Eating Differently on a Date

@Shar19 (8236)
United States
December 19, 2008 8:59am CST
Do you eat differently when you're on a date? For some reason women are usually a little shy about eating on the first few dates with a man. I remember when I was dating years ago I could hardly eat anything in front of my date because I would either be too nervous or I just didn't feel comfortable eating in front of that person yet. This of course would always leave me starving by the time I got home from the date. However if you've been dating for a long time or if you're married then women will typically eat as much as their husbands or boyfriends do.
13 responses
• United States
19 Dec 08
On a first date I would eat light. Mostly because of nerves, but partly because I wanted to be able to pay attention to our conversation. I really like food, and it can be distracting. Once I had decided that I like the person I would be able to eat normally on the next dates. My husband still thinks that I don't eat much because he only sees me at the end of the day. I am what you would call a gtrazer---I eat little bits of something all day long. By the time dinner rolls around I am just not that hungry.
• India
19 Dec 08
This happens sometimes with me too...
@Shar19 (8236)
• United States
19 Dec 08
I think it is just nerves for most of us. Thank you for responding.
• United States
19 Dec 08
I eat differently because suddenly I'm conscious of how ridiculous I look when I eat. I open my mouth too wide or I get stuff around my mouth. I just really want to avoid any mishaps so I eat much smaller bites at less of a frequency... I think I'm ridiculous for feeling so uncomfortable about it but eh.
@Shar19 (8236)
• United States
19 Dec 08
I've felt that way too before. The horror if we have some food stuck in our teeth especially on a first date.
@sweeety (41)
• India
19 Dec 08
What happened with me was that I was literally starving, but decidied to be shy on my first date and ordered less..To my surprise the guy I was with ordered a lot and invited me to join him without any formalities as he was coming straight from work and said he had not had lunch..I was a little shy then, but I shared with him and was thankful that he was the one who had ordered more and not me..:)
@Shar19 (8236)
• United States
19 Dec 08
That's good. He was trying to make you feel more comfortable. Nice story.
@mariposaman (2967)
• Canada
19 Dec 08
I often wondered about that. I never really understood why women do that. Is it because they are afraid of the price of the food as men still seem to pay for dates even though there is supposed to be equality, I guess not yet in the dating world. I probably can see the nervousness thing though.
@Shar19 (8236)
• United States
19 Dec 08
I think it's a combination of nerves and price.
@vicki2876 (5640)
• Canada
19 Dec 08
It has been a while since I have been on a date. But years ago when I was dating I would eat whatever I wanted. The guys would be shocked that I ate like that as women only ate salads they claimed. There was this one guy who was a bit big who took me to a Chinese buffet place. I didn't go for the all you can eat buffet. He didn't either after I ordered a lighter meal only cause I had already eat before I got there. Well I guess he was a regular there cause after he ordered a mega meat plate the waitress said "not too hungry tonight troy?" I thought it was funny that a guy didn't want to eat too much in front of me. LOL That was our only date though.
@Shar19 (8236)
• United States
19 Dec 08
Now that's something you don't hear of often. Thanks for sharing.
@savypat (20245)
• United States
19 Dec 08
I remember this, I was always AFRAID TO ORDER SOMETHING TO EXPENSIVE. times were lean when I was dating. Sort of like they are going to be now.
@Shar19 (8236)
• United States
19 Dec 08
I never would order anything expensive when I was dating. Unless of course I was convinced to and it was further along in the relationship.
• Philippines
20 Dec 08
i can't remember acting differently whenever i was out on a date or out with friends. i guess i eat like i normally do. probably because i only eat out with a date when i feel comfortable already to spend an enjoyable meal together with him. the only times i was probably eating a little in a date was when i was not really hungry at all, or the date is to short for a full meal. otherwise, out in a date or with some friends, there wouldn't be much of a difference except perhaps the choice of clothes (a bit sexier when out in a date -hehehe) and the level of being chatty (more so when with friends). :)
@bellebads (740)
• Philippines
20 Dec 08
no i don't really eat differently when I'm on a date. i eat on my usual way. the reason for this is that whenever i go out on a date i always make it a point that i already know the person well enough so that i feel comfortable talking to him and will not get shy to eat in from of him. in that way the guy will also feel at ease and will show his real personality and you would know if he's really sincere with his intentions toward you.
• Philippines
20 Dec 08
All I can say is be yourself, and enjoy the food. It's just a date :)
@ersmommy1 (12596)
• United States
20 Dec 08
When I was still dating, I'd order a normal meal. But I was more interested in getting to know the person. So I was doing more talking than eating. I usually ended up with more leftovers to enjoy at a later time.
@missybear (11393)
• United States
20 Dec 08
I haven't had a date in quite a while but i do eat way less when i eat in front of other people. At home i'm a piggy.
@wahmivy (778)
• Philippines
20 Dec 08
I didn't really get a chance to date around since I met the boy (see how early I met him) who later became my husband shortly after I started dating. As a teen, I was always nervous around cute guys, so eating with them was close to impossible. I know some guys got nervous too, but I've also known a few who, although they claimed to be into you, wanted your food if your were not going to eat it, lol.
• United States
19 Dec 08
I try to eat the same way on a date as I would normally. I think that you have to be honest. If the person you are dating really cares about how you are eating on a date then I think it is time to move on to someone new. I also must say that I do not eat like a man, I simply can't eat that much. I think it is important to act the same way on a date as you do in normal life. If the person that you are with sees the difference, they may wonder what else you are not being totally honest about.