Forget what you are gonna do in 2009..... What are you NOT gonna do?

@James72 (26829)
Australia
January 5, 2009 1:19am CST
There have been numerous discussions on resolutions for 2009 and I do not wish to add to the many. I am though interested to hear everyone's take on the other side of the fence here and rather than have members tell me what they are GOING to do this year as part of their resolution promises to themselves; what are you all NOT going to do in 2009? As for me, I am NOT going to drink as often. I am NOT going to get as frustrated so easily; and I am NOT going to let anything stand in my way of achieving my goal of getting my Wife and I back to Australia by the end of the year. Most importantly, I am NOT going to allow myself to believe for one second in this doom and gloom for 2009 that economists etc are predicting and will maintain a positive and optimistic mindset always. And what about you? What are you NOT gonna do in 2009?
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@Wizzywig (7858)
6 Jan 09
I am not going to grow up and behave like a responsible adult. I am not going to save my best clothes for a 'special occasion'. I am not going to keep trying to 'please all of the people all of the time' because I end up pleasing no-one (least of all myself!)
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@James72 (26829)
• Australia
7 Jan 09
A "Peter Pan" mentality for 2009 sounds like a pretty good focus to me Wizzywig! And wear your best clothes whenever you like just to please yourself I reckon. I came to grips with the fact that I can't make everyone happy all the time a while back thankfully and it has eased my stress considerably. I wish you luck in achieving the same goal. Happy 2009!
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@Wizzywig (7858)
7 Jan 09
Thanks for your good wishes James! I suspect I was born with a Peter Pan mentality & I plan to hang on to it! I think its time I made up for not having had a mis-spent youth
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@James72 (26829)
• Australia
7 Jan 09
More like a "mis-placed" youth Wizzywig and now you've located it! Enjoy your second wind then and if you decide to play cowboys and injuns or somethin', count me in!
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• United States
10 Jan 09
I am NOT going to quit smoking. I am NOT going to quit drinking. I am NOT going to get married. I am NOT going to go on a diet. I am NOT going to make a million dollars on MyLot. I am NOT going to sweat the small stuff... not even the big stuff. I am NOT going to row upstream. I am NOT going to sell my stuffed owl in a yard sale. But I cannot forget what I DO want to do, even though you have requested it. The ONE thing I REALLY want to do in the coming year is pee my pants a few times from laughing so hard.
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@James72 (26829)
• Australia
10 Jan 09
I see you have managed to embrace a hedonistic mentality for the coming year and you gotta love that! Personally I am trying to stop drinking and am succeeding so far, but smoking will have to wait I'm afraid. I'd be reluctant to part with a stuffed owl myself actually. Thins like that don't grow on trees and it does sound like an interesting conversation starter! As for the peeing your pants part, I hope I will be able to contribute in some way to that goal, let's see. It may be wise to reinforce that goal by staying the hell away from board games too by the way so you don't get your anger up! I am wondering though whether you'd be prepared to row upstream if mylot had a million dollars waiting for ya? I have worked out a rough time-line for when I will reach a million bucks on here and as long as I live until at LEAST the year 2367, I may just make it!
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@James72 (26829)
• Australia
11 Jan 09
Wal-Mart sell friggin' stuffed owls??? It's a shame you didn't pick up several at the time zig as you could have set up a colony of sorts! (I think they call a group of owls a "knowledge of owls") I can relate to the satisfaction of smashing the vaccuum cleaner parts too. It wasn't a Dyson brabded one was it? I have come so close to smacking my own laptop before, believe me. There is a game I play that involves strategy/blowing up/shooting stuff and it takes ages to get to the final stages. If I die before the final stages I have a massive hissy fit! One of my 2009 goals is to not get so worked up over things like this but I have failed already this years so I'm gonna have to keep working on this one I think. lol. And now that you mention your own million dollar timeframes through mylot, I think I may have been a tad optimistic. Reviewing my own prediction figures, unless I invested in Gold or something along the way with my earnings, I guess I'd have to add at LEAST another 500 years!
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• United States
12 Jan 09
No, it was a Hyla. I figured with 'German engineering' IT should be a damn good vacuum. Well, they call it an air cleaning system and a vacuum, and it does suck up good, hehehe, but that one nozzle... man! It was called a 'power nozzle'. It had power all right... the power to make me CRAZY!! And I can't play ANY video game without a steady stream of foul language issuing forth from my dainty delicate lips. Hahahahha... yeah, I think another 500 years added to your original estimate is wise.
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• United States
6 Jan 09
I am NOT going to let someone else's bad mood ruin my good attitude. I am NOT going to say I can't when I know I can. I am NOT going to feel badly if something I try to do does not succeed, at least I tried. I am NOT going to let my friends with talent let it lie dormant another year. I am NOT going to doubt myself or my own talents. I am NOT going to be a grouch. And, I am NOT going to leave this place.
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@James72 (26829)
• Australia
6 Jan 09
Each and every one of those "NOT" goals are very valid Bo and I am sure you will achieve them all! It's all about attitude and self belief and once you have this aspect imbedded within, then nothing or no-one's gonna stop you! The worst thing any of us can do is become complacent or full of self doubt. Nothing ventured, nothing gained is the order of the year and we should all go for it! Thanks for sharing these ones as I may embrace some of 'em myself I think.
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• United States
6 Jan 09
Well, thanks to the encouragement of my Mom and some of my friends here, James, I KNOW I can do whatever I put my mind to, next. I am so sending you energy and whatever else I can to get you home. I cannot imagine being away from my home for as long as you have been. WoooooHooooo! James is going home this year!!! Yea!!!!!
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@James72 (26829)
• Australia
6 Jan 09
That I am Bo, that I am! Thank you for the encouragement and support and you of course have mine in return always! I have already told my Wife that when we do step out into the street from the airport in Australia, I'm gonna kiss the ground! I will get a few strange looks believe me, but I couldn't care less. lol.
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@hiddenwing (3721)
• China
23 Mar 09
Oh, I am sure you will make it! Blessings! Well, I am not going to drink too much coca colar;I am not going to make others getting that jealous of me.Ok, let me get to the point! I am not going to forget my dreams! I just checked your profile in order to find some interesting discussions! Oops, there was a pic of yours there, amazing! You look so gorgesous! Thus, don't worry, sir. You will get a princess, which is just a snap! To be honest, it is sort of applepolish, lol! I don't know weather a westerner looks good,fair or...It is just that I can only evaluate Chinese, Japanese, Korea and Southeast Asian people! Anyway, you are a great person!
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@James72 (26829)
• Australia
23 Mar 09
Thank you for the compliments hiddenwing! You are a wonderful person yourself. I already have my Princess by the way and she's Asian herself, so comes under your evaluation criteria! lol. We have been together for a number of years now, married for two and I couldn't be happier! Good luck with not drinking Coca-Cola, because that stuff IS pretty bad unfortunately. And never, ever forget your dreams because these are where all our positive realities start from! Thanks for the response hiddenwing.
• China
24 Mar 09
Oh, sorry, my English is very bad! So, I just misunderstood some stences! So, what does that mean? Oops, I can't remember the stence though! You know, there was a movie called Australia, which hit the theather like a speeding train about a month ago! When we watched the movie, some people screamed that how handsome the main actor was ! Well, his name is Hugh Jackman! Do you know that guy? I couldn't help wondering at the time! Is he handsome or not? I really don't know about that! For example, if you asked a panda how is the dog looking, the panada might tell you that I don't know about that! On the other hand, if you asked a panda about another panda, the panda would konw it! Haha, maybe the metaphor is not so appropriate! Never mind! You know, I am far from that talented like you! Thus, I can't make a good sentence! Anyway, I guess you are very handsome!
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@James72 (26829)
• Australia
24 Mar 09
I do know of Hugh Jackman, yes. He was actually voted as "The Sexiest Man Alive" in 2008, so I think his handsome tag is well deserved! I've seen this movie too and I'm not sure if I liked it or not! lol. It was certainly a long movie, that's for sure. And never worry about your English, hiddenwing! I can understand you perfectly well and that's what matters. And for the record, if you asked a panda about another panda, the first thing he'd want to know is if the other panda's getting any of his bamboo! If the answer's yes, then he ain't gonna be happy about it!
@myklj999 (32719)
• Olney, Illinois
10 Jan 09
I am NOT gonna answer this discussion in 2009! Wait a minute...I just did, didn't I? DAMMIT! Well... I am NOT gonna buy a brand new car. I am NOT gonna go to the moon. I am NOT gona get married to wife #5. I am NOT gonna quit smoking...probably.
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@James72 (26829)
• Australia
10 Jan 09
It's OK mykl 'cos I'm NOT gonna reply to you if you respond to this discussion anyways. (Besides, I'm too busy planning a moon trip with your future 5th wife)
@livewyre (2455)
12 Jan 09
I think the moon holiday may involve a 'non-smoking' travelling environment, so be careful you don't flunk two resolutions in one go.... When James gets back from the moon with your future Mrs Myk#5, I'm gonna buy her a car...
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@James72 (26829)
• Australia
12 Jan 09
No smoking on the moon trip??? Well forget that then. I'll just wait until you get that new car instead. lol.
@SaintAnne (5453)
• United States
5 Jan 09
For 2009: I am NOT going to get a bluetooth. Might as well take a year to live by principle. I am NOT going to give in to tailgaters. I am NOT going to change lanes or go faster and speed some more. I am NOT going to let myself be confused with people using double negatives all the time. I DON'T NOT supposed it will be too hard to understand. I am NOT going to get annoyed by people saying "Like" every other word and then find myself doing the same thing. I am NOT going to let this discussion delay me from starting my day today.
@James72 (26829)
• Australia
5 Jan 09
Good plans SaintAnne! I am not going for a bluetooth either and will try to keep all of mine as white as possible for the entire year. And those people that ain't got no time to watch their use of double negatives really do need to work on their vocabularies in my opinion. I hope this response didn't delay your day either otherwise your point of not spedding may have to be ignored just one more time! Happy New Year to you and have a good day at work.
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@SaintAnne (5453)
• United States
6 Jan 09
Ha ha, yesterday was my day off. I was delayed for five minutes. Boyfriend had to wait for me for five minutes. I did not drive so no speeding for me. Besides, no driving violations for me whatsoever in the years I've been driving. Knock on wood!!!!!!!
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@James72 (26829)
• Australia
7 Jan 09
* James has visions of SaintAnne rapping her knuckles against her own head because she DID say "knock on wood" after all! *
@mimpi1911 (25475)
• India
5 Jan 09
I am not going STOP panda spanking. I think that would take care of all. And James, Did you say you get frustrated!!?? I don't believe that! And did you say NOT Drink? What about smoking?
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@James72 (26829)
• Australia
5 Jan 09
What a wonderful thing to commit to mimpi! I never mentioned the same but I shall NOT stop panda spanking myself either. NEVER! Oh and I get frustrated, believe me. You have no idea. And yes, I am trying not to drink at all, but might do so once in a while. I would have drinks every weekend but now I will not be. As for the smoking, guilty as charged I'm afraid! One step at a time yah! Thanks for the comments and spank on!
@mimpi1911 (25475)
• India
5 Jan 09
Hahaha... So, you keep that for 2010? Good! Better late than never. Spank on James...
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@James72 (26829)
• Australia
5 Jan 09
Maybe not even as late as 2010 mimpi. I just need to get my head around these inital things first! I don't wish to be a smoker in Australia though. Not only is it bad for my health, but it's damn expensive there too!
@balasri (26549)
• India
21 Mar 09
I am definitely not going to worry abut not having enough money. I will earn sufficient amount.
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@James72 (26829)
• Australia
21 Mar 09
Good attitude to have, bala! Especially when it comes to money. Many of us have been guilty of focusing on what we DON'T have rather than on what we do; and this is just not productive. You WILL earn what you need to be happy and healthy, I'm sure of it! Thanks for the response.
@balasri (26549)
• India
22 Mar 09
I was able to make the ends meet so far.With the new placement company I have started I can see the silver lining and feel confident that I am going to be more rich.
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@James72 (26829)
• Australia
22 Mar 09
"Rich" is about so much more than just money bala! I wish you every success.
@makingpots (11920)
• United States
23 Mar 09
I am not going to answer new year resolution discussions in a timely manner. I am not (so it seems) going to leave myLot as I believed I would at the time this discussion was written. I am not going to avoid older discussions on the lot..... some pretty awesome ones have been popping up lately.
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@James72 (26829)
• Australia
23 Mar 09
I'm happy to see that you'vre managed to live up to your first goal already then! It's great to hear that you've decided to stay on here as well. Isn't it interesting how all these old discussions are popping up! I had the very first discussion I EVER started come to life a few weeks back. I couldn't believe it as it was almost 3 years old! Thanks for the response makingpots.
@makingpots (11920)
• United States
23 Mar 09
Oh, I just have to ask which one was your very first one? The dinner party? My first several were so lame that I hope they are forever lost!! I was a very slow learner around the lot.
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@James72 (26829)
• Australia
23 Mar 09
The dinner party discussion was my very first one I believe, yes. I have some that I'd love to remain buried too and thankfully none of those have reared their heads to date!
@livewyre (2455)
6 Jan 09
I am NOT going to spend any money...
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@James72 (26829)
• Australia
6 Jan 09
I would love to commit to something similar livewyre, but alas, it is not something I could possibly succeed at. It would be nice to be able to survive without ever having to spend though! Thanks for your response.
@livewyre (2455)
12 Jan 09
Darn it, I bought a packet of pink balloons - I just couldn't resist!
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@James72 (26829)
• Australia
12 Jan 09
Failed already and it's only the 12th of January! Next year livewyre..... Next year! lol.
• Philippines
6 Jan 09
I am not going to get anger easily. I will never drink as often as 2008, also smoking..hahaha, i just finished 3 sticks earlier,haay! So many bad influence around me, how can i be able to succeed? Help me.................
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@James72 (26829)
• Australia
6 Jan 09
I would help you if I could chico, however as we know, it comes from within! I am cutting down on drinking also, but I will focus on not smoking another time I think. One step at a time for me otherwise I will get too overwhelmed I reckon. Yes, there are many bad influences in our lives, but I guess all we can do is our best and try not to be too swayed by others. Thanks for your comments and welcome to mylot!
• Philippines
6 Jan 09
Thank you, i really appreciate! How i wish we could overcome it!
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@James72 (26829)
• Australia
6 Jan 09
No need to wish so hard chico, because we CAN! We are Masters of ourselves if we can maintain discipline with all we do. It sure isn't easy, but working on changing habits and ultimately our mindsets will significantly assist us to achieve anything in life we desire.
@cyberfluf (5004)
• Netherlands
5 Jan 09
I'm not to fond of resolutions either, I think setting small goals throughout the year is much more fullfilling and it keeps you motivated to have small victories every now and then. Also, if you fail it's only a minor setback instead of your whole resolution blowing up in your face. If we are talking what I am NOT going to do: - I am not going to be frustrated easily - I am not going to get a big loan for my college (but instead pay for it myself through part time work/part time studies) - I am not going to spend less time with my friends - I am not allowing myself to let people cross my boundaries
@cyberfluf (5004)
• Netherlands
6 Jan 09
Better yet, James, DO cross my boundaries every now and then and give me a chance to tell you not to in a good but sturdy manner so I can learn how to keep my boundaries. It's better to practice this with people who do not intentionally want to cross your boundaries and can take the feedback . By the way, I made a comment in the 'grilled cheese sandwich' topic in the interest of panda spanking that you might enjoy!
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@James72 (26829)
• Australia
7 Jan 09
OK. I will hover over your boundaries from time to time to ensure you are kept on your toes! I will also head off to the grilled cheese discussion to view your brilliance!
@stella1989 (2274)
• India
23 Mar 09
I can't even plan my single day ahead.. Even if I try for sake of my studies I fail that too consistently!! So planing the Year ahead is quite impossible for me. But yes one does take care about not falling in the same pits again and again.. Sigh.... AS for the year ahead .. *I'll try not to fall in any fights with my parents. *Will NOT overeat during my break fast ..in fact I will not overeat ever!! *And at last like always I will NOT go INSANE while trying to make my life little more normal.. like others.. Like having some good friends, flirting with guys sneaking out of my house etc etc... Ummmm can't think of any thing else.. its very hard you know!
@James72 (26829)
• Australia
23 Mar 09
The way I see it is that if we take care of each day constructively and positively, then the weeks, months and years will take care of themselves! You have yourself some good goals for the year here though, so I wish you every success in realizing each and every one of them! Thanks for the response stella.
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@LittleMel (14036)
• Canada
22 Mar 09
for sure I won't ever use credit card anymore it's hard not to, especially now that our savings are really low du to lay offs but at least if we ever lose the house and the shop we don't have too many credit card debts they are mostly interest and this and that fee anyway
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@James72 (26829)
• Australia
22 Mar 09
I try to be very disciplined with my credit cards too. It can be so tempting at times to use them, but if we're able to be strong and only keep them for emergencies, then it's settling to know that we have a back-up. Thanks for the response LittleMel and I hope your shop fares well always!
• United States
21 Mar 09
I am not going to let laziness get in the way of doing what I want to do. I am not going to procrastinate and mess up my grades. I am not going to let my insecurities get the best of me. I am not going to let my fears get in the way of trying something new. These are my top four.
@James72 (26829)
• Australia
21 Mar 09
These all sound like wise and achievable plans for 2009 Cillysophie and best of all, you'll become a better person for making these goals a reality! We're well into the the year now too, so I hope you're succeeding so far! Thanks for sharing them.
@AbbeyB (670)
• Spain
17 Jan 09
Cool question I am NOT going to eat as much, I am NOT going to get stressed so much and I am NOT going to let people upset me.
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@James72 (26829)
• Australia
17 Jan 09
I thought it might be a nice twist on the standard resolution genre! I love my food but want to try to cut down my intake also. So far so good too! I definitely am trying to reduce stress as well and frustration caused by people in parallel. Let's hope we both manage to fulfil these goals! Happy New Year!
@djoyce71 (2512)
• Philippines
10 Jan 09
I don't want to be an impulse buyer again. I want to save a lot this year so I'll avoid spending when not necessary. Life is hard these days.
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@James72 (26829)
• Australia
10 Jan 09
Saving for a rainy day is definitely a wise move djoyce. I refuse to get all caught up in the doom and gloom economic predictions, but I too am making an effort to save. Thanks for the response and good luck kerbing the impulse buying!
@cripfemme (7713)
• United States
10 Jan 09
I'm NOT going to: Go into more friend debt Chicken out of advancing my writing career (I spook sometimes) Make substantial progress on debt reduction Be as anti-social as I have been in 2008 and hang out with people more in reality. Deal with all my life embarrassments,I tend to avoid talking to people when I'm embarrassed. It doesn't help the issue. I need to stop doing the ostrich thing.
@James72 (26829)
• Australia
10 Jan 09
These all sound like solid goals cripfemme and I wish you luck in realizing all of them! From my own experiences, embarrassment can be addressed pretty effectively if you are able to laugh at yourself, so give this a go and maybe the ostrich will disappear for good! Thanks for the response and good luck also with your advanced writing career. I have high hopes for 2009 myself and am confident that you too will have a great year!
@riyasam (16571)
• India
7 Jan 09
james,thank you for your resourceful thinking but what i am gonna do ,was easier.the answers were at the tip of my tongue but this one i will have to think about.as mimpi said,i would never give up on panda spanking and i will try not to argue much and i will try not to get angry very often.
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@James72 (26829)
• Australia
7 Jan 09
NOT giving up on panda spanking is a given riya as it will serve you well throughout the year and actually help you not to get so angry! I will do my part to not MAKE you easily angry too! (Well maybe) Good luck with the goals and be sure to add some more when you think of some.
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@ammie07 (322)
• India
6 Jan 09
very interesting question what am i not going to do this year let me think.......OK here what i am not gonna do in 2009 1]i am not going to trust everyone 2]i am not going to be sad 3]i am not going to sleep at late in night 4]i am not going to use orkut much..........etc i guess the list is endless so i will end it hear and wont bore you much longer[",]
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@James72 (26829)
• Australia
6 Jan 09
It's not boring ammie as we each have our own goals and of course they will be unique in every instance! These look like pretty good plans to me; especially not being sad. I would like to not go to bed so late either, but I have always been a late sleeper so I doubt this will change for me. Maybe you can use that extra time you gain from not using Orkut and use it here instead! lol. Good luck with all of your goals and thank you for the response.