Do you most often see your loved one as perfect? Why?

Whenever I enter a relationship, i am wide awake that my partner has flaws and weaknesses and I must be open to it. No one is perfect in the world where we live in and we can't expect other people to be perfect if we ourselves or should I say I myself is not perfect too. We should embrace the weaknesses and flaws of our partner and never expect them to change for us for that wouldn't work at all. At the start of the relationship if you think you can't live with someone with that kind of attitude or ways why start a relationship. Thanks so much for sharing.

Hi Jena. I've read this and, although it's a serious subject, it did make me smile, which I hope you think is a good thing. As a mature person, I recognised everything you mentioned and thought it a well structured article. There were a few typos, eg 'heed' instead of 'head', and 'use' instead of 'used'. Also a few of the sentences are a bit awkward, mainly where you use the word 'would'. You might benefit from boning up on the use of that word. Hope you find this helpful.

Personally I feel that when you are totally disecting someone from the start without giving them a chance, your relationship is doomed. There is NO way you can really know a person 100% before you marry them. Many things you will find out about them it could be yrs. before it happens and you should just learn to be open and willing to talk about and work out problems as they come your way as well. But when a couple first falls in Love many times you will think that HE or SHE is perfect, and if you are open to change and learning to work at it to overcome any problems that arise, you can have a successful marriage as well. To expect anything else, or not open and willing to give someone a decent chance, you could be cutting yourself short as well. Just my thoughts.

The Boss often asks me what it's like to be perfect Jen!! I usually reply "You're married to me, you tell me!" I think that we see the imperfections in each other, but rise above them. In some cases it endears us to our partners more.

I do see my boyfriend as perfect. I know he's not really PERFECT and he does have some things I wish he didn't have, but if he didn't have those things he wouldn't be the same person I loved! I'm sure he thinks I'm perfect too even though I know there are things about me he wishes he could change. We're "perfect" for each other, LOL.

I agree with your statement. No one is perfect in life. When entering marriage you should have already accept the goods and bads of your partner. You have to be commited. Marriage is a big step in life and one needs to think before saying "i do"

This is the Chemistry of any relationship of love. It is surprising how the people start appreciating those elements in their counterparts, which are otherwise deemed to be ugly in the perspective of the rest of the world. I believe, this happens due to some chemistry, which will take ten thousand of years to decipher. And while love happens in the world of meta physics, marriage is a reality. Marriage brings down the persons from the heaven of love to the reality of the material world. And the real challenge takes place at that time. It is sad side of most of the love stories.

It comes from a lack of communication and put too much into the 'honeymoon phase' and how one is treated during this time. Giving reality alittle more time to set in before making the big dive into marriage would help considerably also. Pretty important stuff. Would save alot of marriages!