If your husband and/or wife has an illegitimate child, wld u treat them fairly?
By ljgoy021478
@ljgoy021478 (58)
Philippines
December 15, 2008 10:39am CST
If my hubby has an illegitimate child, I will accept and treat him equally. I don't want to let the child feel that he needs to repay of whatever sin that his parents committed. It would be unfair for the innocent child to be treated unjustly.
6 responses
@tuckerbabies (106)
• United States
15 Dec 08
Do you mean if he had a child before you marry him or during your marriage? I'm sure there would be some hard feelings toward the guy if it was during your marriage, but if I were to stay married in that situation I don't believe I'd treat the child unfairly. If my husband had brought a child into the marriage, I would treat him or her as my own, too, because when getting married you accept all that comes with that person.
@ljgoy021478 (58)
• Philippines
15 Dec 08
During your marriage that is. Wow nice to hear a kind of person like you who would answer that way. I mean I am an illegitimate child and it's only now that my father's family has accepted us. It's a great feeling to know that we're accepted and to treat us as part of their family too. Thanks so much for that response. =)
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@tuckerbabies (106)
• United States
15 Dec 08
It sounds like your situation is somewhat like being a step child. It was very awkward when we'd visit my father and go to my step mom's relatives houses. Everybody would give her daughter a ton of gifts and attention and there we were, me and my brother, basically along for the ride. I remember I so badly wanted to fit in a be a part of the bigger picture, but we just weren't. It's very sad indeed. But, not all families are that way. Some families accept all children, whether they were born into the family or not.
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@lovelyvelle (639)
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15 Dec 08
Yes, I would certainly treat the child as my own. The child has nothing to do with the parents faults or failures. They deserve to be treated fairly and be loved as a human being. I always remember my childhood and that's why I don't any child which I know or will live with me would overcome in the same childhood as mine. Children should be taught and guided in the right direction and be treated fairly, they are angels in disguise.
@wayz12 (2059)
• United States
15 Dec 08
Of course. It's just the decent thing to do. It's not the child's fault on how he/she was conceived. He doesn't deserve to be punish for something that is not his fault.
True, for some women, this can be difficult, especially if this happens while she is already married and the news was brought to her later. Still, its truly unfair to treat an innocent child badly just because your mad at his parent.
So, yes, illegitimate or not, children should be treated fairly.
@pergammano (7682)
• Canada
15 Dec 08
My friend, there are NO illegitimate children as far as I am concerned! Nor is a child the product of a sin committed by two consenting adults! A child is a beautiful creation (no matter the parents.) They are all innocence! Cheers!
@pergammano (7682)
• Canada
15 Dec 08
Thank you, so very much my friend! And what a great topic for a discussion, as I see you have many and varied answers! I still (no matter the circumstances) transfer my own jealousies to an innocent child! I raised a child (of another union that my ex-had during our relationship.) And she is a beautiful girl, completely grounded! She didn't choose to be brought into the world, but I could choose to make this the best world possible for her! Season's best!
@j47lee (740)
• Canada
15 Dec 08
i dont think any woman can accept if it was during the marriage life. it is easy to say but to do it.... its difficult...... imagine u have to watch the illegitimate child everyday and be reminded that your husband cheated on you... plus it makes u feel that u couldnt satisfy your husband that he went to some other woman.... i dont think i would be able to stand it...
@ljgoy021478 (58)
• Philippines
15 Dec 08
Well yes during my childhood days most of the time I am out of place and I just feel I am not welcome but as I mature there are people I meet who has the same situation as I do and now I know how to deal with it; more so my father's family has just accepted us so it's a real blessing from God.
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