Mom comes home today!
By Wendy
@jerzgirl (9384)
United States
December 21, 2008 10:26am CST
Mom will be discharged at 1pm today. An ambulance will bring her home. The hospital bed and all the breathing equipment is ready in the bedroom for her. I know she won't be happy since I had to take her little TV off its table for the one piece of equipment to sit, but she'll deal with it and I'll find another way to get her TV set up. Anyway, she'll be home for Christmas, which is great. 
What isn't great is that my daughter was supposed to be here long before now to set up the Christmas tree and I can't even get her to answer her phone. So, I don't think the tree will be ready when Mom gets here. I'm not happy about that. But, one step at a time, I guess. 
Mom will be under hospice care and they'll cover her medical needs related to her emphysema and CHF. Any new thing that happens will require an ER visit, probably, if I understand the program correctly. Although, because her skin is so fragile, they will handle wound care as well.
Just wanted to let you know. Merry Christmas!! (And, it is.) 
What isn't great is that my daughter was supposed to be here long before now to set up the Christmas tree and I can't even get her to answer her phone. So, I don't think the tree will be ready when Mom gets here. I'm not happy about that. But, one step at a time, I guess.
Mom will be under hospice care and they'll cover her medical needs related to her emphysema and CHF. Any new thing that happens will require an ER visit, probably, if I understand the program correctly. Although, because her skin is so fragile, they will handle wound care as well.
Just wanted to let you know. Merry Christmas!! (And, it is.) 6 people like this
17 responses
@Paula1966 (1102)
• United States
21 Dec 08
That's so great for you and your mom, jerzgirl!! I know it will be inconvenient, but maybe your mom will enjoy watching the tree go up - she may feel like she did not miss that much. When my mom was under hospice care, the rented hospital bed was in the living room by the tree so she could see it. There are swing arm mounts that can be put on a wall to hold pretty much any TV, even the heavier CRTs, so you shouldn't need to buy a flat screen or anything.
Best wishes for you and your family!!!
@tyc415 (5706)
• United States
21 Dec 08
That is the great to hear that your mother will be coming home today. I know you are so excited about it and I can read the joy in your discussion. It would be nice if someone could come over and attach the TV to the wall somehow for your mother so she can watch it. I hope your daughter is ok and that nothing is wrong since she is not answering her phone. If she lives close enough maybe she can get over before too long and get the Christmas tree set up. I do think it is great that hospice will be there to help out with a lot of things so you can spend more of your time with your mother making more good memories.
Merry Christmas to you and your mom.2 people like this
@jerzgirl (9384)
• United States
21 Dec 08
Mom's home now. They brought her home around 1:30. I snuck back in here to finish answering. She's happy to be home, but also enjoyed that the nurses came in and out regularly. Once I call hospice to tell them she's home, some of that will happen here, too. It's good to have her home. The cats are a little confused, but they'll get used to it.
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@AmbiePam (120738)
• United States
21 Dec 08
I admire your positivity. You're kind of taking care of everything. Hopefully your daughter will come through and help you with some of the holiday plans. Thanks for sharing the good news that you will be able to be at home with her for Christmas. I hope yours is a very merry one.
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@jerzgirl (9384)
• United States
21 Dec 08
Thanks Pam. I just had to announce it. I'm very glad she's home, even though I'm sure I'll not like everything I'll have to do. So, I am glad hospice will be a part of it because I don't think I'd want to carry all of it. Even the cats seem happy to see her, although having so many people coming in and out, bringing in equipment and then a gurney was a bit confusing for them. They didn't hide, but they didn't get underfoot either. They just stood and stared and then came and sniffed everything when they were gone.
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@Rosekitty (19368)
• San Marcos, Texas
24 Dec 08
Late at posting this sorry, but I'm sure you are happy at home with your Mom and getting ready for the holidays together..
Try not to do to much to stress yourself and relax as much as you are able..
Have a wonderful time with family and talk to you soon here..
Huggs
@leenie50 (3992)
• United States
21 Dec 08
Hey Sweetie,
I'm praying that all goes well. Hospice in my experience is absolutelt wonderful and will take care of all your Mom's medical needs. A lot of times they send in a doctor to take care of of things the nurses can't do. If you are a Christian they also provide a minister to help lift your's and your Mom's spirit. What ever you do if you have a question or many for that matter, don't be afraid to ask. When my husband was sick my family was all there off and on to support me but it was the hospice people that helped me stay calm and just helped me in so many ways.
Don't worry about your daughter, she'll be there. Hugsssss
leenie
@leenie50 (3992)
• United States
21 Dec 08
Just wanted to wish you and your Mom a Merry Christmas, and the rest of your family, even though your daughter is not behaving like she should.
Well concentrate on your Mom, you'll have enough to do. The hospice people even come in daily to bathe your Mom. They help in so many ways. I realize they are in a different state but they are lovely people. Hugsssss to you sweetie.
leenie
@dreamweaverjan (3471)
• United States
21 Dec 08
GREAT NEWS JERZ!!! I'M SO HAPPY FOR YOU AND YOUR MOM!!!! [i][/i][u][/u]
Now for DEB, she needs a good kick in the behind, That Girl I swear !!!
She doesn't need an alarm clock for all the good it does her but a
SWIFT KICK IN THE PANTS!!! [i][/i][u][/u] Shame on her, she can't get up
out of that stupid bed and come do something for you and her Grand Mother, I thought
she had done this days ago for you; **snort **!!
Say hi to your Mom, and I'm so happy for you guys!!! I'm sure you'll figure out
something to do with her Tv set..(G)!!
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@anniepa (27955)
• United States
21 Dec 08
Jerzgirl, I just had to say, when you wrote, "Being happy to live has kept many a person alive," you were SO right! My mom, who passed away on Nov. 2 just 25 days before she'd have turned 92, had CPOD and CHF, plus she'd taken a fall a few months earlier and hurt her back requiring physical therapy which she hated. She lost the feeling of being happy to live and simply stopped eating or drinking. We all tried so hard to cheer her up and give her some motivation but she'd reached the point where she didn't care anymore. I'm hopeful this won't happen to your mom and that she'll be happy to live for a long time to come!
Merry Christmas to you all!
Annie
@jerzgirl (9384)
• United States
21 Dec 08
Deb needs more than a good swift kick in the slats, believe me. I'm so angry at her right now - it's almost 3 pm and I STILL haven't heard from her nor is she answering her phone. I am absolutely PISSED!!!!! But, I'm glad Mom is home! She ate good when she got here - she wouldn't eat the lunch they gave her. So, I know she's still got her appetite - it was just the food. If she doesn't like something, she won't eat it. She looks so much better than she did. I know she's not good in the long run, but if we can maintain her so she's happy to live, then that's fine with me. Being happy to live has kept many a person alive.
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@Thoroughrob (11742)
• United States
24 Dec 08
Hope mom is home and doing well. I am sure you will be able to get her tv up and going for her. Take care and enjoy her. I am glad she will be home for Christmas.
@kareng (80243)
• United States
22 Dec 08
I'm very glad to hear your mom is going to be home for Christmas! That is wonderful news. I hope you hear from your daughter soon! It would be nice for the tree to be up, but I'm sure your mom will understand if it doesn't get up! Hope you have a wonderful Christmas and New Year!
@pyewacket (43903)
• United States
22 Dec 08
I'm so glad to hear your Mom is now home....I'm also glad to hear you'll be getting help from hospice care so you won't have to do everything yourself. That must be a tremendous load off your mind.
Since you wrote this hours and hours ago, did you manage to get the tree up yet? I still have to decorate mine...did manage to put the lights on at least, but hope to decorate the tree tomorrow (Monday).
Have a great Chirstmas!!! (((((hugs)))))))
@cynthiann (18612)
• Jamaica
22 Dec 08
I am so happy for you that your mother is home for Christmas. This is such wonderful news. She must be happy too. Thank God that she has you to take care of her. From your previous postings I can tell that you are a good person. I wish for you and your family a happy Christmas and hope that the New Year will be a good one for you and your Mom. Blessings
@bing28 (3795)
• Philippines
22 Dec 08
I'm touched with your post, I can imagine your feelings having your mom on Christmas. I feel happy for you as well. You're lucky enough you still have you're mom with you on this special occassion. I wish you and the family have a great Cristmas with your mom around. You'll be rewarded for taking good care of her, I hope She'll get well soon.
@dreamwalker0111 (1)
• Nigeria
22 Dec 08
lmao...this so funny are a clown or santa claus.....well why would mum leave the hospital for treatments at home? let the ambulance take her back or will you be her nurse...NO!....you are only been rude for taking her tv away from her room...thats not nice either....put the home in nice shape and invite the santa claus ..i will be there also...lol
@anniepa (27955)
• United States
21 Dec 08
I'm so glad you'll have your mom home with you for Christmas, Hon. That might be just what the doctor ordered for both of you! Your story sounds so familiar to me since I went through much the same thing with my mom except for, as I told you in another response, she gave up and stopped eating. She lived a long time with COPD and CHF though, it was when she fell and hurt herself just enough to require PT and to make her afraid to even try to walk on her own anymore, even with her walker. That's when she quit eating and drinking and seemed to lose all her joy in living. Had she been at home with our cats, her TV so she could see her favorite shows and curse at it and good food to eat that she liked I think she'd still be here.
Blessings and hugs to you all! I hope all was well with your daughter, and if she didn't have a really good excuse for not being there on time give her an extra swift kick from me!
Annie
@ElicBxn (64169)
• United States
21 Dec 08
That's so GREAT!
We went over and spent about 4 hours at my brother's this afternoon, then my mom started suggesting I take her home.
Only problem is that I can't take her home, we can't get her into my van! I told her that Patty was going to have to do it (since I knew my brother was going to go out now that football was on!)
She told me several times she was ready to go, nothing could change her mind, she was ready to go!
@Feona1962 (7526)
• United States
21 Dec 08
That is such good news..
I am thinking she is home by now...don't worry about the tree..
Maybe she will be glad to be there and watch you and your daughter put it up..then she will feel like she is part of it..
I am so happy she is home..Merry Christmas to all of you...
