I can't stand people like this

I don't find it rude to brag but only half listen. I put my brain on ignore and think about something else as the person is bragging. It works for me! What does drive me up a wall is when someone cries and complains about having no money but go out and buy anything they want. I had a friend who did this and she could never pay her bills because she was spending on stupid stuff. Our daughter was married to a guy, notice I said was, and his parents never had money. When it came time to help our kids financially, for whatever reason, they were broke. The father is an attorney and the mom a teacher. I don't know any family who has an attorney who is practicing that is financially in a bind. They would refuse to help yet go on a cruise and buy a new car. Maybe my priorities are different but we chose to help the kids. I was so irritated with our daughter's in-laws but it never got me anywhere. I am glad that part of her life has changed and she is now happily single. Do your best to ignore your in-laws since it will be healthier. Good luck, carolbee

I know a lot of people like this. In todays world most people have the buy now and pay later concept. A lot of people think what you own is a judge of whether you are worth knowing. The thing is your in-laws probably are broke. It probably takes all their money to just pay the bills and upkeep on all their expensive things. I'm sure they probably bought these items on credit. When people brag to me about their possessions, I'll usually just smile at them and make a remark like; My car may be older, but it runs good and I don't have any car payments. This usually changes the topic of conversation.

I can't stand people that do this either. It really bugs me. I don't get how they feel that it is OK to say how they're constantly broke and how they can't pay for this or that, but constantly go buy expensive stuff that is bigger and better than what everyone else has. I lived with someone that had this attitude and it drove me crazy. One minute she'd complain about how her family didn't have any money, then she'd go to the store, but $30 or more worth of stuff she really didn't need, and then come back and start telling us how she couldn't go out and do the things that we were doing because she was very, very poor. It got old fast. Thankfully she doesn't live with us anymore and we have no contact with her anymore so I don't have to hear the pity me party stuff.

I could only dream of being as broke as my mil! I completely understand where you are coming from.

yeah i people like that gets on my nerves. but i guess some just need to try to make themself look good for others and impress them too. i have a few friends like that, always i am so broke how about you buy me lunch. ok like are you kidding me.. but i just try to ingore them

Yeah it is rude but some people are like that. It makes them feel good but not everyone around them feel good. I always try to look at why someone is trying to make themselfs feel better. To me what you have means nothing what you do with your life and soul is what is imporant to me. Again as I try to say this is my opinion on the matter and this is how I feel about it. Nice post and happy mylotting to you. :)

i also can't stand people like that... if you don't have money, you should spend your money on your NEEDS first and not WANTS... that's what i do... i won't say that i don't have money since i and my hubby have a full time job... but i will say we have limited budget and we have to try to manage our income... but so far we are doing alright... and i definitely don't like people who brag... take care and have a nice day...

Personally I wouldn’t let it worry me one little bit. Everyone has different ideas about what the statement “we are broke” actually means. Now for some people it might mean they have very little and what they do have is an older model (car, bike, house or whatever) and they just make it through from one pay day to the next. Forget an emergency because they cannot afford to have one as they have no money whatsoever. For others being broke means they are down to their last million dollars. Okay so that might be a “slight” exaggeration but you get my drift I am sure. So your in-laws just bought some new “toys” despite their claim to be broke and that very well might be true because who is to say that all their money does not go on the repayments for their toys. They are not going to be saying “oh and it will take us ten years to pay for all of these things”. Many people can only be happy if they are acquiring new things and the best way to let people know is to tell them about their latest acquisition, because most people would “ooh and aah” over what it is that they have just bought. If that makes them happy, so be it but you can learn to let whatever they say at these times, flow right over you, because them being happy is probably preferable to them being miserably in your ears. When I met my life partner we were both separated and after a couple of years decided we wanted to be together so moved in together. She had a home already which she was paying a mortgage on and I was in the process of selling the marital house I had lived in with my ex-wife. My partner and I agreed that it would be best for everyone if we had a place which was OURS and if we did, then it be better for the children as well. So we bought the place we now have, which is actually a few acres where we now grow organic fruit and vegetables and the home was big enough for the 6 children in our blended family. However I had not lived in the town at all at this time but used to visit to see my partner sometimes during the week as well as on weekends. When word got around that we had bought the property and were having some essential things done to the house before we moved in, my partner heard a few things. The one said by several people to her, her children or her mother was “oh he must have a lot of money to buy that place”. So when I arrive back in the town the weekend after this is said my partner greets me with “they think you have more money than you do and I am not going to ruin the story with the truth“. She said it in a ‘sing song‘ voice and actually found it highly amusing. The simple fact was that we had no money and borrowed most of the money we needed to buy our home, until our respective homes were sold. Even now we still have a mortgage (some 10 years later) but of course it has been substantially reduced in recent years. Yes we did know that we would have money coming in for the sale of the houses but right at that time we needed to borrow a lot of money. Yes we did have work done but much of it my favourite brother and sister-in-law either did or helped get the house into shape so we could all move in together and of course they were not paid. Because they had been planning to renovate their home a few years earlier, they had bought heaps of stuff to do it themselves. But before they could start someone made them an exceptionally good offer to buy their home so they still have the paints, tiles etc and gave them to us. The children were allowed to choose how they wanted their rooms providing it was not outlandish and they did the actual painting of the walls themselves. We retiled the bathroom and laundry plus painted all of the rooms that we would be living in and basically all we had t buy was the paint tint and the cement/grout for the tiles. Even the curtains came from an Opportunity/Thrift Shop which my partner and sister-in-law altered to fit our windows. So even though we had no money and were mortgaged to the hilt until our respective houses were sold, it was assumed that I had money because everyone knew that my partner did not. So it could be the same for your in-laws and they actually could be broke because as you will know anything that you do not pay cash for costs extra when there is a loan involved. Also when you buy something new it deteriorates in value fairly quickly so that as soon as say they took that bike out of the showroom it was worth a lot less than they paid for it. My recommendation is that you ignore your in-laws and if they start saying how broke they are, that you highlight how broke you are as well. If they start to talk about their latest toy, you suddenly realise you have to go to the ladies room or whatever because nothing ruins the story for someone in full flight more than the audience disappearing. Finally in the current global economic climate, many governments are encouraging people to spend their money and not save it right now as spending will give a boost to the economy. What that means is that by splashing out and buying all these new expensive things, your in-laws are actually helping the economy. I wouldn’t tell them that though or it will give them something else to boast about. Look closely at the photo and see the slot in the top because this is where your in-laws’ money goes. lol

I always say I don't have money lol and everything I buy is basic or minimum maybe they don't have that much money so when they come upon some, they will spend it all. I think it's silly, the spending I mean they could've saved it so they have money for rainy day If they are lying then yes I will be upset but if they are not and just silly with spending I will just leave them be and avoid them as much as I can

hello ethansmommy06, It's really so annoying people saying that they don't have money where in fact you can see them buying some expensive stuff. I mean what are they thinking saying that things that is not true at all. It's really hard to believe where infact they can afford to buy things that really cost them a lot. I know someone that is like that, and for one thing that for sure is that she is making excuses so no one will ask her some help and that she doesn't like to pay her debt.

You can't be broke if you're still buying stuff! I just had to juggle money to get the car fixed. This is money that will have to be replaced which means over the next several months I'll have to put aside part of the grocery money. My bills get paid and there's food on the table, although it may not be what the kids want all the time. We haven't had a Christmas in three years, I have one pair of shoes that I'll wear until they can't be worn. I walk away from wants and sometimes needs at the store. If I can stay alive without it, I don't get it.

My in laws aren't quite so bad, but they are constantly complaining about being broke. It's their own fault because they went and purchased a van they can't afford to make the payments on, this was after taking out a home equity loan they couldn't afford. Now they blame us for their financial problems because they own the house we live in, although it is fully paid for. They get on our case every week about the rent payments. If we're a minute late they start calling here asking where the money is. It's been pretty bad in the past, they would leave messages on the machine threatening to kick us out. Then we find out they're blowing all our rent money on fast food for themselves. Hopefully it will all be behind us soon. My husband finally told them to either put the house in our name, or we're moving out! They agreed they'll put the house in our name.

Yes, i hate people who brags a lot.. i mean, don't tell me you're broke and yet you keep buying costly things for yourself.. are you out of your mind? yay!!!

I alse don`t like those people,but we usually meet the same problem.I think there are many people who want to show themselves,because most people want to make others to know they are better among persons.

I think they are broke because they are buying outrageously expensive things and not keeping it simple. Yes I think it's rude to claim stuff like that.

I think most in-laws behave like this. That is a sad thing. One has to be very careful about the in-laws. I feel the best tactic is to ignore them. if they brag, let them brag. If we fight with them, then it will become a hot thing and they might behave as if they are persecuted and innocent; they did not start the fight.

Hi,what i want to say is:not to take notice of them.

yeahh soemtimes make ask allot qustion about law people,here in my place have debt in my store because they says no money but after day buy something,forgot pay debt my store second they ask again said,u know waht pay first u debt but for never gave them again,why this kind people is more crabmentality,okie my my lotting have ncie day

dumping people is not good, why don't you ask,.

i think its really rude to say that you don't have money and yet you have the luxury of buying expensive things. if this things would happen everytime then there will come a day that they will be really broke. sometimes, you should not utter words that are not applicable to you because it will return to you eventually and who knows, the payment will be much worse. its better if you will not mind them, just be calm and don't let them irritate you and affect you. you can also advise them but if they doesn't hear you then be it. just hope that they'll realize what they are doing.