, for a change about 2 years ago. I'm 52 and have done for everyone else all of my life not thinking of myself and leaving me until las tor not at all. Therefore I know how others feel in this position. I however have not put others aside, I still do for everyone. I just included myself and my needs in the mix. This is apparently not what your friend has done. She has grown and went in a different direction than you. Either you join her and try to be happy or try to find a place in there for you somewhere, or leave her to what she is doing. I suggest that you speak to her and express your concerns, as an old friend. Let her know how you feel and that you miss the relationship that you had. That you would like to be included in her "new" life to a certain degree. A nice letter might be approprient if you find it hard to talk to her. Best wishes in this and I hope you find your happiness and a happy medium with your old friend.

You know,people like that are not worth wasting time on.If she's that insensitive to what you or others feel,just let her be and dump her.I'm sure you have better friends out there who will me more than caring.

sometimes I doubt it too how can best friends who get married and have each life or may be they are in different country still communicate I think it possible but it just about formality not all of her problem she will tell to her best friend because she has husband now and may be she has new friend there

sometime we all do nonsense in lyf...our brain stop working and we end up doing what we dont want to do actualy..this happen sometime..the only way to get out is..forgive urself...begin a fresh lyf..u can support her only..but she has to stand up her own.

Well, in my experience, friend drift apart. When I got pregnant, I lost a lot friends because they were just not interested in my life anymore. Now some call me if they want something, so I just blow them off. I don't do the whole fairweather friends thing.

I am saddened to hear that your relationship with your best friend became cold. If she could only realize how lucky she is to have you as her best friend. It would be better if both of you can talk things through and see what mistakes might have been done along the way. With that, you can iron things out. Goodluck. Hopefully everything will be alright between you and your bestfriend.

i beleive that too ... friends are really so hard to find especially the real ones...and i just couldn't find any ever since

friends are almost neva forever im srry to say. foreva is a very long time. some friends can be thier for years maybe even tens of years but that is still not foreva and in most cases they dont even last a half a lifetime. many things can cause this including either 1 of u to move,just a single fight no matter how big or small, and so much more i recently am starting to lose my best friend ive had for years now but we r just starting to go our seperate ways now after i moved and most of my friends have stabbed me in the back even some of my closest ones that were like family to not only me but my entire family yet they kicked us out of the house (we lived with them cause we didnt have a home of our own) even though we had been payin our way we paid a 700 dollar rent (note the only check we had was a disability ssi check) and thn they kicked us out and took my moms truck. im srry if i seem a bit negitive and have a bad outlook and im not sayin this is gonna happen between all friends im just stating what happened to me just as an example of what happened to me and i now have alot of trouble trusting any1 especailly close friends cause if they stab u in the back thy r in the position to do the most damage because they are much closer to you and know alot more about what makes you tick plus they can shatter your good outlook on life and ruin you if they know how to get to you in a way that makes that happen

hi lloyd. sorry about your loss, if you do consider it one. anyway, there are no permanent friends in life only temporary allies and enemies. sleep on it.

I have 3 very good friends that I have been friends with for over 20 years 1 of them almost 30.. granted there are times when some of us argue and sometimes months can go by with out contact but we are always t remain friends I think- it is fated.

i don't believe in BFF things...people nowadayz are changing due to time...i've once experienced the BFF thing...and it trapped me...and now, i'm not into it...really don't believe in it...but i do believe in friends forever...i'm making a lot of friends...but i'm not sharing my secrets...

the problem is not yours,its her lost of losing you! let her discover what ever she wanted to do...anyway you never failed of telling her about the consecuences she may made...your the best friend she ever had,she will remember that for sure!