I'm in Love With My Own Cousin

United States
December 9, 2008 9:08am CST
WOW! Can you imagine being in Love with any of your relatives? I received an instant message from my business associate this morning, and he pointed out to me a discussion about a 16 year old female being in love with her cousin. WOW! huh? That's NOT even ALL the story, they are actually TOGETHER, as in romance, freaky freaky, you get the point right?.. Check out the discussion here http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;_ylt=AkRoqU7oyMXrz3ORmekHD6rA7BR.;_ylv=3?qid=20081209040042AA1eP6n Tell me what you think about it. What are your thoughts on incest in general?
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43 responses
@mojcica (1511)
• Slovenia
9 Dec 08
I dont think its an incest really. Incest is among the closest relatives, like parents or siblings. One of my cousin is married to his cousin, I dont know how this happend, but they were always very open about this and didnt hide it. So people accepted it..what else can you do really. As for me, I wouldnt do it, I cant even stand an idea if someone was my distant family it would still be too close lol. Family is family and thats a NO in my book.
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• United States
10 Dec 08
Well I wouldn't do it either and wouldn't judge or criticize anyone that does it.
• Australia
10 Dec 08
But WHY is it such a problem? And yuk eeeeww isn't an answer, not that I'd expect that from you anyway. But what on earth is it about a cousin that gets so many people up in arms? A sibling or parent, OK, those I can understand, but a cousin, or even stranger, a 2nd or 3rd cousin, what is the issue? I had two very attractive female cousins (sisters), and I would've happily got involved with either without a second's hesitation, but we saw them so rarely nothing ever developed. But I know that two of my male cousins (brothers), who did see a lot of them, dated the two of them and knew them very well (Biblically speaking). The only ptoblem I ever had with that was jealousy lol. But I truly don't understand why people get so upset about it. Lash
@mojcica (1511)
• Slovenia
11 Dec 08
Hm, I never said yuk or eeeeww And I dont condemn them, its their choise. Its not against law, so its not an incest. Just for me personaly family is something I wouldnt want to have anykind of romantic relationship with. But those are just my personal feelings.
• Australia
9 Dec 08
Incest laws are a little strange, because even step brothers and sisters, with no blood connection, cannot marry. Anthropologists have determined that ancient incest laws were not about genetics, but about creating family ties between neighbouring tribes, in an attempt to avoid wars and create economic partnerships, so they created laws or customs to encourage the unmarried to seek partners outside their own tribe. Those customs have now become so universal that most people see them as natural. I saw a television documentary recently about a father and daughter who had been separated for many years due to parental divorce, who met up and fell in love. They now have a child (or perhaps two, I can't quite remember). Their point was that without the close ties you get in a normal family relationship those feelings of yuk didn't develop. They may as well have been strangers as far as they were concerned. The child is apparently OK, but then it tends to take a couple of generations of close inbreeding to create real problems, unless there is a recessive gene in the equation. I seem to be missing the yuk factor. Incest doesn't fuss me at all as long as it is consensual and between adults, but then I never had a sister, and certainly didn't fancy my mother that way, so it isn't really relevant. I was in love with my aunt when I was 12, does that count? Lash
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@mimpi1911 (25466)
• India
9 Dec 08
HI! Personally, I would just freak out just having the thought of it. my cousin brothers are so like brothers and they are great fun and friends but way too far being lovers! Having said this, I have a friend who has married her second cousin, which is legal in India. They are happy with a just newborn.
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• United States
9 Dec 08
WOW! That's interesting. Here in the states, people in general would consider it gross or yucky. I feel that people have that right to be with whoever they want to be with it.
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@mimpi1911 (25466)
• India
9 Dec 08
To me, it's yucky as well bit you never know, LOVE is most strange, isn't it! You never get the answer as to WHY, WHEN, HOW!! Have a great day.
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• United States
9 Dec 08
I guess we'll never know why or how people falls in love with their own family, well unless it's their culture to marry and make babies with them.
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@savypat (20217)
• United States
9 Dec 08
In some cultures it's perfectly OK to love and even marry you cousin. Science says that this close a relationship can cause problems with the offspring. Animal breeders know that this is so. In animals it's call line breeding. We don't even do that in a fourth generation relations if we know about the relationship. With our Llamas we have a limited gene pool in the US and we don't always know about the imports we are getting from S. America. this has cause quite a few genetic disorders, some very serious. Now that Llamas are worth less money there is less of this chancy breeding being done. Thank Goodness.
• United States
9 Dec 08
Yeah I heard a lot about that. I wonder why they have babies together knowing about the risk of the babies being disfigured. People been doing this like forever. Why?...hmmm
@savypat (20217)
• United States
9 Dec 08
The main reason this happened in this country was lack of people, We are genealogists, we notice this situation in many of the small isolated places in the country. Can you imagine what it was like to only know your family, to live so far away that you never saw other people. If you were sixteen and hormone driven you can see how this could happen. Now I think it's more a matter of custom then need.
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• United States
9 Dec 08
Oh OK I understand now.
@Tushavi (2077)
• Karachi, Pakistan
9 Dec 08
Wow! It's really amazing You & Me on Same Boot But You a Female & have Power But I a Male & my cousin also Don't any care me She only Just laugh at me. but I think its very hard because we Say Anything with another girls or guys but its very hard to say anything to your own relatives likes Love & likes this Because we take care our relatives more than Our friends & other Peoples are you??? have a nice day.
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• United States
10 Dec 08
Right on! Thanks Tushavi!
• United States
10 Dec 08
i think its disgusting. not only that but its unhealthy. does anyone know what happened to the egyptians?? after generation and generations of incest they basically killed their own race. all those mutated genes. how could anyone possibly be intimate with their own flesh and blood?
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• Australia
11 Dec 08
You basically said it yourself - after generation and generations of incest they basically killed their own race. It takes several generations for it to be "unhealthy", particularly between distant cousins. Admit it, your opposition has nothing to do with any practicalities, it has to do with a "yuk" factor. Lash
@KaMlBob (786)
• United States
9 Dec 08
it kind of sounds too close for comfort. I could see if they were cousins by marriage, no blood. It's kind of like 'Flowers in the Attic' type stuff... If they had kids...yikes! Incest IS NOT BEST. It's just yuck!
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• United States
10 Dec 08
Hehehe! I hear about the disformed kids that comes from incest. I couldn't do it myself. It's not my cup of tea.
• India
11 Dec 08
Well, in certain cultures, it wouldn't be incest. For example, in India, it was quite common for a girl to marry her Mom's youngest brother. It was quite acceptable. And I know a few cousins who have been married too. So, it all depends on the culture and mindset of a particular regions. Personally, I have no problems with people's preferences. Cheers and happy mylotting
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• India
11 Dec 08
Lol. Strange situation, but nothing wrong I guess. If they are truly in love with each other and it's not infatuation or just mutual attraction, then it sure is good. I do not think this can really be called as incest. But if they both are comfortable with it, then i do not think we are none to be pointing fingers about it. bourne
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• India
10 Dec 08
well here in INDIA it is acceptable and my father has married his own sisters daughter this is legal and has nothing with immoral and stuffs like that. So my self and my brother are fine and absolutely no disability or any kind of problems. And i am loving my cousin, he is my fathers elder sisters grandson and we will marry may be within a year or two.
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@camomom (7535)
• United States
9 Dec 08
I can see how a crush would be possible as far as cousins are concerned but I couldn't imagine actually acting on it. If my cousin wasn't my cousin, I'd be after him, If I wasn't already with someone.
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• United States
9 Dec 08
I agree. Now I know a couple of people who has a crush on their cousin or uncle, but I hadn't seen them actually act on it.
@camomom (7535)
• United States
12 Dec 08
Acting on it would just be wrong.
• India
9 Dec 08
In certain religions and certain communities it is an accepted form of alliance. In India Muslims generally marry their cousins. Certain Hindu castes in Kerela (south India) also get married to their first cousins. I do not think it is right from teh genetic point of view. In breeding makes for increased genetic deformities.
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• United States
9 Dec 08
Does any of their babies come out disfigured?
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@vanonas (949)
• United States
9 Dec 08
Wow I don't know what to say. I would never consider incest. I think it's disgusting.
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• United States
9 Dec 08
WOW! I hear ya!
@Crizhant (187)
• Philippines
9 Dec 08
I did twice! :) We just migrated here in our town for 6 years now, we got a very big family and a lot of relatives all over the town, i had a couple of girlfriends here and two of them were my cousins, a fourth and a third degree cousin, i didn't knew they were until i met their parents and ask their roots, until we found out we were quite relatives, :), and that was funny how my cousin turned into a girlfriend and back to cousins. :)
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@SViswan (12055)
• India
10 Dec 08
Though the idea of incest does freak me out, in my community we can marry first cousins (though people in our generation do not do it anymore). Earlier, it was the norm for first cousins (kids of siblings of the opposite gender could marry each other. Since their fathers didn't come from the same family tree, they were not considered to be from the same family....and this marriage was allowed so that the assets would remain within the family). So, I do know of people from the previous generations who have courted and married their first cousins. Even today, if first cousins choose to marry each other, it is not considered wrong....but parents refrain from choosing their nephews and nieces as partners for their kids.
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@Putranda (128)
• Indonesia
10 Dec 08
I think it is OK to love our cousin and it is not categorized as incest. If I had a cousin who loves me & whom I love too, I am sure that we can start new life after marriage. :D
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• United States
11 Dec 08
She's only 16 and I hope she does the right thing and breaks it off with her cousin.I wonder if their family is aware of this! If they do know I wonder what they think. It would be a total nightmare if she got pregnant with her cousins child at such a young age. I can't believe that this type of stuff is still happening in this day and age.. ew!
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@sharra1 (6341)
• Australia
10 Dec 08
Well I asked a cousin to take me to a dance once. He was reasonably cute but I was just short of a boyfriend. Never interested in him in that way. I never thought of him as anything but a cousin. He was my 1st cousin. I knew it was illegal to have romantic connection and there wasn't. I don't know any family members I would want to go out with. Sheesh they would have to be pretty good to break an incest taboo. I know some girls do but I cannot understand why they do.
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@magojordan (3252)
• Philippines
10 Dec 08
Well in some cultures it is ok to be in love with your cousin. Well it's all about cultural perspective. Incest is quite disturbing but we should see that it is also accepted in some cultures.
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@onlydia (2808)
• United States
11 Dec 08
Well, now day's I don't think it is right. I mean at the being of time when God put just two here. So on. But no I don't think it is right. I met some one that was living with her cousin and they couldn't get married as they are related. They met and didn't know they were related until she took him home. It was her Dad's side of the family and they had never met them as he didn't speak to them. See one should go to them family things once a year. Your friend onlydia. Oh yes no I don't think it is right.
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