Said Goodbye to My Son for A Year ....

@Rosekitty (19396)
San Marcos, Texas
December 26, 2008 9:14pm CST
Yesterday i had a hard time saying Goodbye to My 24 yr old third Son that is in the Army but i know i had to be strong for him since i didn't want him to worry about me. He will be gone for a year deployed for the second time so this was a happy and sad Christmas holiday for all the family. Most times when i hear 24 yrs i think of someone that has a life ahead of them, but i still see him as my youngest Son and only want the best for him and will be glad when he's back with us again. A friend here lost a Nephew that age this past week and it affected me in how we can have someone one moment and they can be gone the next, My Son is alive, but his Nephew died, but somehow i feel his loss just the same. Call Someone up or say a kind word to a lost friend, but try to Stay safe for their are many idiots out on the Road and I wonder if they ever thought about If Someone Loved Them enough to worry over to keep safe too. Have you done a kind deed for someone this year?
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@howard96h (11643)
• New York, New York
29 Dec 08
I understand how you feel about your son, my sister has been deployed 3 times already and each time it happens it doesn't get any easier. I wish your son a safe deployment and return.
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@Rosekitty (19396)
• San Marcos, Texas
29 Dec 08
Howard..and here i felt bad about my Son's 2nd time..Hope your Sister has a safe deployment too and a quick return home..
@howard96h (11643)
• New York, New York
29 Dec 08
It is never easy for any of us. The thing my sister hates most of all is leaving her 9 year old daughter every time she goes. My niece just doesn't understand why mommy has to go there. The only positive thing is many of our military have access to get online so this is a huge improvement from the days of sending snail mail.
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@Rosekitty (19396)
• San Marcos, Texas
23 Aug 15
@howard96h Howard..someone liked this discussion and i was notified about it and saw you and me discussing about our loved ones..My Son is home safe and sound..How about your sister?
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• United States
28 Dec 08
Rosekitty I hope your son finds his way home safely when his tour is up. You are right life is so precious and in these times no one takes the time to acknowledge anyone anymore. There are no more weekly Sunday dinners with 2-3+ generations family members like they did in the old days. I think we as a society need to take the time to slow down and not forget what's really precious.... time and family. I don't know what kind deeds I have done. I don't take note. But We do help out our elderly neighbor and snow blow her drive way or cut her lawn; as all the neighbors take turns helping her. We've also been helping out my hubby's parents as his father has cancer and his mother's mobility has gone down hill so we do what we can when we have the time as we are atleast 30min away.
@Rosekitty (19396)
• San Marcos, Texas
29 Dec 08
Thanks Snugglebunnies I too feel the same and thats why i try to keep my family close and have meals together at home rather then going out.. Prayers for your husbands Father and Mother from me.. Huggs
• United States
29 Dec 08
Thanks :0) It's not easy but I've been down a similar road with my own mother already.
• Regina, Saskatchewan
27 Dec 08
Calling my favorite kitty right now (well typing anyway) and sharing the love of a mother sending her beloved son 'away' to a life he has chosen, but keeps us up at nights.................... We have all suffered losses this year, and I expect that next year won't be much different in that respect Rosekitty. But here and other places, you have the love and support of people who care, share and understand. God Bless you and yours.
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@Rosekitty (19396)
• San Marcos, Texas
28 Dec 08
Thanks Sparky..yes i know he joined but he was so immature then and after 6 yrs he thought he'd get out since thats all he signed up for, but they pulled this Stop Loss on him where he has to stay in till they let him out if he's needed overseas..He learned the hard way like most of the young that signed up.. huggs
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• Regina, Saskatchewan
29 Dec 08
Oh! I didn't realize! Oh kitty, how hard for you! But as you say.........the young learn. I'm not savvy on how your military works, but I can tell you that I support them completely! I will keep you and yours in my prayers. Much love.
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• United States
27 Dec 08
Just reading this made me cry, Rosie. My youngest is just about your son's age, and our friend's nephew's age. I can't imagine losing either of my kids, maybe that is why I do cry when I read discussions like this one, and the one earlier in the week, because it could happen, and I know that. As for having done a kind deed for someone this year, I have tried, I really have. Sometimes just a smile at someone who seems to be down. A quick note to let a friends here know that I am thinking of them in times of grief or trouble. I still believe that people are basically good, and if someone looks like they need a hand, mine is extended. Most of the time, my faith in mankind is restored each time I hold out my hand to someone.
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@Rosekitty (19396)
• San Marcos, Texas
28 Dec 08
Oh Bo..I didn't mean to make you cry but i understand since these and this past week make me cry to..I'm very sensitive to others feelings and their plights.. huggs and Love you
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• United States
28 Dec 08
Awwww, love you, too. I'm very sensitive to people's feelings, as well. Sometimes, even people I don't know. That, and things like this discussion just make me realize how fortunate I am that both my kids are still alive, considering some of the things that have happened the past couple of years. Then, when I think that I have my kids still with me, and others are losing theirs, or they are going off for military reasons, my heart breaks for those parents, and their families. And, my kids always wonder why I tell them I love them every single time they walk out the door.
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@ElicBxn (61137)
• United States
27 Dec 08
I try to do lots of kind things for people, but do I manage? Well, you'd have to ask the recepients and they aren't on mylot so you can't.
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@Rosekitty (19396)
• San Marcos, Texas
27 Dec 08
Just you saying you do kind things is good enough for me to know.. huggs
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@ElicBxn (61137)
• United States
27 Dec 08
I try to do nice things. Honestly, if I didn't have bad luck, I'd have no luck and that goes with things backfiring on me some times.
@guybrush (4660)
• Australia
29 Dec 08
Rosekitty, I know how you feel saying goodbye to your son - and I'll be wishing blessings for his safe return. I have a daughter in the Air Force, and although she's not being deployed at the moment, her partner is leaving on January 6 for Afghanistan. He's been home to see his Mum this Christmas, and she's obviously feeling just as you are. It does make you want to tell all young people to cherish their lives and take care of themselves. Best wishes for the new year.
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@Rosekitty (19396)
• San Marcos, Texas
29 Dec 08
Thanks Guybrush yes i sure wish i had more time with him since the time seemed to have flown by..my blessings to your daughters partner too and huggs and Love to your family
@pyewacket (44032)
• United States
28 Dec 08
Oh, Rosekitty I'm sorry to hear that your son is to be sent out again and it must be so hard for you, but think of yourself blessed in this way that at least he was home for Christmas, when so many in the Army weren't. Each night on the news for the past month, they would broadcast a video message from some Army member in service and I would say a silent prayer for them that they would remain safe and would come home soon As for if I do good deeds? I would like to think I have, even if it's to give an encouraging word to someone when they are feeling down
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@Rosekitty (19396)
• San Marcos, Texas
29 Dec 08
Thanks Pye's mommy.. I wish i had known earlier but i think he didn't want to tell me it was so quick so this way i was more in a shock knowing Christmas was it and not thinking about it for weeks. Huggs and love
@bunnybon7 (43852)
• Holiday, Florida
28 Dec 08
that has got to be the hardest thing. i will pray for him. i think all our men in service are hero's already just for going there. you know, i think i've only done kind deeds for my kids.this year. cant remember.
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@Rosekitty (19396)
• San Marcos, Texas
28 Dec 08
Thanks Bunny..I appreciate the kindness and prayers...
@AmbiePam (51253)
• United States
27 Dec 08
I can't imagine how hard that must be. I hope you can keep the memories of this Christmas fresh so when he comes home again you can just pick up right where you left off. : )
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@Rosekitty (19396)
• San Marcos, Texas
28 Dec 08
Thanks Pam..thats a great way of looking at it..now to plan next Christmas only 363 days to go...
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@tessah (6621)
• United States
27 Dec 08
i dunno.. maybe im weird or something. or maybe it was losing my mom at 18 that drilled this into my brains at a rather young age. i dunno. but i dont take people or their presence in my life for granted. i always tell those i care for that i love and appreciate them on a regular basis. even if it does make me feel all sappy and sentimental, i make a point of it. because i know full well there isnt always a "next time" or a "tomorrow" to do it. godspeed to yer son on a safe return home.
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@Rosekitty (19396)
• San Marcos, Texas
28 Dec 08
Thanks Tess and i know what you mean..we should always treat eachother with love and respect and i hugg and kiss all my kids and grandkids even if i've just seen them an hour ago..
@winterose (39897)
• Canada
27 Dec 08
I understand how you feel hon, yes I do lots of good things for people all year and they do the same for me, I am blessed like that.
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@Rosekitty (19396)
• San Marcos, Texas
28 Dec 08
Thanks Winterose.. its nice to know more people do good deeds..
@ellie333 (21018)
27 Dec 08
Hi Rosekitty, Oh I realy feel for you, that must have been so bitter sweet yesterday. I work at a Royal Marine camp and he calls it mummys soldier land and says he will be a soldier when he grows up but he will probably change his mind by then. I am so sorry to hear of the loss of your friends nephew also which like you say you feel the loss too. Life is unpredictable so I agree let your loved ones know you love them. Thoughts and prayers are going out to your friend to give them strength at this sad time and to all his nephews familys and friends. I have done a few good deeds this year but 99% were done secretly without person receiving kowing where it had come from and the other I needed some details so they were aware. Something small can make a big difference. Huggles. Ellie :D
@Rosekitty (19396)
• San Marcos, Texas
28 Dec 08
Thanks Ellie.. When My Son signed up it was suppose to be for 6 yrs and they pulled this Stop los on him so it will turn out to be close to 8 by the time he gets out finally..he was so immature when he signed up since all his friends were and the war hadn't started yet..now he knows and could kick himself... Huggles and Love
@Carolyn63 (1403)
• United States
5 Jan 09
Rose, I am so glad your son was home for the holidays. I know it was difficult to see him off again. Please know that you and your family are always in my thoughts and prayers. You know where to find me if you need to talk sweetie. Love ya, Carolyn
• United States
27 Dec 08
wow that must have been very hard, but remember alot of moms had to do the same as well. good luck to you both!
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