How to deal with a jealous friend who like your girlfriend/boyfriend?

LOXION,I have heard about situations like this so many times. The first thing is, try to keep your realtionship separate from you friendships. This always causes a major problem becasue they dont mix. I also dont understand why a friend would do this to another friend. A friend is supppose to be happy for you not work agaisnt you, that is what eniemes are for. i would really try and confront my friend and when he amits it then I would tell him where to go. Also, I hope when he approaches your girl, she is pushing him away with great force.

I don't think he is your friend! If I were you, I would confront him and ask him why he is doing this to me. Of course if your girlfriend really loves you, you are so secure in the knowledge that she will not believe the words of your friend. However, it is so irritating to have a friend like this and to stop him maybe he should know that you know what he is doing at your back and tell him to stop or else there is no need to maintain the friendship.

Well first of all I think you should stop dealing with him altogether because he can't be trusted. I don't know how good of friends you to are but for him to go behind your back and try to persue your girlfriend is low lifed. I think you should front him out and hear his side of the story and then surround yourself with good people. people like him is not your friend and will try to bring you down... I know for some men they feel women will come and go but friends will always be there, well I suggest getting a dog because he would be more worthy... good luck

hi loxion for me love and friendship both have their own individual importance, I fear this is really a dangerous situation, and things become worse when ur lover too responds to ur friend's feelings I never faced this situation But i would chose to do following thing clear all doubts with you friend, make her realise that you are her best friend and so she is yours, but please don't dare come b/w me and my love, ..........if this doesn't work come back to ur lover tell him about d situation, if he loves you he will certainly find the best way out ...........if even he feels that 'something' abt ur friend then come back to urself after a good fight and cry on ur fate booooooooooooo sob sob !!

Dude.. He is n't your friend. Dont keep such friends. They can even spoil your life. Try to avoid him as soon as possible. Thats my suggestion

Dear friend,A person who feels jealous about your relationship with you and your girl friend, i think he is not a deserving person to continue friendship with him.Even if you think that you really needs him then avoid informing the relationship details of your girl friends to him.Hope it works.And one more thing i need to say that you can get girl friends at any time but you can't get good friends.Hope you understand..

A friend that would hit on your girl is not a good friend. Also a friend that would hit on your while insulting you is definately not a good friend. Possibly he is only being your friend as a way of getting your girlfriend. I think you have been very patient with this guy. There is a code between friends and that code is to never hit on their girl friends, or boyfriends if they friends are women, that is just something you just do not do to a friend. If a so called friend of mine were to hit on my wife we would have words, you just don't do that to a friend. This guy is not your friend if he is doing this. I think I would let him know that you aware that he is doing this and if he values your friendship he will stop. If he does not stop, then that is not a friend you need in your life.

I wonder why you haven't been confronting him about this yet? I mean this (his running you down to your gf) is such a threat in your relationship. However, I would suggest that you have to confront him about this to clarify things; to see if it's really true because if not, then it might be just your gf's making stories. He may not admit it but I guess you're smart enough to know if it's true or not. If it is, then I guess you make ways to avoid him because he is not a real friend and he could betray you any time. And again if it's true, you are lucky to have an honest gf who confided on you concerning this issue.

I think you should tell your friend that if he is a real friend then he should understand that you love your girlfriend and you want to be happy with her the same as you are happy with him. Make him understand that you are happy both with him and her and that what he's doing makes you rather sad for both your romantic relationship and your friendship. If he's a true friends he should support your happiness.

There is a saying keep your friends close and your enemies even closer. I am not saying that this friend of yours is the enemy, but he is a threat to your relationship. In this case he is an enemy to your relationship not to you. On the other hand I think that it is good that your girlfriend is being open with you about the whole situation and that you all are talking about it. Sometimes it is best to take things at face value. He might be trying to get with her but it seems that she is pretty happy with you. I say this all to say that you shouldn't really sweat this friend of yours. I don't know if I were in your situation whether I would still be cool with him, but the fact of the matter remains that as long as you and your girl keep open lines and don't sweat the small stuff everything will be alright. Backstabbing friends be damned! I think that you need to let him know that you know full well what is going on and that you are on to his game. I think that will give him time to reconsider the consequences ( such as the loss of a great friendship) over trying to get with another friends girl. Good Luck with your dilemma. Eryn

you have to decide who you like more, your partner or your friend.

I just want to say kudos to your girlfriend for letting you in on what your friend is saying and for not heeding to his lies and fall with him. I also want to commend you for the way you handle it thus far by not being angry with him. But I believe that its time you talk to him and let him know that you are aware of the lies he is feeding your girlfriend. If he is man enough and truly your friend he will apologise and not hate you for it but move on with the friendship in good faith and to respect your choice in choosing the woman you choose. It is not your fault that that she choose you and obviously he see good qualities in your girl and wish she was his. On the other hand, don't be surprise if he denies everything and make claim that it is your girlfriend who is making up such stories to split up your friendship. You just have to be careful and I wish you all the best in dealing with this situation.

I think this thing should be settled by your girlfreind, since she told you that, she hope you can know this about your jealous freind who he is, then she should talk your relationship with him that you are the boyfreind, if the jealous freind is just a common freind, then he will be welcome to home, otherwise, NOT. On the other hand, if he always do that, you can not treat him as your freind, otherwise, he will be a bomb around you.