Another Rant: Why Can't Family Members Help Each Other Out More?

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Okie dokie....another rant here....LOL I did my discussion about my DVD player pooping out on me...and I really don't watch much "entertainment" as I'm always working in front of my computer. So was pissed off at that as at the moment just don't have the funds to get a new one...no matter HOW cheap. Scenario and background: I'm on my own now since both my mother and grandmother are deceased...I'm on SSI benefits which at least allows me to put a roof over my head and pay basic bills. I supplement my benefits by doing a LOT of writing for websites and at least pays for other living expenses but only other basics...no luxuries..hell buying shampoo at a dollar store can be a luxury for me...so forget a new DVD player. My mother and father were divorced when I was a year and a half old.....My father's side of the family were in California where I was born...but when they got divorced my mother came back to "home" base here in NY...and moved back in with her grandmother and mother (my great-grandmother and grandmother)...later my grandmother and mother and I moved out to where I still presently live some 47 years later. Up until I was ten, my father and mother's families were still in touch....on my birthday and Christmases they sent presents to me.....then after the age of ten it was like my father's side of the family disappeared from the planet. You have to realize too...that throughout my growing years my mother never, ever had one nice thing to say about my father or his family.......and I never came across any letters, cards....nothing of my father's side of the family...it's like my mother totally obliterated them from my life....I couldn't get in contact if I wanted to as I had no means to.....that was until I was doing genealogy work....and looking into my father's side of the family.....by "accident" a researcher in a California library I contacted found info on my paternal grandparents that included their addresses.....nothing on my father though....so after long debate sought to contact them and wrote a letter. For a long time I didn't hear anything....then one day I get a letter from this woman named Carol R. Like who? It turned out to be my aunt....my father's sister. I was elated!!!! After all those years I managed to connect with my father's side of the family...the bad news....My aunt informed me that my father had passed away some five years previously.....I felt gypped in a way. I STILL wasn't able to know my father. Yet a great connection was beginning between my aunt and myself as we wrote letters to each other like crazy. Then my dear, sweet mother got into the act...and was to ruin that relationship between my aunt and me. You see in analysis,.....I think my mother was responsible for obliterating any connection between me and my father's side of the family and particularly my father....I think she had a heavy duty fear that if I got to know my father, I would have preferred him over her....hey, she kept reminding me relentlessly that my personality was like my father. So when I connected with my father's side of the family she freaked out in a way. My mother was a pathological lier and would spew out lie after lie to make herself look good. This was especially true when my mother and I were facing an eviction issue due to the cat population problem she created...but she was passing it on that I was the cause of it...NOT, NOT, NOT. Anyway, my mother would talk on the phone with my aunt while I'd be out and tell her all these friggin lies about me in general.... Needless to say, I then started getting letters from my aunt that weren't as friendly anymore..I tried to set her straight that my mother wasn't "all there" but my mother must have done a real good job of badmouthing me and nothing I said could convince her otherwise. Now..before my mother's badmouthing me....my aunt had specifically told me...that she would send me the equivalent money that my father had in his accounts at his death as I was his daughter...PROBLEM....my father's side were always tightwads...that is at least ONE thing true my mother said about my father's side of the family. Anyway, when my aunt did send me money gifts it would be about $20...like yikes....at this rate it will be the year 2250 before the money is sent to me...and I THINK I'll be dead by then...LOL. So the weird thing is...here my aunt is always telling me how HARD life is....money is tight....in the next sentence of her letters she's telling me of her kitchen renovation for $1,500....or $2,000 for this renovation....like huh??????? Now folks...........NO...I don't look for handouts.....I'm not asking for money....thing is my aunt is my ONLY blood kin family now....I HAVE no other family......she KNOWS my situation....so as blood kin...her ONLY niece...like crap...can't she help out more besides a $20 money gift for my birthday or Christmas? Besides I still have that letter to me how she intended to send me the equivalent of money in my father's accounts when he died ( and no....he didn't name me as a beneficiary) yet she still promised it to me....crap I'm her ONLY niece....I'm blood kin.. AREN'T FAMILIES SUPPOSED TO HELP EACH OTHER??????? THAT'S MY BEEF I have a confession...I've had more love and affection and kindness from my on-line friends than blood relatives....HOW ABOUT YOU??? Do you find your family is the most INSUPPORTIVE bunch of a-holes going...???? Tell me your rants about your family...........all ears