Are you a failure if you dont achieve certain things by a certain age ?

If a person is not doing his best then one can say that he has not achieved what he has the potential to do so.But i hate to call anyone failures.A persons attitude and life style depends on his immediate background and to a certain extent to his upbringing.But i would like to know why this forty year old living in his parents basement doesnt do more than just working from pay check to pay check? He should sit and do some serious analysis as to what he thinks about himself first? That is more important than what others think of him.

No I dont believe that your a failure if you dont achive certain goals by a certain age or time, because sometimes things dont always happen the way we plain them, and you may achive things much later in life then you thought, but as long as you keep going and stay hopefully and positive, and achive some if not all your goals then your a success, besides success and failure is only a state of mind, and sometimes life has its own plans for you, I have not achieved any of the goals I set for myself yet, but I do not believe that I am a failure, in fact I dont really believe in the word failure when it comes to life because as long as I'm alive theres always hope for better things, and before my life is over I know I will achive some or at least one of my goals before I lay my head to rest.

Success and failure is a personal observation which is not up to anyone else to make, as far as I'm concerned. I was a stay at home mom for 17 years, raising my kids so, in that area, I was a success but as far as the career I left behind, perhaps some folks thought I was a failure but I sure didn't. I have lived my life on my schedule...not someone else's. I went to college at 35. I've worked for the past ten years and, since I've been laid off, I'm considering returning to college to advance my skills. Am I a failure for not finding another job immediately? Was I a failure before I went to school? It's all about perception and the only one that matters is yours unless your choices affect someone else.

One can only a failure if he let himself to be one, if that is the thought he nurtures. But success is always around the corner.One can also always successful as soon as he thinks something big and sets a goal to achieve it. Sometimes, a winner is just a dreamer who keeps on dreaming...and doing everythingto achieve it.

i don't think anyone has the right to determine that fact except you as the one who it is happening to. of course , if you live with your parents then they do have a certain degree of rights where you are concerned. they are trying to look after your wellfare because they want to make sure that when they are gone you will be able to take care of yourself

Yes. One should accept the responsiblity and try to change into a better, hardworking person.

I don't think so. Succeeding is not base on age but on our capacity, learning and experiences. If you are lacking in of those, then you will not really achieve or succeed. Better hone or improve your self. Succeeding is a process.

It depends how one look at it. A person who is always trying and still do not make it at the age of forty one can understand. But a person who didn't want to work and always looking for handout then that person is what we called in my country worthless and non ambitious. There are two ways in life. Sometimes you will work and because you are free handed always giving away. Then one day you fall and there are no one in your immediate circle to help you. Then you have the other way, were you are a misery never helping others and one day you fall. There is no one to help you because you was mean. Then you look back in your life and see that at age forty you are a disappointment to yourself and others. Then to me you are worthless.

ya u need tos stop sit at one place..n think where u going wrong...it means failure if u are expecting these things but failing to achieve..there r few people who r just care less n they dont want anything in life..they consider themselves as a free birds..for them nthing is success n nthing is failure

I am one of those guys who has the same situation like what you have mentioned or i am even worse. For me, failure or success comes only after achieving a certain goal. Once you fail and quit then that is a failure. Regrets? That depends on a person. Some say they believe in destiny while others say they're doing their own. Ask your self now where you belong and maybe it will help you realize of what you are now.

It is much easier to live Your life when You stop comparing Yourself with others or when You eliminate all those criterias and stereotypes that one could possibly collect. If You have not achieved something by You age: it simply means that Your time has not comed yet. Have I achieved those appropriate things for my age? NO.Do I feel sad or guilty because of that? NO!!! Just keep on living, and if You are a blessed person: You will achieve most of the things that people usually tend to achieve in their lives. ;)

so...though working occasionally for the money is not a best way but it's a way. i found recently lots of our youngman has the same problem with you man, we don't have permanent jobs also not permanent income. it seems the most importmant thing to us is only to earn more money. earn as lot as we can to avoid the hungry and disease. we have no choice to seek our ideals...really bad things but it's true...

Ronnie,your question is, if you are a failure if you don't achieve certain things by a certain age... I should answer it no...Because there is always a time for everything, and if you don't achieve things in that certain time, maybe it is not yet your time.I presumed you still have no wife? well, marriage is a gift as much as singleness is also a gift... I got the feelings that you have been trying to find a better job and better income but seems unfortunate yet, well keep trying and divert to another course, for all you know you are good at something that you didn't realize you are...For as long as you are trying my friend, no matter how many times you fail, its okay... Its better to fail in trying than not trying at all...

if u are forty and u are feeling this ,u probably isnt satisfied with what u are doing with ur self . Just go ahead and do what u like.. , only uhave the rite to do what u want in this case some of us are driven by situations to do certain things but in this situation, the guy's 40 so he has lived the way he wanted maybe got borerd by that .. then go ahead and live the life the way u want it buddy.

If you are a forty year old guy and havent achieved something in life, then, that would be a question. I mean, you have lived your life for 40 years and nothing good happened? Every persons life depends on how he/she runs it. Maybe life is not really good at you, but it doesnt mean that you will just settle for less. I know, falling many times would lose your confidence but its not a reason to give up and try something new. I also know that doing it is not as easy as saying it, but as long as you live, you have all the time to change the course of your journey in this world. I know, deep inside you, you can do better than that. So why not, bring out the best on you. No matter how old are you, but if you still try and try, then you are not a failure, youre a fighter.

age is not the concern for this kind of problems, well there are many people who dont have kids, who have no wife and who are not earning. If you have tried all your best for everything in life and could not possess may be then its termed as failure even then, you will have many chances to either obtain the things which you didnot get or other means of happiness with your effort or the divine grace. There is not particular definition for success and failure. and failure doesnt mean not having all these things. There are many people who have all these comforts and yet are not happy. what do you call that as? success or failure?

Definitely, as you said, if the person has the ability to do something he can, but he quit, that means he doesn't exert his influence to the society.From my own perspective, this kind of individuals should be punished in some way.It's just my personal opinion, happy to debate...

I have to say if your living condition is so bad ,then you have to change it .work harder and do more .Everyone has their bad luck ,but the different thing is that whether you can get rid of it and come out from the bad luck by working hard and you can seek help from others !the most important thing is the you have to face every thing with confidence!

I think that sucess or failure is determined on an individual basis. Sometimes, things happen in life and you may have financial difficulties. I don't think this makes you a failure. If you make a genuine effort to change your situation, I don't think you are a failure. As far as being happy with your current situation, I believ that if you are happy with your life, don't change it. If you are unhappy with your life, take steps to improve your situation. I don't think that people should have to conform to societal norms. I think society will continue to judge based on their own opinions.