Hey, Mr.Relationship, I figured you out finally
By Denise_Tung
@Denise_Tung (647)
China
December 20, 2008 8:24am CST
I am sick, again and for the whole next week I will have to stay at home and relax, as the doctor has advised. Then got so many thought about the relationship I've been involved and confused in the past two months.
A married colleague, who I have been holding an obsession and thought I was kinda in love with. And during the two days I've been sick, my gal friend called me, two of the colleagues called me to ask if I am feeling better, one is with whom I am gossiped by the whole comapany and the other one is a year younger than me and I considered immature, called Alex. I am so touched that he called me to care about me coz I've never thought he would be so nice and sweet.
But what about the one who I am obsessed with and who flatterd me by saying that I am a piece of art? No messages or calls at all. I guess he is having fun with his family and loving himself, gosh! What am I in his heart? Just nothing and finally I realised this. This is going nowhere and I will never commit such sort of mistakes again. I learned the lesson and bf is the one precious to me. I love him, such a gentleman and everything about him is most beautiful thing to me.
Thanks for friends who gave me so many advices.
How about you? You feelings about yr current relationship?
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10 responses
@Dragonofgold (509)
• Canada
20 Dec 08
glad to see you figured out that the married one is a waste of time. Men tend to say whatever it takes to get ou in the sack. And if you could hear the way they talk out you with their friends, then you would be disgusted. He has no respect for you, which seems clear since he didn't even call to check on you. Now, the younger fellow who called, he sounds a bit more promising. If a man can see you when you are sick and still want to get with you, that is a sign.
Leave the married one alone. There can be nothing good happen there.
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@Denise_Tung (647)
• China
20 Dec 08
Hi dragonofgold. Yup, it takes me some time to figure things out and I realise how silly I was when I said I am in love with him. What a joke, lol. Leave the married mem alone. That is so wise!!!
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@stejhas (209)
• United States
20 Dec 08
I agree that the married man should be left alone. It's obvious he doesn't care about you in the way that you care for him because HE IS STILL MARRIED! NEVER get involved with a man that claims to love you, but remains married to someone else!!!! You were being used, so face the reality and stay away from him... It may be hard, but keep reminding yourself that you were/are nothing but a toy for him!!!
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@Dragonofgold (509)
• Canada
20 Dec 08
Live and learn. Now that you have made this mistake once, don't make it again.
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@Denise_Tung (647)
• China
24 Dec 08
Thanks for the wishes!!! Tears, lol. It's Christmas Eve and Merrry Christmas. Have a wonderful holiday.
@riyasam (16556)
• India
21 Dec 08
it is good you finally sorted it out.i strongly believe in the saying A FRIEND IN NEED IS A FRIEND INDEED.i had one friend who i thought was quite good.but during the recent terrorists attack,he never bothered to enquire about my well-being!!!!!!!
@Denise_Tung (647)
• China
21 Dec 08
Yeah. I have the same feeling. I am sick while I hear nothing from him. What a shame coz I hold him to a precious one and see what's he behaving like? Yeah, a total je*k. I am sorry I use this word, but that's what I feel in my heart.
And you've been a terrorists attack? Wow, how horrible. Take care, my friend!
@winterose (39887)
• Canada
20 Dec 08
I have a great relationship, my partner and I have mutual respect for each other, only sometimes I get annoyed because he doesn't call me as much as I would like him to either.
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@Denise_Tung (647)
• China
21 Dec 08
Good for you and I admire you for the great love you are holding for each other.
@kun2349 (23381)
• Singapore
20 Dec 08
lol =D Looks like u have another sickness while u are resting at home, and that's, love sick.. lol =D
Dun bother about those 'so called' obession any more.. They are more like flirting, in order to pass time or even to kill boredom.. Care and concern among frenz is nice, and there will always be a limit.. Glad that u managed to think it thru over the past few days, and i believe your bf is very lucky to have u as gf too ^_^
@Denise_Tung (647)
• China
21 Dec 08
Yeah, it's just a flirting thing. Gosh, I can say it and face it so naturally now. I used to not admit this, but now I can. It's just flirting between two bored ppl. I am alone as bf is not here and he's been married for years and wants some fresh thing. That's all. Thanks for your kind words, kun.
@pratyushtamhankar (859)
• India
20 Dec 08
Nah I aint interested in any other girl other than my girlfriend. And I'm proud to say it. I've learnt one thing, love is something very rare,atleast true love is. And now that I'm committed to her and she's to me. I feel there's no point in taking interest in any other girl. Well its not at all easy to keep my gf happy so I'm most of the time arranging surprises for my love. Hey and I enjoy doing it for her...
Guess she must be thinking the same about me too.. ;)
And you take care about your health buddy...
@Denise_Tung (647)
• China
21 Dec 08
Great bf you have been and your girl is such a lucy one. Enjoy your relationship and I wish your love lasts forever!
Thanks for yr caring and responding:D
@trinidadvelasco (11401)
• Philippines
20 Dec 08
we must always take extra care about getting into relationships. it is never wise to be entangled with with a married man. there are so many who are still without commitments that lay around us.
i can still picture so clearly, women i have known personally who figured in relationships with married guys. since they are young career women, it will always be difficult to understand why they have chosen the wrong road in a serious undertaking. the young career women always end up at the losing end. then they will learn that there were some guys who were only finding the guts and the strength needed to make known their honest intentions.
they may be sorry for having committed such a big mistake in their life. trouble is, they have already tainted their beings of untrustworthiness. so a good future gets ruined by an unthought of fleeting moments of error.
it is good that you have realized your fatal mistake before it is too late. i am happy for you, girl. those married men who are like that, are the playful irresponsible ones. you will never be truly happy if he leaves his family just to spend the rest of his days with you.
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@savypat (20216)
• United States
20 Dec 08
It's through life's experiences that we grow. So you just need to think of this whole situation as a time of personal growth. Happy new year to you, enjoy what you have and look forward to life's lessons even thou they may be painful.
@Denise_Tung (647)
• China
20 Dec 08
Yup. I paid the price to learn this lesson but it's worthwhile. I got to know what is precious. It's not the person or thing that I can't get, but the one who cares about me that I already have. Thanks savypat. Merry Christmas and Happy New Year!
@Denise_Tung (647)
• China
21 Dec 08
Hi bhanusb. You read my mind. I never thought this married guy any special and had the quality to attract me at the beginning. But then I am having troubles at work and then he talked to me and praised me and then it goings to which leading to the obsession.
Thanks for your wishes.
Merry Christmas and Happy New Year!
