Do Your Parents Embarass You Sometimes by just being a parent?
By tjades
@tjades (3590)
Jamaica
January 1, 2009 2:02pm CST
There are times I am wary of just what is going to pop out of my moms mouth.
Its funny how our parents tend to do or say things that embarass us but then we end up doing the same to our own children.
How often have you been told 'Dont roll your eyes when I'm speaking to you?' and now your own kids may do the same or something similar.
A freind recently shared with me how her father used to drop them off at school but would use a damped handkerchief to wipe their faces clean just before he made them go. To her and her siblings it was embarassing to be cleaned up like that infront of their friends before being sent off.
I am sure the father would have thought of himself as being the good dad who was just doting on his kids and playing a role most dads wouldnt.
Can you remember any embarassments you experienced even during adulthood as a result of your parents just performimg their role?
A freind recently shared with me how her father used to drop them off at school but would use a damped handkerchief to wipe their faces clean just before he made them go. To her and her siblings it was embarassing to be cleaned up like that infront of their friends before being sent off.
I am sure the father would have thought of himself as being the good dad who was just doting on his kids and playing a role most dads wouldnt.
Can you remember any embarassments you experienced even during adulthood as a result of your parents just performimg their role?1 person likes this
9 responses
@DoriLentrich (1016)
• United States
2 Jan 09
It's weird, I wasn't really embarrassed by my parents as a kid. There were times when I was embarrassed for them. But for the most part, my parents never really interfered with me in front of other kids. They had their rules, I knew them, and if I wanted the freedom to do things, I played by them. There were times when they would put their foot down in front of others, but normally, I had to deal with it.
Normally, if my parents did make me feel uncomfortable, it was because they were looking out for me.
@tjades (3590)
• Jamaica
3 Jan 09
Oh those rules. There where times I wanted to bend them even a little just to have some more fun or learn something more. I guess thankfully for them and for me I was not overly adventerous so for the most part those rules were infact observed.
Its good to trust your parents judgement one you know they love you and have your best interest at heart. Still there were things they said or did at times that had me going .
Oh boy....Thanks for sharing Dori. lol
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Oh boy....Thanks for sharing Dori. lol1 person likes this
@DoriLentrich (1016)
• United States
8 Jan 09
There were a few times that my cheeks went red because of my folks. But in the end it was more self-conciousness as opposed to embarrassment. Rules were good. I as adventurous, but I learned early, actions have consequences. Not a bad lesson to carry with you into adulthood. Sometimes my folks still make me a little red in the face, but I'm sure I do the same to them. It would be interesting if you changed the question around. How many times did we embarrass them, growing up?
@Polly289 (269)
• New Zealand
2 Jan 09
Seems to be the nature of teens to feel embarassment at anything their parents do or don't do. You look at your children sideways, and instant embarrassment. I cannot recall feeling like this as a teen. My parents pretty much kept out of our personal lives unless we needed them.
Have to say my own children are a different story. It's usually "shame this and shame that" and, I do know for a fact, that they will experience the very same thing when they become parents. The old saying "what comes around, goes around", comes to mind. There is justice in everything hehe.
Happy NEW YEAR to you and yours
I guess the face of justice comes in so many forms and in so many ways 
@gemini_rose (16264)
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2 Jan 09
Oh dear that is similar to what I do to my boys when I get them to school and notice something on their faces, except I do not use a hankie but my sleeve or finger. I guess as a child my parents mortified me, being seen with them was a no no or even near them was worse. It is funny how I know that my kids will do the same to me but I do not think they should because I do not think I am embarrassing, but I expect that I totally am loL!!!xx
@tjades (3590)
• Jamaica
3 Jan 09
Oh my goodness gemini... do you actually mean your sleeves??? (cover face, hide hide, ). Ha ha...I would have certainly been embarassed.
Its all a part of the parent and child package though and for me it makes the bonds stronger once parents will listen to the veiws of their children.
Thanks for sharing and Happy New Year to You and Yours...
). Ha ha...I would have certainly been embarassed.
Its all a part of the parent and child package though and for me it makes the bonds stronger once parents will listen to the veiws of their children.
Thanks for sharing and Happy New Year to You and Yours...
@mimico (3617)
• Philippines
2 Jan 09
Yeah I know what you mean. My parents don't show off my baby pictures or worse, my ugly adolescent pictures. But they embarrass me sometimes when they start bragging about my accomplishments and they get it wrong and someone in the group KNOWS that it's wrong. Another thing they do is when they tell me to go home early or not to party too late when my friends come to pick me up. It's cute but embarrassing at the same time.
@tjades (3590)
• Jamaica
3 Jan 09
Ouch and ouch . Some parents just have a very hard time letting go and accepting that their child is now an adult and will have to make their own decisions.
its just funny how we end up or will end up doing the same or something similar to our kids. Ah....thanks for sharing mimico. lol
. Some parents just have a very hard time letting go and accepting that their child is now an adult and will have to make their own decisions.
its just funny how we end up or will end up doing the same or something similar to our kids. Ah....thanks for sharing mimico. lol
@mercuryman3a (2477)
• India
2 Jan 09
i find that i do embarass my daughters at times. Infact i say thign scasually on front of my friendsw which they take as embarassment. it is usually things about childhood which I find rather humourous, but probably seen froma young adult's point of view it may be embarassing.if they feel embarassed, i avoid tellign the thing in future.
@tjades (3590)
• Jamaica
3 Jan 09
I love your honesty mercuryman. I must share with you that other than my parents there are certain relatives and family friends that I dread coming upon when friends are present as they are bound to bring up some childhood incidences I'd really rather not share at that moment...
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@greenglitterturtle (2750)
• United States
2 Jan 09
hi tjades...how about as an adult? i was paying a man who did my taxes. i'd been working in peoples homes so i had to take out my own taxes and then pay at the end of the year. so the man tells me how much i owe in taxes. no problem i've saved more than necessary to be safe. i would have some left over and felt good about it. so when the man tells me the amount my mother sounds worried and a little panicky and says do you have enough for that? i was very embarrassed. i told her i planned on it. i paid the good man. and enjoyed my left-over money. but i would keep thinking about how embarressed i felt tho my mom didn't know any better. she just was very concerned for me.
@wingsanctuary (163)
• Malaysia
2 Jan 09
I don't remember any experiences being embarassed by my parents. Perhaps I've always been proud to have a caring mother and grateful of what she did for me, so it never seemed to be anything close to embarassment when it comes to my parents doing something that they think a parent should do.
Your question reminds me of a quote in the book "For One More Day" by Mitch Albom. A mother in the book commented that "a child that gets embarassed by his parents means that he had not lived long enough". There's nothing embarassing to be loved, especially by your parents. ^^
@tjades (3590)
• Jamaica
2 Jan 09
Hi Wings. I must say I do not agree with the author of the qoute you made. Being embarassed is not a curse it is just a natural reaction to something.
I am sure there have been times when I did or said something that was a bit embarassing to my parents. today there are so many embarassing moments that we can sit and talk and laugh about as a family. Facing embarassment by family mmbers as also helped us to establish dos and donts and reveiw thoughts, feelings and actions.
I really have no problem telling my mom that I was embarassed by something she said or did and we certainly do not love each other any less because of it. My nephew is taught to be open about how he feels about things and that includes our actions that he may have a problem with so for us its a normal part of our lives to speak up if we are embarassed by each others actions etc...
for being so proud of your mom and thanks for sharing. lol
for being so proud of your mom and thanks for sharing. lol @bing28 (3795)
• Philippines
2 Jan 09
Oh yes my mom would bring me hot milk inside the classroom when am in grade six although I appreciated that during those days but come to think of it now, it's quite embarassing to my classmates though I still appreciated her for being such a very thoughtful and caring mom. Perhaps my daughter is now experiencing embarassing feeling, when I interefere often as she's in her top of her voice scolding her 2yr old daughter, my apology but zm just correcting her way of disciplining her very young kid...Happy New Year...
