What will be your reaction if.....

I don't like to donate to beggers because if we give money to beggers it is like we are encoraging them to beg but insted of giving money i like to give clothes or like to give them a job so that they can do a job and live on their own. I think we can easily find out beggers who are really in need and who beg to survive.

It is better to help as much as we can afford. Let us not put a limit but we cannot give them our everything.

Hello robert. More than a decade ago when we were still living in the old house with many families, our big door was always open during the day. Some beggars came into our house for food and some for money. Most of them came for food. My father was always giving food and money to beggars who came. My father has a big heart. Even now in his eighties with a very poor sight, when he sees some beggars on the street, he always offers some small money to them. Influenced by my father, sometimes I do the same to give some small money to beggars who ask me for. Take care.

Here we call that "cheek" but you see, I don't open the door to strangers. However one time long ago when I was cold, hungry, and poor, I scraped together $1.25 USD and bought a fish sandwich from a fast food place after work, and was about to bite into it at the bus stop when a beggar came up and said "I'm hungry!" There was a large circle of people around and they must have been very bored because they were all watching with amusement to see what I would do. I said "I've been working nine hours and this was going to be my first food, so I'm hungry too, but if you are really hungry you may have half of my sandwich, as you see I haven't touched it yet." The beggar, however, who looked much better fed than me, appeared to be offended, however, and with a HMMMPPTHHHH said, "SOME people don't LIKE fish!" The people watching were amazed and I heard several saying one to the other, "Did you hear that?! The women offered that beggar her own food and it wasn't good enough." Believe me, after that, nobody gave that beggar any money. They were all shaking their heads in disbelief and several came up to tell discuss their feelings about what they had seen. Most said something like "I cannot believe how rude that beggar was!" I thought it was pretty rude, just as it was rude for the woman to eat your wife's food and then afterwards say that wasn't what she wanted! That is CHEEK! On another occasion, however, a man came off the street into a place I worked and said "I'm hooongry!" and I told him I had eaten almost all my lunch but he could have my orange if he would like it and I held it up for him to see. This beggar took it in both of his dirty hands and shoved the orange, rind and all, into his mouth and devoured it whole, dripping juice onto my desk as he did so. Now that man WAS hungry, so I scrounged around and found him some more food, God Rest His Soul.

What will be ur reaction? If a stranger knocked on my door begging for something, he or she would have to take whatever I was willing to give out. Most of the time I would prefer to give out some food but if they tell me that they prefer money I would say sorry, I don't have money to give you, then I would close up the door. If I'm out in a public place and I'm approached by a stranger and they ask for money usually I will give them a dollar or two, simply b/c we never really know what the person's situation is. They might have just lost a job or gotten kicked out of their house or apartment. Besides a dollar will not make or break me. And it might even help to buy a hungry person a sandwich. We must be careful to not always be so quick to turn people away, for the bible speak that some of them might be an angel in disguise and we are unaware of it.

people have different personalities.. and we cant really tell, what and why they are doing all those things... when some beggar knocks on our door., for sure we'll give him/her food., sometimes we even give them used clothing... atleast we are there to help them even with a small amount of our things and blessings... and we cant judge what they really wanted in return... whats important is we helped them in any ways we can...

Personally for me, it would really depend on the situation. I know there are a lot of people recently out of work and such, but that does not mean that there are still a lot of Scammers out there as well. I think personally it would depend on how they looked, etc. but to go around someone's house and ask for something and then say you were looking for money, that would make me think twice for sure. But personally I guess I would have to go with my gut instinct in whether I would help them or not and then decide how from there.

OMG I first would not have let the person into my home. I also rarely will hand a stranger money, if so it will be little more than a dollar or two. I do give to non-profit organizations, churches, shelters and food banks in my area. As well as volunteer my time. There are so many people that are basically scammers. And I have realized through volunteering that most that are in true need will seek agencies that can help them.

I would tell them that I have no many to give, but I can spare some food for them - they can even take some food with them if they like. One time my husband and I were parked outside a McDonald's in Florida and were getting our kids situated. He was getting ready to go inside for food when a rather ragged looking man came up and asked if he could have a little money for food. I sent him inside with my husband and told my husband to buy him whatever he liked. The man seemed grateful enough. Anyway, the point is, I won't deny that many of these people do need help, but many of them will not use the money in a way that is helpful to them. They should be happy to get food, in my opinion, unless they're really asking for money for another reason - in most cases, anyway. But that's just been my experience.

Hello robert19ph! I would probably not give the money to beggars. Sometimes it's hard to trust someone. If someone is really in need, they will accept whatever you will give. I even heard humors that everybody now used being a beggar as a source of income because they are lazy to find work and worst are begging for money and at the end of day go to casino or other gambling places.

No, I would not give them what they want. I'd give them food, clothing, or a cup of coffee, but not money. Fortunately I don't live in a place where that is an issue, but if someone asked me for money my first response would be an emphatic no. I've only given money a few times, and that was for a specific need. Like the poor devil wandering the mall parking lot in the pouring rain searching for cab fare. I gave him a couple of bucks, and he was grateful. He had quite a few bags, but I wasn't sure what was in them, nor did I care. There is a reason for the saying...Beggars can't be choosers. If they're choosy, they haven't been begging very long. :)

i really wonder how beggars even ask for choices !!! This has happened with me quiet a few times. I am in the view that begging should be completely dissuaded. Those who are really dependent like the old & the disabled should be helped by the government. As per your question,if i hear someone exercising options in begging,i deny him on face.I hate those who can earn their living by them selves but choose begging as their profession. You have a nice time at mylot.

Hi First thing beggars have no choice. So after she was fed there should not have been any asking further but she did and out of compassion you obliged her second wish too. This is ok on your part that you are not harsh on them. But when it happens in my case I would not listen to her double demand. Yes beggars are there to ask for multiple help but what I feel is necessary for her/him would I give. i go by my choice not by her/his.

Nope. That beggar's very demanding! I would probably leave food and water on the doorstep then leave. I won't give money just because they want it. They might buy something else with it.

my reaction would be not to give money to a beggar who shows up at my door.i don,t i would feel comfortable doing that i would feel they are their for some other reason.the nourisment for the body is more important money is of no use if you are hungry.i give what i want to give a beggar shouldn,t have any demands.just be thankful

You are right my dear. What kind of guts that beggar has! She could even demand! How kindhearted you have been with her and I simply admire you. However we really have to be careful with beggars. Many of them are professional beggars who belong to a syndicate. Many of them prefers money because they have to have something to remit to their syndicate head at the end of the day. Others on the other hand prefers money because they want to have some amount to gamble with. I remember one time I gave some money to a street beggar while parking our car. Then I entered the public market and bought stuff. When I went back to my car, I saw the beggar gambling with his fellow beggars on one side of the public market. From then on, I don't give money to them anymore. If I have some food with me, then I'd give. If they don't wanna accept then fine. They could not get money from me. Another related story I wanna share. One time, an office mate of mine was walking along the street. He saw a beggar lying down near the road. Out of compassion, he got his sandwich from his bag and gave to the beggar. The beggar rejected the sandwich saying he was not hungry and instead asked for money. My office mate would not know whether he would laugh or get angry. Well, he just walked away from the beggar. Of course he did not give in to the beggar's request. Now, do you think all beggars deserve help?

I would give money if I have some but I would probably ask first what they will be doing w/ the money? Well, of course everybody needs it though but I would emphasized to them that I don't have much of it and the best I can give could be some food and clothing. It would sometimes be disgusting if these people would really insist on asking money instead of food and sounds ungrateful for the things given to them. But anyway, it's still better to give than to receive but sometimes we must be cautious as well, as there are people that may just be taking advantage.

Hi robert19ph, You and your wife are very kind, I would give some food to beggar on the street but not money andif they demand for money, then they get nothing, if any beggars comes to my door, well the only thing they will get is a flea in their ears, that is down right taken pi** and I would never let them in my house as they might steal something. You should not be too trusting. Tamara

Well I dont usually open my door for random strangers, but if I happened to make an exeption, and opened my door, I would offer the person information to places that could help, and I would give what I could, and if they complained, and asked for money instead I would tell them that I'm very sorry, but what I gave is all I have to give and I would wish them the best and send them on there way. Besides if a person is really in need of help, they would be grateful for any form of help that they could get, even if its just food and information, and they would not try ask for more then what has already been given that kind of shows ungratefulness.

I have come across that situation more than a few times. My husband and I like to rent movies and one day at the start of winter we came across a homeless man. We felt very sorry for him and decided to give him whatever change we had. He seemed very thankful and my husband and I were glad to help. The next time we went to the movie store the same man weas sitting out front of the store. This time my husband and I had no change as we had simply planned on using our debit card for the movies. We still felt sorry for the man as he only happened to have a few dollars in his collection hat. I decided to go into the sub store beside the movie store and I bought him a sandwhich and a coffee to warm him up. The man said thank you and we went on our way again. The third time that I came across the man, I decided that I would help him by getting him to help himself. I spoke to my father who owns his own construction company and asked him to take the man on, he said that he would hire the man if he showed up for an interview. My father has a very good heart and likes to help people whenever he can, I guess that's where I get it from. The next time that I saw the man I told him that if he could take the change I gave him to go to an interview, he would have a job. I even let him know that he would be able to rent a trailer where he worked so that he would live close to work and be able to walk there. I waited all day for my father's call. It never came, the man never showed up. My first thought was that something had happened and that the man was unable to go, however we stopped seeing him at his usual spot. I was very dissapointed when my father and friends pointed out that he probably didn't want to work hard for his money and that he was most likely happy begging for hand outs. That made me mad. I went to the trouble of finding this man a job so that he would be able to live in a warm home and make money, and in return I got nothing but the thought that I had been taken for a fool. My advice to anyone that is in this same situation is this: Give only food! Giving money to homeless people only creates the opportunity for them to waste it on booze and whatnot. Giving homeless people money also encourages them to continue begging instead of going out and getting a job to help themselves. There are labour offices all over the city and they offer jobs to those that need them, there are almost always hundreds of jobs available and most of them are light labor so just remember that the next time someone comes begging.