Sad News About My Mother
By Wendy
@jerzgirl (9233)
United States
December 29, 2008 12:37pm CST
I'm sad to have to say this, but Mom passed away this morning around 20 minutes to 11 EST. She had been awake, had eaten breakfast, and then had to use the commode. But, she wasn't able to get off the bed to go to the commode. So, she said, "just lie me back down." I got her comfortable and went to the kitchen to call hospice who hadn't been here since Wednesday. I went back in to Mom to give her the pill for the mucus in her throat and she was unresponsive. I called her loudly several times, nothing. I put her bipap mask on her, hoping that would be what she needed. But, it wasn't to be. She passed after the mask was on her. I called hospice again and told them I needed a nurse NOW and went back into her. It was over shortly after I got back in the room.
I'm sad. I'm going to miss her more than I probably realize. But, I'm so happy she was home and so happy I was here, even though it wasn't something I wanted to witness. I'm sorry she had so much happen towards the end, yet she never gave up - not really. Her deciding to lie back down was the most giving up she's done all this time.
Anyway, I wanted to let you all know. She led a long life, held on to her good attitude throughout and outlived both husbands (yes - she was married twice. Fifty-five years the second time.) Lived longer than anyone else in her family. She was quite the woman - much stronger than anyone I've ever known.
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55 responses
@leenie50 (3992)
• United States
31 Dec 08
Hi Jerz,
I am so sorry about your loss. I know it was hard to witness her passing at home, but like I told you about my second husband, I was so glad to have him home. I realized how much I appreciated seeing him in his own home feeling much more comfortable than being in the hospital and I know without a doubt your Mother felt the same. There is no place like home! I pray that you were not alone. I'm so happy that she is in peace. I hope you can get some rest and God Bless you sweetie.
leenie
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@gemini_rose (16264)
•
29 Dec 08
I am sorry to hear about your Mum, that is really sad. I am sure it made a difference to her being at home with you and wow she had a good long marriage, 55 years that is a long time!! She sounds like a lovely woman.
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@mynameismine (771)
• United States
29 Dec 08
I so sorry to hear about her passing but it sounds like you gave her the best you could and that was probably the most comforting thing for her (and you) to know in the end ((((hugs))))).
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@ronaldinu (12422)
• Malta
29 Dec 08
Hi Jezgirl, I do offer my sincere condoliences to you in such sad situation. HOwever you appear serene and that you have accepted this life cirumstances peacefully. I do offer my support and I ll do keep your mother in my prayer. Be courageous your own family needs you too. But I do hope that you have a shoulder to cry on. Take care.
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@jillhill (37354)
• United States
29 Dec 08
You have my deepest sympathy! I understand what it's like to lose your mother....and what a gift you gave to her.....to be with her at home when she passed from this world to another....I'll send a virtual hug your way....and this hopefully will comfort you!
MEMORIES
There’s a silence in your life today,
A place no one can share.
A missing part
Within your heart.
For one, that was so rare.
Where memories now must fill the gap
For the voice you’ll never hear
A soft refrain,
Will now remain
Just an echo in your ears.
There’s sometimes disagreements,
Between the people that we love.
But time can heal
No one can steal
Great lessons from above.
So when it’s time to say goodbye
There is no easy way.
Forgive, forget,
Shrug off regret
For there’s nothing left to say.
There’s a silence in your life today
A place no one can share.
But they’re in your heart,
That missing part.
Great love is still so rare.
Jill Holmes
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@busyB4 (874)
• United States
30 Dec 08
Hi Jerzgirl
I can't imagine how hard this is- I will know in time, but this time of year too is a hard time for losing your loved one. I am so glad for you that you had a special mom to enjoy and that you did everything for her you could. Thoughts and prayers are with you. Give yourself time to grieve and cherish the special memroies you had with her.
@Rosekitty (19368)
• San Marcos, Texas
29 Dec 08
I'm so sorry Jerzgirl for your Mothers passing and hope you aren't alone now cause the shock of it will set in and you are going to need someone to hugg..
Like you said at least she was at home and you were there with her..long life with you wasn't enough obviously since you will always miss her..so sad to hear of so many deaths recently and now your Mothers..Thanks for letting us know and huggs for you
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@lovesummer (1162)
• Malaysia
1 Jan 09
I don't know what to say. But I would like to give you plenty of hugss..
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@AmbiePam (85487)
• United States
29 Dec 08
Oh hon, I am so sorry. Even if it was expected it has to be unbelievably hard. I don't think I can say anything that can make you feel better, but I sure will say a prayer for you and the rest of your family. I'm glad you got to spend Christman with her.
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@scarlet_woman (23465)
• United States
8 Jan 09
aww:(
sorry i'm responding late,but my condolences.
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@ajrox1810 (992)
• India
7 Jan 09
Hi,
I am very sorry to hear about your money, I have my deepest sympathy and can understand how will one feel on losing his/her mother, who gave birth to him/her.
But she still led a long and happy life, don't be sad, it's nature's law, we can do nothing about it.
Regards,
AJ-Rox
@schulzie (4061)
• United States
22 Jun 09
I'm so sorry for your loss. I am also very sorry that I did not see this post until now, 6 months after the fact. I know it must be awful to lose a parent. My mother in law passed away 10 years ago and my father in law is 90 years old now and he is very fit. My mother is 82 and in a nursing home. She has dementia and hardly recognizes me any longer.
I am glad that your mother led a nice long life and that she had loved ones around her always and especially in her last hours. You are a good daughter.
@jerzgirl (9233)
• United States
22 Jun 09
Thank you, Schulzie. It was very surreal for quite a while. I still find myself thinking "I need to call Mom".
Things got crazy afterwards, so I'm only just now really hitting all my unresolved discussions. It's going to take a while to get caught up.
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@eaforeman6 (8979)
• United States
29 Dec 08
I AM VERY SORRY TO HEAR ABOUT YOUR MOM. Special prayers for you and now the angels and the lord will be taking care of her. God bless you and give you strength and take care my friend.
@LadyMarissa (12148)
• United States
30 Dec 08
OMG, I am soooo sorry to hear of your loss!!!You must know that she did not give up by laying back down. She knew it was her time & did not want to stress you any more than necessary. She was watching out for you until her last breath!!! I just lost my Mom in October. It is not easy, but there comes a time that we just have to realize it was the kindest thing. They were both suffering & I hated watching mine suffer. Even to the end they were watching out for their little girls!!! May God give you a little peace during this time!!! If you just need someone to listen, I'm usually here!!! BIG huggggg to you!!!
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@SaintAnne (5453)
• United States
29 Dec 08
She's now passing on that strength to you, jerzgirl.
Take care.
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@sweetbabyjane (1929)
• United States
1 Jan 09
I am sorry to hear that your Mother has passed. My prayers are with you. I know it is really a hard thing to go through. In my case, it was my Father that passed on December 18th, 1997. Exactly one week before Christmas. Christmas has been sad for my Mother since then, but this year with her having a 3 year old great-grand daughter that lives with us, I live with my Mother and take care of her since she cannot hear well enough to be alone, she was able to enjoy Christmas. But, of course, we never forget about my Father and I never will. Again, my prayers are eith you and your family.
@roselynm1023 (950)
• Philippines
30 Dec 08
it sad to hear that your mom passed away at this season. in behalf of my family i would like to extend my deepest sympathy. i know how you have been going through i also lost my mama two years back and i know how you feel right now. i am so sure that your mom now is happy where she is. gone are her pains, gone are her worries and gone are the fears. be strong friend for the rest of the family. i know how hard it was loosing a love one. all you have to do is accept that people come and go no matter what happen. you have your mylot family here so support you emotionally whenever you need someone to talk with.
may the grace and strength of the Lord our God be with you and your family.
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