Is being lonely away from home an excuse to cheat?

Being lonely away from home should not be an excuse to cheat. I cannot see how this excuse can be justified, A person who loves his/her spouse and family simply do not have the time to think of another person while being abroad. The yearning would make the person more loyal. It is when the decision to forget and to have some enjoyment that the problem starts to surface. I am a man who was separated from the family, that is why I can relate to the situation. I did feel lonely, but the memories of the family back home eased the feelings of emptiness. So loneliness cannot be an excuse for infidelity. all the best, rosdimy

not really an excuse, but, a dangerous and tempting opportunity to cheat. That's why it's called "survival of the fittest", because the strongest are the ones who came home with fidelity still intact.

I think it is a way of trying to justify the event(s), but it doesn't really excuse the behavior. After all, the wife or husband at home is also alone and could seek out other people as well should they decide too...Loneliness is hard to deal with, but not impossible and there are a lot of lonely people who do not cheat. I don't think that this excuse justifies that actions that went into cheating.

i don't think it will ever be a good excuse for cheating. if you truly love someone and you were thinking of him/her/your family you will never do such a thing. there are always a thousand reasons that would try to justify the act while there are also a thousand of ways to overcome the temptation if you truly wanted to. however, human as we are, we are easily tempted and it's a good thing to know that you have gotten over it. the nest important thing to staying away from temptation is to be repentant when you have already committed the mistake. merry christmas and a happy new year to you. happy mylotting!

I am out of the country also and the number one problem that one has to face is LONELINESS. I, too experience loneliness, all the time, whenever i go home from work and i'm the only one in my room, definitely, loneliness comes. for me, it is not an excuse to find someone just to ease away the loneliness that one feels. you can have other options in order not to be lonely. watch TV, movies, TV series, or better yet, go somewhere else, explore other places, do some things that you don't usually do, experiment anything, cook, exercise, play sports, meet some new acquaintances, but not to the extent that you are already finding a partner. just to have some conversation with someone, but not deeply too much because feelings may occur. i cannot also blame for those people who really cheated because if that person is dependent too much on a person or someone since childhood, well, tendency is he/she has to find someone to depend on, but as what i have said, its not an excuse still...=)

Lonely? Come on! People tend to think to much of themselves without regard for others whom they professed to love. Cheating is about instant gratification. People think that just because they want something they have the right to have it right then. They don't take into consideration that others have rights as well. So no I don't think there is ever a justification for cheating.

no of course not. foreigners in my homeland do that too. they call it 'looking for escort'. I thought it was just escorting them somewhere but in reality it goes further. so what they are doing is basically cheating, doesn't matter where they are and who they cheat with. it's true that some people honestly say that they are married back where they come from, but doesn't mean they won't go further. in fact they also end up having children then once their contract is finished, they will throw a sack of money and leave.

When you are so far away with your partner there a lots of temptation to make your relation with your partner..... Not only to make your relations with your partner move away with each other and it may also completely forget about your partner or your relations with your partner might end.... In getting far away with your partner it is not the space in between that is measured.... But the faithfulness and trustfulness in between with each other..... gud day modstar.... ^_^

Cheating starts with intention.If at the back of your mind, there is always this flick of the idea of cheating, then what was really going on in the mind will really happen. Personally, "being lonely away from home" is just a scapegoat made by cheatersafterthey have cheated. It's just a crap! Sometimes, between the victim and the cheater, the cheater always ends up to be in the losing end. because the victim may love again, maybe the same level of love, maybe even more. But the cheater can never find the same amount of love again.

i have a friend in philippines working aa a nurse.her husband working abroad as a captain in a ferry.since they are very far to each other her husband hired a girl we call it one night stand and the wife in philippines understand it very well.so i gues depends on the couple.

Nope. of course it's not the reason of doing that, it does not a single bit the reason of doing it. Deep in the person heart there is should be a desire to do that thing ... it was just an excuse of the person of doing the wrong things .... you know, in my opinion an excuse is made to make a wrong thing become a true thing ... I already made similar discussion about long distance relationship, and did you know that there is so much the members of my lot' ter doing the long distance relationship a yearsss and still have a good relationship until now ... But love also need a forgive thing from the partner, we can forgive him/her for what they did, even it is hard to do ... I hope you will find the way GBU

Being lonely away from him is not an excuse to cheat but rather a temptation to cheat or potential to do so. I dun know how long you meant by the time frame away but if u are referring to years abroad and away from home, chances are it is difficult for your partner not to have his/her own social circle and also friends who may got along well with them and this may led to other developments. We human are emotional beings with feelings so few would be able to resist the temptations when another company come along and spend the time together. I am of the opinions that incidents like this must be assess on its case by case basis and see if the fault lies entirely on the other party or i myself have a part to play too in the process esp for the scenario which i cited. However,it is more difficult to accept if the person is only away for weeks and he/she starts to cheat then i would rather give up this partner cos he/she would not be faithful to you.

This excuse can never be justified! First to the party who decided to leave their families here, they should always bear in mind the very why they need to go abroad, second LOYALTY has something to do with this issue. Whether the party is married or not for as long as you left some one waiting for you and hoping for your promises, loneliness is just "an excuse"!

we all know that there is no justification in cheating. before you went abroad your goal is to give your family a good life but then when your already there your goal become to find a new girl because everybody does and just like they say, no matter how good a tomatoe is when put together in a rotten tomatoes they become rotten too. so sometimes i dunno if i can blame those cheaters as well. but being lonely and away from home or because of what they call "in need" is not agood excuse. you may not notice the conseqences of this inpresent but when you grow old and your children were old enough to understand too. you will realize then, the worst thing youve ever done well if you still have family then to call.

They're only human beings, capable of making mistakes. But, of course, cheating is always bad and very hurting for the other. I guess, we can forgive, but it will be very hard to forget. I hope partners are loyal and think of the welfare of the family always.

Hey there, I think there's no excuse for cheating. But I don't think it makes it better if we linger around the matter and question why people cheat. Sometimes these kind of things just can't be taught and if the partner can cheat, then he/she is not a very good person.

No it not a good one. It just means that it wasn't ment to be. It can be to a point as if they are gone for a very long long time and no longer love the person they were with when they left. But then most of the time I think Men are dogs anyway. As have had that happen and they were 2 miles from me. So yeah they cheat because they do. And women are the same way so there you go. Some cheat and some don't that is life. Your friend onlydia

No, that is never a good excuse to cheat. As a matter of fact, I don't think there is such a thing as a good excuse to cheat. I am a firm believer that if you are unhappy with your current partner, you should tell them so and break it off before you even think about looking elsewhere.

There's no good excuse for cheating, especially in a marriage .. which is why long distance relationships are very hard ... here's hoping that couples who had to be part are strong enough for the challenge