It is better to have loved and lost, then never to have loved at all...

@cryw0lf (1302)
United Kingdom
January 12, 2009 9:57am CST
Most people know of the statement "It is better to have loved and lost, then to never have loved at all"... I literally have 3 words as a question for this statement. Agree or disagree? I disagree because sometimes we love and lose people, and there was no point to it at all. It would have just been easier to never have loved them. Make sense? Sure love can be great, but then what about relationships that last no time, where you love and lose them, but they sort-of never loved you, or they hurt you in that short time alot... what about then haha? Whats your view?
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@GADHISUNU (2163)
• India
16 Feb 09
I have heard this statement a lot but I do not agree with this. I fail to see what great learning in there in losing in love. I would see that(losing in love) as an accident of miscommunication or a result of one of the contenders choosing to be incommunicado, basing their silence on any of those seemongly lofty ideals of not wanting to hurt. I see it more as a keep-one-in-reserve kind of selfishness that lets this happen. Now, tell me what is the great learning one would have in being manipulated by the selfishness of a person. Selfish manipulation happens all the time in one or the other area of life and can easily be extended to love also. Only a person must allow himself/herself some time and clear thinking to understand the considered silence of someone, instead of going and falling headlong in love.
@naette (26)
• Denmark
26 Jan 09
I like this saying and I definitely agree to it. Love is such a wonderful feeling and you should never regret that you have loved someone although you didn't end up together for whatever reason. We learned from our past relationships so if you fell in love and did not work out then I think we can cherish the happy moments and learn from the mistakes. Or maybe forget also the happy moments in your past relationship but then you know in your mind that in your life you have loved and became happy.
@cherriemae (3373)
• Philippines
18 Jan 09
I will not agree with that statement. I do had lots of sad experience in loving someone, that's part of it. Being hurt is part of being in love. If you loved that person, just accept whether you will be forever or not because you dont know the future. All the hurt and pain makes you grow and makes you matured to face the world, to love again and to be hurt again.
@Porcospino (30093)
• Denmark
16 Jan 09
I think that it is better to have loved and lost than to never have loved at all, but there have been times where I didn't agree at all. Right after a rough breakup I usually wish that I had never met the person, because then I wouldn't be going through the pain. After a while I start feeling better again and then I see things in a different perspective, and I realize that I wouldn't want to miss out on all the good things in order to avoid the pain. I'd rather experience the pain of losing a person I love than experience the pain of never having loved at all.
@spalladino (17921)
• United States
16 Jan 09
I would not want to go through life never having been in love...and everyone loses someone eventually...so I have to agree with that statement. Even if a relationship ends badly, there were good times at some point and lessons learned. I've been in several long term relationships and all of them had their moments. All of them helped to make me the person I am today.
@cathya (704)
• Philippines
14 Jan 09
"It is better to have loved and lost than to never loved at all." I do believe in this saying as I believed in the nature and beauty of love. Its always a nice feeling when we fall in love but then again when he got hurt and feel and pain most of the time we regret that fall for that person. But it is the beauty of loving, when we get hurt and learn to fall in love again. We have to remember that when we lost somebody whom we ones loved it doesn't mean that they bring our hearts or the love with in us. As for me , the more I get hurt in loving the more that I learn to love myself. We lost the one that we love it doesn't mean that we don't have a chance to love again. If we got hurt , we have to be good on ourselves and accept the fact that the love we ones felt is not meant for us. We have also to believe in love that on the other side of the world , there's someone who is destined to love us. Keep loving. who knows you better half is just around the corner. Cheers!
@lockheart (1405)
• Philippines
12 Jan 09
I also agree with the statement! It feels good when you love someone! And being hurt is a part of it, you will never know that you have loved someone if you never get hurt! And being hurt means you have learn something new. Its like, it is good that you have tried it than regreting for nothing.