I'm in Love With My Own Cousin

I dont think its an incest really. Incest is among the closest relatives, like parents or siblings. One of my cousin is married to his cousin, I dont know how this happend, but they were always very open about this and didnt hide it. So people accepted it..what else can you do really. As for me, I wouldnt do it, I cant even stand an idea if someone was my distant family it would still be too close lol. Family is family and thats a NO in my book.

Incest laws are a little strange, because even step brothers and sisters, with no blood connection, cannot marry. Anthropologists have determined that ancient incest laws were not about genetics, but about creating family ties between neighbouring tribes, in an attempt to avoid wars and create economic partnerships, so they created laws or customs to encourage the unmarried to seek partners outside their own tribe. Those customs have now become so universal that most people see them as natural. I saw a television documentary recently about a father and daughter who had been separated for many years due to parental divorce, who met up and fell in love. They now have a child (or perhaps two, I can't quite remember). Their point was that without the close ties you get in a normal family relationship those feelings of yuk didn't develop. They may as well have been strangers as far as they were concerned. The child is apparently OK, but then it tends to take a couple of generations of close inbreeding to create real problems, unless there is a recessive gene in the equation. I seem to be missing the yuk factor. Incest doesn't fuss me at all as long as it is consensual and between adults, but then I never had a sister, and certainly didn't fancy my mother that way, so it isn't really relevant. I was in love with my aunt when I was 12, does that count? Lash

HI! Personally, I would just freak out just having the thought of it. my cousin brothers are so like brothers and they are great fun and friends but way too far being lovers! Having said this, I have a friend who has married her second cousin, which is legal in India. They are happy with a just newborn.

In some cultures it's perfectly OK to love and even marry you cousin. Science says that this close a relationship can cause problems with the offspring. Animal breeders know that this is so. In animals it's call line breeding. We don't even do that in a fourth generation relations if we know about the relationship. With our Llamas we have a limited gene pool in the US and we don't always know about the imports we are getting from S. America. this has cause quite a few genetic disorders, some very serious. Now that Llamas are worth less money there is less of this chancy breeding being done. Thank Goodness.

Wow! It's really amazing You & Me on Same Boot But You a Female & have Power But I a Male & my cousin also Don't any care me She only Just laugh at me. but I think its very hard because we Say Anything with another girls or guys but its very hard to say anything to your own relatives likes Love & likes this Because we take care our relatives more than Our friends & other Peoples are you??? have a nice day.

i think its disgusting. not only that but its unhealthy. does anyone know what happened to the egyptians?? after generation and generations of incest they basically killed their own race. all those mutated genes. how could anyone possibly be intimate with their own flesh and blood?

it kind of sounds too close for comfort. I could see if they were cousins by marriage, no blood. It's kind of like 'Flowers in the Attic' type stuff... If they had kids...yikes! Incest IS NOT BEST. It's just yuck!

Well, in certain cultures, it wouldn't be incest. For example, in India, it was quite common for a girl to marry her Mom's youngest brother. It was quite acceptable. And I know a few cousins who have been married too. So, it all depends on the culture and mindset of a particular regions. Personally, I have no problems with people's preferences. Cheers and happy mylotting

Lol. Strange situation, but nothing wrong I guess. If they are truly in love with each other and it's not infatuation or just mutual attraction, then it sure is good. I do not think this can really be called as incest. But if they both are comfortable with it, then i do not think we are none to be pointing fingers about it. bourne

well here in INDIA it is acceptable and my father has married his own sisters daughter this is legal and has nothing with immoral and stuffs like that. So my self and my brother are fine and absolutely no disability or any kind of problems. And i am loving my cousin, he is my fathers elder sisters grandson and we will marry may be within a year or two.

I can see how a crush would be possible as far as cousins are concerned but I couldn't imagine actually acting on it. If my cousin wasn't my cousin, I'd be after him, If I wasn't already with someone.

In certain religions and certain communities it is an accepted form of alliance. In India Muslims generally marry their cousins. Certain Hindu castes in Kerela (south India) also get married to their first cousins. I do not think it is right from teh genetic point of view. In breeding makes for increased genetic deformities.

Wow I don't know what to say. I would never consider incest. I think it's disgusting.

I did twice! :) We just migrated here in our town for 6 years now, we got a very big family and a lot of relatives all over the town, i had a couple of girlfriends here and two of them were my cousins, a fourth and a third degree cousin, i didn't knew they were until i met their parents and ask their roots, until we found out we were quite relatives, :), and that was funny how my cousin turned into a girlfriend and back to cousins. :)

Though the idea of incest does freak me out, in my community we can marry first cousins (though people in our generation do not do it anymore). Earlier, it was the norm for first cousins (kids of siblings of the opposite gender could marry each other. Since their fathers didn't come from the same family tree, they were not considered to be from the same family....and this marriage was allowed so that the assets would remain within the family). So, I do know of people from the previous generations who have courted and married their first cousins. Even today, if first cousins choose to marry each other, it is not considered wrong....but parents refrain from choosing their nephews and nieces as partners for their kids.

I think it is OK to love our cousin and it is not categorized as incest. If I had a cousin who loves me & whom I love too, I am sure that we can start new life after marriage. :D

She's only 16 and I hope she does the right thing and breaks it off with her cousin.I wonder if their family is aware of this! If they do know I wonder what they think. It would be a total nightmare if she got pregnant with her cousins child at such a young age. I can't believe that this type of stuff is still happening in this day and age.. ew!

Well I asked a cousin to take me to a dance once. He was reasonably cute but I was just short of a boyfriend. Never interested in him in that way. I never thought of him as anything but a cousin. He was my 1st cousin. I knew it was illegal to have romantic connection and there wasn't. I don't know any family members I would want to go out with. Sheesh they would have to be pretty good to break an incest taboo. I know some girls do but I cannot understand why they do.

Well in some cultures it is ok to be in love with your cousin. Well it's all about cultural perspective. Incest is quite disturbing but we should see that it is also accepted in some cultures.

Well, now day's I don't think it is right. I mean at the being of time when God put just two here. So on. But no I don't think it is right. I met some one that was living with her cousin and they couldn't get married as they are related. They met and didn't know they were related until she took him home. It was her Dad's side of the family and they had never met them as he didn't speak to them. See one should go to them family things once a year. Your friend onlydia. Oh yes no I don't think it is right.