forgive and forget

@chevill (316)
Philippines
December 28, 2008 2:43pm CST
do you also forget everything when you say you already forgiven someone?
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5 responses
@wolfie34 (26790)
• United Kingdom
3 Jan 09
No, it would always be at the back of my mind, just in case it happens again in the future, forgiveness is one thing but being able to forget is totally different, if someone has hurt us, broken our trust or treated us badly we remember this hurt and it is stored because we are upset that this person has done this to us and that is why it becomes a scar. The scar never heals, time does heal but that scar is still there and it can be opened again easily if the same thing happens. Forgiveness can be hard at times, but I think forgetting is almost impossible.
• Malaysia
30 Dec 08
No I don't. What had happened is always in my memory, in my heart, somewhere within me. Although I don't think about it, I'm sure it's there, the good things and the bad things. I try to brush the bad things away when they pop up though. Anyway, forgiving someone doesn't mean you forget about what happened or forget part of what happened. I believe forgiving means something better than that. True forgiveness comes from accepting what had happened. If you truly forgive a person, you still remember what he did, but probably you trust him not to make the same mistake again and give him a chance to fix what he had done wrong.
@xtian04 (282)
• Philippines
29 Dec 08
No, its very hard to forget. It's easier to forgive but forgetting is another story tell. We should learne our lessons that's why we need not to forget. It's okay to forgive and let forgetting to come on its usual time. we need not force it. :P
@eseomame (1146)
• United States
28 Dec 08
Forgetfulness, as I always try to explain is not a conscious act. it's something that comes subconscously so, we cannot decide to forget something when we want. It just happens.
@fasttalker (2797)
• United States
28 Dec 08
I believe forgiveness is something we have to work on. Especially if it is something that has hurt you. Forgetting is not something that our mind will allow us to do. Forgivness really has nothing to do with the other person it has to do with yourself. I made that about as clear as mud didn't I?