Teacher shouted at my daughter..

@ersmommy1 (12596)
United States
January 12, 2009 4:34pm CST
I gave my child her asthma medication this morning. It makes her jittery, and she has a hard time sitting still. So early this morning (7:30 am) I sent her teacher an email to this effect. Apparently, before she got to the email, she ended up shouting at my daughter. My daughter came off the bus this afternoon, thanking me for sending the email because her teacher apologized for shouting at her after reading it. I have mixed feelings about this. 1. I don't think the teacher should be yelling at the students. 2. I am glad she apologized. How would you feel? I think she shouldn't be yelling at 5 year olds in the 1st place.
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@kbourgerie (8780)
• United States
18 Jan 09
No, I don't think that the teacher should be yelling at any child, particularly at that age. I would be really upset about that. I have been having problems with my son, his school and his teacher. I am beginning to feel that the teacher is looking for any reason to find fault with my son. They have one restroom break all day and after that are allowed to eat a snack. He brought some cereal from home and was told he had to throw it away, that it wasn't an appropriate snack. Then he gave him a detention for it. How ridiculous is that?
@ersmommy1 (12596)
• United States
24 Jan 09
You may be right. I'd watch that teacher. Sounds like she's picking on your son.
@nympha687 (940)
• United States
26 Jan 09
Teachers should not be yelling at their students. Yelling is an admission of losing control over your class. Most teachers resort to this method in the hope of restoring order.
• United States
21 Jan 09
Yeah, don't like the idea of my kid's teacher doing any shouting. However, I also try not to meddle and micro-manage things if I can help it. Still, that's the kind of thing you have to brood over. Eventually, something may have to be said to or about the teacher if shouting is a routine occurrence. It indicates a lack of control.
@subha12 (18452)
• India
15 Jan 09
it can happen. she must not have read the email before. But i think in that acse also she could have asked the child.
@lingli_78 (12836)
• Australia
13 Jan 09
i don't think that teacher should shout at the student... but again, i used to teach sunday school students and i know the pressure to handle a bunch of 5 years old kids... anyway, i don't think yelling is the right thing to do... but at least the teacher apologise to your daughter... you might want to speak to the teacher and ask her the reason for yelling at your daughter... and tell her that you don't appreciate it... take care and have a nice day...
@zackyo7 (301)
• United States
13 Jan 09
Children at such a tender age should not be yelled at. This is totally wrong. And why would you yell at a child for being jittery or excited. That's how they are supposed to be. Children are always full of life and energy. My grandma used to yell at us when we were younger to do certain stuff. My uncle would constantly tell her to stop. Only when our uncle came and talked to us nicely then we behaved or tried to act a little more grown up. But when you are a kid you don't really care about how much noise you make or how much you move around. You just want to jump and play and yell and stuff. I hope your daughter is okay. Continue taking good care of her. Children are a prized gift from the lord and he has blessed you indeed. Take care of his young one. God bless.
• United States
13 Jan 09
I strongly agree with you on that I would have to say something if I were you I but heads with my sons school all the time!
@CRIVAS (1818)
• Canada
13 Jan 09
I don't think that anyone had the right to yell at a 5 year old. If someone were to yell at my daughters ( three and four ) I would be giving them a piece of my mind. There are a lot of other, better ways to get a child's attention and yelling is not one of them. I know that there are a lot of other children out there that might not have an easy time sitting in school, even for half a day and I don't think that any teacher has the right to yell at a child. Teachers are just that TEACHERS! I don't know about you but to me that just means that a yelling teaching is teaching your child to behave in the same manner. I personally don't want my children yelling at anyone, I think that it is disrespectful and I think that this teacher deserves a talking too. I understand that she appologized but I still think that there is a larger issue underlaying here. I hope that yelling is not this teachers normal method althought this is what it sounds like. If I were you I would try to keep an ear on things just in case this teacher does something else that you and a lot of others, don't aprove of.
@jarnold51 (124)
• United States
13 Jan 09
OK! Have you ever had 20-30 5-year olds all trying to get your attention at once and then one does something outrageous and you have had a bad day and you lose your temper (just a little). I've been accused of "yelling" when I talk sternly to a student just because I have a loud voice. Don't get on the teacher when you haven't walked in her shoes! from a teacher
@suspenseful (40313)
• Canada
13 Jan 09
I think the teacher did not know about your daughter's asthma medication and that there is a difference between yelling and shouting. Kids do not come and obey when the teacher says quietly ,"now children sit at your desks," so she may have had to raise her voice a little, and when the child did not obey, she has to raise it a bit more and after a while it becomes shouting and after that yelling. It should not start at yelling. You see, the teacher is forbidden by law not to hit the child or give her a spanking which is what they were allowed to do when I was a girl over fifty years ago. So the teacher has no choice or the kids will run amock. I was also wondering whether next time you may also type a hard copy of a letter telling if your daughter is going to be acting up because of her medicine so the teacher can have that for a permanent record.
@lisa0502 (1726)
• Canada
13 Jan 09
I do not feel that a teacher should be yelling at any student let alone a five year old. I have yet to meet a teacher that yells at her students. I can honestly say that I would have a major problem if one did this to my kids. I would be putting in a complaint with the school board. Yelling is an intimidation tactic and is unacceptable as far as I am concerned.
@thedaddym (1736)
• United States
13 Jan 09
I guess it depends, in most cases a teacher should not shout at a little 5 year old, but since she was getting off the bus she may have been doing something that was dangerous to either or self or for another child. Plus they were outside so shouting may be the best way to be heard. So while she may have spoke stearnly inside for the same thing, it is more natural to yell while outside. At least the teacher did see the error of her ways and did apologize. I tend to let things like this slide the first time, but if it happens again then I would get upset.
@djoyce71 (2512)
• Philippines
13 Jan 09
I have been in that situation when I was a grader. I'm asthmatic and sometimes other people could not understand until I tell them. I always shiver and my heart palpitates when I take my medicine. That was always the reason for my absences because I could not think well and could not participate in activities when I'm under medication. I just rest at home and have lots of sleep until my bronchial tubes get better.
• Philippines
13 Jan 09
In my opinion, there is ABSOLUTELY NO EXCUSE for a teacher (or anyone for that matter) to yell at your daughter. I think MonkOVision is right, the teacher only apologized because she suddenly realized what her action might bring her. I think your daughter is emotionally injured, and the memory of her teacher shouting at her will stay with her for a long time. This teacher should be reprimanded. If she loses control and shouts at five-year-old kids, she's not fit for her job.
@dropofrain (1168)
• India
13 Jan 09
These things depends upon the whole things. Teachers scolding the children is not a good thing. It leads to a bad impression on the kids future. Also, they have to be made to understand that what is right and what is wrong. I think these issues should be sorted out between both of them only. You should intervene but your child should not know about the same.
• United States
13 Jan 09
I would be so angry if a teacher yelled at any of my children regardless of what has happened. I as a young child was yelled at and humilated in front of all of my class mates it was the most terrible experience of my life. Forever making me hate school. Teachers should be kind and understanding as they have no knowledge of a childs medical condition or the medication that child is required to take. I know that my son is on some meds that make him anxious it seems but he has never been yelled at. I am very sorry that your daughter had to deal with that at such a young age.
@coffeebreak (17815)
• United States
13 Jan 09
Teachers shouldn't yell at kids... especially if they don't know the whole story. I speak from personal experience with a similar situation, my son told the teacher the problem but she didn't listen to a kid, and he came home hurt one day from being forced to do a physical activity he wasn't supposed to do (and this info on his limitations was on file at the nurses office) and I had told the teacher on the first day of school - (did this every year) So on days I knew he was supposed to do certain things, I would write a note, and I would go in and tell the teacher and hand her the note too - just to hopefully make sure she remembers. Didn't have a problem after that.
@stephcjh (32327)
• United States
13 Jan 09
I don't think the teacher should have yelled at her either before she knew what was going on with her also. I am glad that she apologised too. I would feel sorry if my child could not help it and got yelled at.
@mtdewgurl74 (18118)
• United States
13 Jan 09
NO they shouldn't be yelling at the children. My sister had a teacher at her old school(she moved last month) she was grouchy very grouchy sometimes the slightest noise can set her off. So I am glad she moved to a different school she has been tested for new school and she made straight A's on the test they gave her..but her old teacher was always complaining about her grades and that she never applys herself and that she is always disturbing the class. So far at her new school no complaints and teacher says she is doing great and I feel that if a teacher shows a child they care and respect and are nice to them that they will get better results. It isn't a sign of weakness of authority but I feel a child blossoms under these conditions better then one who is constantly grouchy.
@chevill (316)
• Philippines
13 Jan 09
i will go to the school and talk to her teacher personally and I will tell her not to do again or else, i will report her to the deped!