I hate this about my dad...wat do u think abt it?

India
January 16, 2009 10:46am CST
I love my dad very much...But there is one thing that i hate abt him...HE THINKS HE IS TOO PERFECT...and the irritating thing is He is!!!...He has a will of Iron and does not have any insecurity what so ever.....I have made grave mistakes trying to be like him and not quitting when actually I should have uin certain things:-)...I still hate this attitude of this...Have any of you felt that way...? Please share it with me...It will be a consolation...Suggestions are also welcome.
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17 responses
@derek_a (10895)
16 Jan 09
When I was a teenager I used to have loads of arguments with my dad, but when I left home I began to realize that he was usually right in what he was saying, it was just that I didn't want to hear it. :-) Derek
• India
16 Jan 09
Thanks but that is not the problem am facing.:-) Its like a competition between me and him as to who is perfect..Actually he is..Iam just trying to be like him....
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@derek_a (10895)
17 Jan 09
Yes, when we are young lads we just want to be like our dads. Sometimes though we don't even know this, but if we can be like them, we can have their approval, and that's what we really want from our parents. :-) Derek
@mimico (3618)
• Philippines
17 Jan 09
I really don't think anyone is perfect. Maybe he's close to perfect, but instead of being frustrated you should be thankful that you have a very good role model in your life. Other kids don't have dad who can teach them math or sports or discipline and good manners. SO take advantage of your dad's perfectness so that you can be the best that you can be.
@initiald (16)
• Indonesia
17 Jan 09
Yes I feel like you sometimes. it looked like they doesn't want to hear us, he thinks he is the perfect one. But let I tell you something. Anything that our father tells us, and whatever he says to us, just believe it is only caused by he loves us and he wants us to do the best. Ok.. Just be calm down and you will realize how much he loves you.. ^^
• United States
17 Jan 09
I have had something like this. My dad was quite the rolemodel, trying to be young and stuff. But then I got old enough to realize his mistakes and it got annoying. But I don't want to get too into that. But yeah, you should be glad you have a freespirited, life-loving father.
• China
17 Jan 09
in the ture feeling ,i hate my dad .because he often beat me in the old days .now i am a university student . i do not how to say ,maybe he hurt me so badly. now i am think throught ,i will not hurt my dad...because he is my dad . what are you think about
• India
17 Jan 09
Dear friend,the problem is not in your dad...the problem is in you trying to be like him. why does your dad feel like he is perfect..??Because you make him feel like one. sit and analyse what is best in you..develop that..U will be perfect too. In trying to be like someone else you lose your identity...be different..be faulty...then only we will learn. Dont fall a prey to Identity Crisis... LIFE IS ALL IN THE ATTITUDE TO LIVE..!! So go ahead...no stopping. Regards
@subhakars (934)
• India
17 Jan 09
every ones dad is his or her hero, so it is not rare to try and imitate him but we should also remember that we are separate individuals and no two people are the same. its better to take the good things in him and use it in our own way. the funny thing is when you start to appreciate your dad you will have a son who wont
@anetteh (3591)
• Sweden
17 Jan 09
God morning, shankari_prabhu in my book, there is no perfect people in the world. No one is that perfect. But some people think they are and have an attitude of it to. I would not bother so much with it. You love your dad, and he has a certain way. My dad sometimes act like he knows everything, but I know sometimes he is actually wrong. But if the thing we argue about is not important I let him think he is right. No waste of time trying to convince someome who will not be convinced. It´s life.
@sara007 (134)
• China
17 Jan 09
dad is dad.maybe u can have a talk with him
• United States
16 Jan 09
honey guys may act tough on the inside but really there not. My dad was the same way always trying to make everyone thinks hes perfect but really there was always an insecurity about him. Sometimes i would see my dad cry, And think he can't cry everything n is life is suppose to be wonderful and perfect but reality is, That not no one or nothing is perfect. Not my dad not yours even to u he may be. And if u want to be like him theres nothing wrong with that. HEs just your romodel.
• Malaysia
16 Jan 09
hi shankari .. i really do not know how to put in words for you ... but as you said.. we love our dads and they are always protective and smarter than their children .. let him be ... one day in your life ... you will sit down and smile to yourself thinking of him ... our parents especially dad they know that we are smarter but being a father, he should not let go off his ego .. try to find something that he is not so familiar with ... eg.. if he lacks knowledge in "video camera" you learn the thing .. sit beside him and share with him ... The worst of this smart people that i have encounterd off course ... my in-laws, believe me everyone in their family are smart .. they believe only they know how to cook .. only they know how to pray .. they know everything better than me (until it makes me wonder if my mother did not know how to raise me ... ) ... and i have got no choice but to pretend "stupid" let them win the race ... Honey ... my father .. even pretends "stupid" to my in laws ... when i know my father is far "super" than them ...because of "love" for me "his precious diamond" Indian fathers ... no words for them ... they just do not know how to show their love to us .. cheers
• United States
16 Jan 09
I would just sit him down and tell him that in your eyes he is perfect and you have spent so much time trying to be like him and you just cant I spent years trying to make my mother happy and well you know what I was so sad and unhappy and I have learned to live my life to fit me and not my mother I will never be like my mother and well to be honest I never wanted to be I just wanted to make her happy though I have never done this we dont even talk anymore but I am happy and I love my life now so... maybe all you have to do is make your self happy and your dad will come around I have a wonderful father and I wish everyone could have a father like mine My father is a very wealthy smart man and though I am poor and not so smart he loves me all the same and we have become closer every since I made the steps to make my self happy! Good luck with this and please keep me posted!
@Fortunata (1136)
• United States
16 Jan 09
I'm sorry your Dad thinks he's perfect. I had a Dad like that too, and I, too loved him, despite his controlling nature. I think family relationships are the hardest to understand. Maybe he'll change some day. It's possible. For now you'll just have to 'work' around him, I guess.
@tessah (6621)
• United States
16 Jan 09
i really dont understand why youd use such a strong word such as "hate" to desribe how you feel about yer father being a good man as youve admittedly stated he is. id think youd be proud and happy that he was, not wish otherwise.
@DEVONECO (144)
• United States
16 Jan 09
Either you hate him being "perfect" or you hate "him" - or both. But then would you have compromised for him being "imperfect" ?????? I feeel that its YOU who thinks that "he's too perfect". I think you should take his attitude in constructive perspective - but if you hate his perfection, then you don't have to mimic him and make mistakes. On the other hand, I am sure he would have made mistakes sometime in his life and learnt from them to mould his current perfect self. If I were you, I would hold him in high esteem and respect and follow his footsteps and learn from him how to perfect myself.
@anonymili (3138)
16 Jan 09
Hi sweetie, oh you poor thing, I know just where you're coming from. My dad will be 73 this year and is one of those people who thinks he is always right. It doesn't matter that about 80% of the time he is right but even when he realises that 20% of the time that he's wrong, he won't back down. I haven't lived with my parents for over 15 years and it's funny that after all this time, he still tells me how to do everyday things such as paying bills or buying insurance when I've done this for years with no problems. If I do something in a new way he says I should have done it the previous way and if I do it the way I've always done it he says I should have done it differently LOL! I ignore him often and accept that this is how he is but even after knowing my dad for nearly 7 years my husband finds it really hard to handle being spoken to like a child and sometimes he snaps back at dad. At the end of the day, he's my dad and I love him but it doesn't mean I have to listen to what he suggests unless I really believe it will work out for the better. I know people who have changed over the years and have had to learn to accept that maybe they don't always know EVERYTHING but in the case of my dad, he's too stuck in his ways now to ever change unfortunately...
@djemba (767)
• India
16 Jan 09
I am 19 ...When i was in my early teens,i made some blunders in decision making but my da always gave a better way out of the situation.Then i Didn't think all he said was correct or were the perfect decisions but now When i look back i realize he was always right..every damn time he gave the right piece of advice,a right guiding light he was and i regret why i cudnt have done wat he had told me... Now i know He's perfect.... i hope this can help you in some manner.i think your Dad is someone u should look up to..