Would you take the phone call.....?

@dpk262006 (56737)
Delhi, India
January 16, 2009 8:47am CST
When somebody calls us he/she calls as per her/his own convenience, the caller may not be knowing what we are doing at our place. Sometimes, it so happens that my phone call comes, when I am taking my meals either lunch or dinner. I take the call for courtesy sake, but before I could tell the caller that I was in the midst of my meals, it becomes too late. In these kind of situations I face the dilemma, whether to avoid the call for the sake of my meals or whether I should leave my meals in between to attend the call. What do you prefer in such kind of a situation, do you sacrifice your eating pleasure for the same of the phone call or do you avoid taking the call? Please share your views, thoughts and experiences too.
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@SViswan (12065)
• India
20 Jan 09
It actually depends on the situation. If I feel that the reason someone called is more important than my meal, then I will tell them to excuse me for eating and will continue the conversation while I grab a bite. But if I feel my meal is more important, I will interupt them to tell them I am eating and that I will call them back (or they can call me later if it's something they need) as soon as I am done. There are so many things I consider before taking a phonecall (as you very well know)
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@dpk262006 (56737)
• Delhi, India
21 Jan 09
Yes, it will largely depend who is calling us, if he/she is a very close person, we do not mind talking to him/her, while taking a bite. However, if the calls is not so important, the fellow could be contacted later. What I gather is - you do multi-tasking, you can take a bite and talk, as well, provided, the person is important and deserves your attention. Many thanks for sparing time to respond to this one. dpk P.S. - You are just short of 7 posts, before you reach 4000.
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@SViswan (12065)
• India
9 Oct 09
lol..thanks for the 4000 reminder...though it was long before I saw your comment:P
@kiran1978 (4137)
• Australia
20 Jan 09
hell dpk, how are you, i haven't been here for a while, thought I would pop in again. In response to your question, when the phone rings when i am eating dinner, i usually answer the phone. If it is important I will continue the conversation, however if not important I will tell the caller i will call them back after dinner. It really frustrates me though, when you get interrupted from dinner and the call was from a telemarketer trying to sell you something. They call at the most inconvenient times.
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@dpk262006 (56737)
• Delhi, India
20 Jan 09
Hello! Kiran! Welcome back! Nice to see you again. Yes, it will largely depend who is calling us, if he/she is a very close person, we do not mind skipping our meals and if she/he is not so important, he/she could be contacted later. What I gather is - you can leave meals provided, the person is important and deserves your attention. Many thanks for sparing time to respond to this one.
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@apsara60 (6611)
• Israel
20 Jan 09
Hi deepak, It is very simple deepak, and it all depends on who is calling. If you like the person you may not even mind taking the call in the middle of meals, but if you don't like the person,you many not be interested to talk even if you are free. I usually know which of my relatives are calling just for time pass and if I am in middle of something, specially in middle of cooking, I just tell them straight that I am busy and I hand over to some other member of family. Meals are not very important for me....but depends who deserves my importance and who does not...., sounds bit rude, but this is how I am....
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@dpk262006 (56737)
• Delhi, India
20 Jan 09
Yes, it will largely depend who is calling us, if he/she is a very close person, we do not mind skipping our meals and if she/he is not so important, he/she could be contacted later. What I gather is - you can leave meals provided, the person is important and deserves your attention. Many thanks for sparing time to respond to this one.
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@arthi_88 (1518)
• India
16 Jan 09
I leave my food and talk if its somebody who can call for something urgent or someone official...else I have my lunch and my answering machine does the job! I hate when I see an unknown number and after receiving it for courtesy there is somebody forcing me take an insurance cause who knows when I will die. Have a nice day!
@dpk262006 (56737)
• Delhi, India
19 Jan 09
So for you your food can wait, you do not deny the caller the opportunity to talk to you, at the cost of your meals. I agree with you if it turns out to be call from any unknown or lesser unknown person/a tele-caller, it irritates you. Thanks for joining and sharing.
@aisaellis22 (6449)
• United States
16 Jan 09
Hello deepak! I would choose to take the phone calls even if I am having a lunch or something. I remember one time, I had our lunch when suddenly my husband called me, I excused to everybody and talked to him. I then, forgot my lunch..hehee..can't you see how excited I am?
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@dpk262006 (56737)
• Delhi, India
19 Jan 09
Hello! Aisa! Thanks for the first one to respond to my discussion. I couldn't check it earlier. I agree that it was important to take your husband's call and you should have taken that. However, what if the call from any unknown or lesser unknown person or say a tele-caller, had you taken the call, even if you were having your lunch?
• United States
19 Jan 09
Hello deepak! Actually I would still take it but if I know it is not really important, I will tell the caller to call back because I am eating.
@dpk262006 (56737)
• Delhi, India
20 Jan 09
Yes, if the call is not important, the caller could be told to call again, but somehow if you take the call and answer, the pleasure and enjoyment of eating food gets disrupted. Have a great day! Did you check your PM and replied? Deepak
@JenInTN (27545)
• United States
17 Jan 09
Heyya dpk! I do usually take the call but politely ask if I can call them back after I eat. I usually don't have to worry about answering the phone because my oldest daughter flies throught he house like a hurricane to answer it each time it rings.lol She knows if it's dinner it had better be short and sweet because I expect everyone at the table to eat..I give her the "look" and she rushes right off the phone.
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@dpk262006 (56737)
• Delhi, India
20 Jan 09
Hello! Jen! You do the right thing that you politey ask the caller again, if you are having your meals. LOL! It is good that your oldest daughter works for you as you PA and takes the call, when you all are having meals. Thanks for joining and sharing.
@JenInTN (27545)
• United States
13 Jul 09
Thank you so much for the best response! I am very flattered.
@dpk262006 (56737)
• Delhi, India
14 Jul 09
It is my pleasure Jen!!
@cupid74 (11388)
• Pakistan
17 Jan 09
Hi Dpk its so nice of u to take calls inbetween ur meal or any other activity. Well to be honest if i am having lunch or dinner, and got any call, i will check it and if i think its important and urgent, i will take it, otherwise i will put on silent and will call back once finished. and if i am in meeting, then sure my phone is always on silent and i revert back to them after meeting is over, and during night, when i am not expecting call, i put it on silent and in morning revert back to them take care
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@dpk262006 (56737)
• Delhi, India
20 Jan 09
It means that you can forgo your meals, for the sake of important calls, because you feel that caller may have some urgent work, also he might not be knowing that you are having your meals, this proves that you are very caring and nice to others. I appreciate it.
@cupid74 (11388)
• Pakistan
20 Jan 09
Thanks Deepak Well, i belive if some calls u after office hours, it might be Urgent Take care
• India
16 Jan 09
Hello my friend dpk262006 Ji, Well, there are many ways to come out from this agony, first happily attend call and complete it in nut-shell. Next take help from some electronic gadets available in the market. You may easily attatch with Voice mail-box and set it to call you later as you are busy in dinning with other memebers and leave message in the mail-box. But i always prefer to attend calls as and when they come. The very reason is , we do not know, what could be message, it might be important for me and even for the caller, may be some one's life may be in danger, should one avoid may lead to one's life long repentation. Please give serious thoght. In my case, all my expected callers know my meal timing and they never call. Off-course, LIC agents are exceptional, who disturb as per their will and plaesure.may god bless you and have agreat time.
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@dpk262006 (56737)
• Delhi, India
20 Jan 09
I agree that if it is an important call then it is better to take it because you never know the exact reasons for the call. It means that you can forgo your meals, for the sake of important calls, because you feel that caller may have some urgent work, also he might not be knowing that you are having your meals, this proves that you are very caring and nice to others. I appreciate it. Thanks for sharing and joining.
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• India
20 Jan 09
Hello my friend dpk262006 Ji, As you know, I am house-wife of a retired defence personnal. Everything is as should be. We have set-rules, we never drop at someone house just abruptly, till it was dure circumstances. We do not expect anyone to ring my bell at odd hours. We have made a rule, not to viist anyone after 8 PM and no one should come after that. . That time is meant for family members. but it does not mean taht if there is a emergency at neighbour's house at mid-night, we do not get up and help, but it should be really emergency. Sometimes, I get feed back from mu hubby taht so and so would ring up and my reply shpould be this way or that way. Let's make life enjoyable. may god bless you and have a great time.
@alokn99 (5717)
• India
16 Jan 09
Dpk, My decision to take the call or not would totally depend on the person calling. If it's someone i know well enough then i would have no hesitation at all in taking the call and talking. The meals really or of no consequence as i can always go back to eating them. On the other hand if i think that the call is not important or can be responded to later, then i would not take it then and probably call later.
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@dpk262006 (56737)
• Delhi, India
20 Jan 09
I agree that if it is an important person's call then it is better to take it. So you can forgo your meals, for the sake of important calls, because you feel that caller may have some urgent work, also I might not be knowing that you are having your meals, this proves that you are very caring and nice to others. I appreciate it. Thanks for sharing and joining.
@dpk262006 (56737)
• Delhi, India
20 Jan 09
pl. read ' he might not be knowing...........'
• Malaysia
17 Feb 09
it depends on who the caller is. if i'm close to that person or dont mind talking to him/her then i'll pick it up. if not i'll continue eating, if it's important he/she will call back.
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@dpk262006 (56737)
• Delhi, India
17 Feb 09
Yes, it will largely depend who is calling us, if he/she is a very close person, we do not mind talking to him/her. Our meals are important and we should not be disturbed during our meals, I also believe so. Many thanks for sparing time to respond to this one.
• United States
17 Feb 09
It depends on who is calling. If it's someone important then I take the call. If it's someone I can easily call back later, I ignore the call. I have caller ID and voice mail, so I can see who it is and if they need, they can leave a message. Meals are important for me because I sit with my kids at dinner and don't want to be interrupted. Especially since I work the evening shift and don't always get to sit with my kids for dinner.
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@dpk262006 (56737)
• Delhi, India
17 Feb 09
Yes, it will largely depend who is calling us, if he/she is a very close person, we do not mind talking to him/her. Our meals are important and we should not be disturbed during our meals, I also believe so. Many thanks for sparing time to respond to this one.
@bellaofchaos (11549)
• United States
20 Jan 09
It depends really if I'm expecting a call I'll take a call but if I'm not then I won't .. I rationalize it this way, I have voicemail so that I can not worry about having to answer every call I get if I'm taking a shower,eating dinner, moving laundry, or even just playing with the kids. If it's important I'll call them back or if it's really important they'll then call my cell. Take time to smell the roses. Get an answering machine and take calls at your convience.
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@dpk262006 (56737)
• Delhi, India
20 Jan 09
OH! Thanks for the wonderful advice my dear friend - i.e. I should take the time to smell roses. Answring machine is also a viable and useful option and can be acted upon. You take the call, when you are busy, only when it is expected, otherwise, you revert back later, so wise of you. Thanks for sharing and dropping in.
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@hdjohnson (2981)
• United States
19 Jan 09
If they really wanted to talk to me then they would leave me a message and a return phone number of my voicemail. I have unlimited text messaging and a lower anytime talk time. Unless it is on Saturday or Sunday, and then I'll answer the phone freely or if it happens to be after 9pm at night, then I might answer the phone, as I can talk unlimited times during those hours. I don't have to be concerned about unwanted calls at the wrong time anymore, since I no longer have a stressful job. But I used to have a plan with 2000 monthly anytime minutes to use. When I had that plan, I used to answer the phone all day everyday. Now unless I have the person in my phone records already to know exactly who it is when they call, I'll just let them leave a message for me. If I do find out it is a sales call, I just tell them to take my number off their business directory list, and keep on moving. I don't let them finish with their sales pitch once I figure out that they don't truly know me or was calling for me.
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@dpk262006 (56737)
• Delhi, India
20 Jan 09
So your answering machine does the job for you and it becomes easier for you to take calls at your convenience. Many thanks for joining and sharing.
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@Sreekala (32820)
• India
17 Jan 09
Hi deepak, I have taught in childhood, when you eat your food you won't mind if anybody calls you or anybody comes to you because your food is equal to God so prior concern should go to the food. (There is a custom, if any elderly people enter we have to stand up as show our respect to that person, but if you are eating we are exempted to do the same). But now food is rarely getting that respect and we are getting disturbed by many reasons while eating. Phone is only one among them. In office I will attend the phone in between meals if it is official or personal. But I am disturbing mostly at home sometime busy with cooking and phones rings (land phone)... feeling disturbed but no way..
@dpk262006 (56737)
• Delhi, India
20 Jan 09
Hi! Sree! Yes, I fully agree with you that when we are having our meals, call could be avoided because even if you attend the call for 1-2 minutes, it robs you of pleasure of enjoying your meals. Our meals are important to us and the if the matter is urgnet, the caller will make the call again after few mintues. Thanks for sharing and joining.
@riyasam (16567)
• India
17 Jan 09
i do take calls except for,when i am in bathroom.i used to get emergency calls(being a doctor),i cannot even have my lunch/dinner at peace,so i sometimes switch the cell off.(i can be easily contacted ,as i live in the hospital quaters.i used to feel guilty later.my hubby used to aecify me by telling,even doctors are humans(not gods)they have needs too.
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@dpk262006 (56737)
• Delhi, India
20 Jan 09
Yours is an exceptional case, because of your profession. You cannot avoid calls, you'll have to sacrifice the pleasure of eating your food, most of the times....LOL! It means that you can forgo your meals, for the sake of important calls, because you feel that caller may have some urgent work, also he might not be knowing that you are having your meals, this proves that you are very caring and nice to others. I appreciate it.
@violeta_va (4832)
• Australia
17 Jan 09
I always answer the phone. I have answering machine but my friends and family hardly ever live messages as they only call to say hi and if I dont pick up then its not important. If I am doing something I simply say sorry can I call you back in 20min and thats it. If its someone I dont want to talk to I say I cant talk right now.
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@dpk262006 (56737)
• Delhi, India
20 Jan 09
It means that you are ready to forgo your meals for showing the courtesy to take the call. So sweet of you. Thanks for sharing.
@Opal26 (17684)
• United States
17 Jan 09
Hey dpk! If I am in the middle of dinner I will usually not pick up the call. I will let my voicemail pick the call up and return it when I am finished with my meal. It usually isn't anything that urgent and I don't like getting into a conversation in the middle of dinner. More often then not it is one of my friends and it can definitely wait until later! It is easier to not pick up the call then to have to explain that you are in the middle of something. That makes the caller feel uncomfortable.
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@dpk262006 (56737)
• Delhi, India
20 Jan 09
Hi! Opal! You choose the correct option, leaving your answerphone/voicemail to take the call. I fully agree with you that in most of the cases, the call may not be very urgent. I also fully buy your argument that it is easier not to attend the call and explain that you are eating, if you do so, it wastes your time and the pleasure and enjoyment of eating vanishes. Moreover, if the call is urgent, the caller will call again. Thanks for sharing and joining.
@arkaf61 (10881)
• Canada
16 Jan 09
WEll it really depends for me. I sometimes take a call when the phone rings in the middle of a meal or any other time when I would prefer not to be interrupted. But it's not always and I do check caller id to see who it is.I understand common courtesy, but the same applies to the people calling. They can avoid calling at certain times as well. I always check the time when I think about calling someone, and if I find it to be possible that they are eating or something I don't call.
@dpk262006 (56737)
• Delhi, India
20 Jan 09
It means you attend the call, if you know the identity of the caller through your caller ID. I agree that callers should be careful and should not try to call you, during your meals. Thanks for sharing.
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@Jenaisle (4097)
• Philippines
16 Jan 09
This will depend upon who the caller is. If it is a call from someone whom I know would only call me in emergencies, then I'll take it. If it's from a friend I meet everyday and whom I know just wants to chat, then I'll ignore it and eat first. Then I'll call back when I'm done eating, just to make sure it isn't an emergency. It might be something urgent and I don't want to take the chances. Happy mylotting.
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@dpk262006 (56737)
• Delhi, India
20 Jan 09
I agree that it was important to a person's call whom you thinkg would be calling in case of some urgent work. So you can forgo your meals, for the sake of calls, because you feel that caller may have some urgent work, also I might not be knowing that you are having your lunch. Thanks for sharing and joining.
• United States
16 Jan 09
i take the call and hope that it ends quickly if i am eating or busy but i really wont mention that i have to go unless i really have to.. i figure they are taking the time to call me so unless its something really important i shouldnt worry too much about it
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@dpk262006 (56737)
• Delhi, India
20 Jan 09
It means that you are ready to forgo your meals for showing the courtesy. So sweet of you. Thanks for sharing.