my mom sent me a package unimportant things...

Singapore
January 9, 2009 5:04am CST
I didnt back home this christmas vacation, i spent it with my friends and some consulate officer in the philippines. I asked my mom to send me some skincare products and vitamins that usually i bought when i go back home. I never use other product in my lifetime. yes! I always use the particular brand, and never change to other product- even the famous and expensive best popular. I just want these things... And last night i picked the package my mom sent me from my hometown. I was shock when i saw how big the package was. I was thinking, what was that? After i enter my room, i was suprised! Its food, crackers, and other things that i never asked her. I asked my mom to send me 12soaps, but she sent me 2 only. I didnt satisfy, how could that she forgot it? I didnt ask her for sending me those crackers... since for crackers i can buy it here...The box full with snacks and crackers and very few skin care products. Hm... she must be tired to bring these things and sent them to me. Despite my dissatisfaction, i contacted her in the next day because i forgot to buy load for me to able to call her. In the day, i called her. She did pick it and her voice a little bit sounds like start to cry. I think she missed me a lot. I took a breath... "Hi mom... " My mom reply "Hi, dear, are you okay? Did you get the package?" "Yes..." I took a breath again. "THanks to send me. I like the food. Thank you. But send me more soap..." "Ok. Take care... eat well... sleep well...! i missed you" "Ok mom. Thanks. i missed u too" I almost say something to her that the package was so so... so big for crackers n something unimportant. But i did try to imagine how she thinks when we pick the things from supermarket, she maybe wanna send me something that she thinks that i may like. But actually it is NOT! I just dont want make her sad. so i say in very "grateful" tone while talking to her in cellphone. But i really2... actually mad at her. sorry mom!
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7 responses
@diansinta (7544)
• Indonesia
10 Jan 09
H there manya_pearl, Good to see your new discussion again. My mom did the same if i ask to send something else. LOL As you see, i live in bali and my mom in jawa island, we sometimes send unimportant things sometimes, Each other, may be because we miss each other so muchwell You are a very nice daughter. You are doing the right things to say to your mom. Remember, Don't make her worry of you because you both apart. Cause she already worry, I know may be you already heard this before, but im gonna say it still; 'you will understand how deeply you mom loved you when you have a child' Happy posting always hunny, oxox'dian from bali island.
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• Singapore
11 Jan 09
Yeah. my mom also said the same like you, that we will understand how deeply our mother loved us when we have a child. Actually in the family, im not that close to my mom. Im father's daughter... I usually contradict with my mom and most of the time i argue with her. All in my mind, she is never understand me... because what i need is not what she thinks i need. Im easily open to my dad but not my mom... I can talk a lot with my dad but little to my mom. I dont know why, i just cant be closer to her. The package that my mom sent to me actually really make me feel terrible. I didnt go home, and i need them... but she sent me something that is not what i need. Its like my mom never understand me. If i dont care about her feeling, i probably say something in "mad" tone... And she will be sad. Anyway, i dont want to be a bad daughter just because of those skincare products. have a nice day.
@checapricorn (16060)
• United States
9 Jan 09
[i]Hi manya, I guess your mom wants you to take care of your health by eating all the time and in between the day, you know! LOL! That's their nature, they always think that since we are busy, we have to take time to eat and take a snack! ANyway, I am sure she will be sending you more soaps! ENjoy![/i]
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• Singapore
9 Jan 09
Yes. i do expect that next time. Heheh... its just my feeling i wanna share to people, since im that kind of person who will easily tell my emotion to people. thanks for nice response.
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@vanities (11395)
• Davao, Philippines
10 Jan 09
hi manya...good thing that you did not show to her or make her feel that you dont like what she had sent you...i guess its her random thinking to buy you such stuff for your convenience...
@stephcjh (38473)
• United States
10 Jan 09
I know how you feel but at least she did something, ya know what I mean? I understand how you feel though. I have felt that way before too.
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@roberten (3128)
• United States
12 Jan 09
manya, you will understand and appreciate what your mom was trying to do much later in life. Hind sight is 20/20.
@ersmommy1 (12587)
• United States
11 Jan 09
Sometimes it is just the way our parents let us know they are thinking about us. I think you handled it well. Good of you to think of her feelings 1st. Try not to be too mad at her.
@skysuccess (8857)
• Singapore
9 Jan 09
manya_pearl, You were simply fantastic here. Your hesitation to speak actually paid dividends for you here. God knows, what would have happened had you blurted out insensitively. Timely and tactful words are just so absent in our mindless and hurried world. So, do keep this up and I am sure your relationship and yourself will grow well along with it. “Be patient toward all that is unsolved in your heart and try to love the questions themselves. Do not now seek the answers, which cannot be given you because you would not be able to live them. And the point is to live everything. Live the questions” - Rainer Maria Rilke Take care and have a nice day.