Freinds Quality or Quantity

Canada
January 18, 2009 3:52pm CST
Ok so I was wondering what people would perfer to have a lot of friends, to call and talk to go out with and party with, but you cant really trust them, like they are not there when you need them, or honest there are always in and out of your life, but you always get along and never fight. Or would you rather have a friend or 2 friends that you always talk to and visit with, that you can trust and call when somehting is bothering you. I would absolutely choose the quality of my friend over the quanity yes ok it is nice to always be able to find someone to go our with, or talk to online or on the phone every now and again, but I like substance, i want someone I can trust and I know will always be there, someone i dont have to have a guard up when I am around them all the time. So what does everybody else think, when it comes to friends do you choose quality or quantity?
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• Canada
18 Jan 09
I would much rather have few quality friends. I only have few very close friends, as well as many acquaintances. I feel much more for my close friends then I do for my acquaintances. If I had to choose between them, I would keep my 2 friends and give up all the others, because these are the people that truly matter to me.
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• United States
19 Jan 09
I completely agree. There are about five friends that I would definitely do anything for, the rest are just kinda there. I still care for them, but if it came down to the 5 close ones and the hundred aquaintances, I'd take the five. Any day. I see you're newer to mylot (like me!) Welcome!
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• United States
19 Jan 09
When I was in high school I had a large group of friends, and I never sat home on a weekend. There were always people to hang out with or things to do. However, since high school, most of these friends have either become acquaintances or people I say hi to on facebook once every couple of months, if that. There are still a few friends I am fairly close to and that I call, but only a couple over the years that have stayed dear and true. So, when I was in high school quantity worked, but now that I am older, I definitely tend to go more towards quality.
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18 Jan 09
I would rather have true friends one or two that u know u can count on to always talk to u in a civil manner than to find friends that always put u down and just dont care unless they want something then they want to be there. Quality is better then quantity cuz quantity u truly dont know what ur getting. Ive found for some people to pretend to be ur friend justy to get what they want. And u just cant live like that. I would rather not have friends sometimes cuz u dont know who to trust.
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• Philippines
18 Jan 09
I would rather have one true friend who is there for me in bad times, than to have many friends who are only there for you in good times-- so it's quality rather than quantity
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@lilaclady (28236)
• Australia
18 Jan 09
After being hurt by friends whom I thought were top quality friends I think I would prefer to have quanity and not get too attached to anyone really. life can be very disappointing...
• Canada
20 Jan 09
Quality for sure. With quantity you can lose your perspective on who you should trust. With quality friends, true quality friends, you have spent enough time with them to be able to gage their dependability and loyalty.
@silverjam (969)
• United States
19 Jan 09
I choose both; quality and quantity of friends. While it is very important to have quality friends like those you can trust, hanged on and somebodey you can count on no matter what, it is also nice to have more friends everywhere even if they are just casual friends. It's always good to have a lot of people you can considere as buddies although most likely one usually have very few people they can consider real/bset friends. You can be nice to everybody but you should be cautious too and give your trust to just a few.
@zhuuraan (961)
• United States
19 Jan 09
Quality all the way! Throughout my life, I have encountered many people I couldn't trust, some even that I did trust and they stabbed me in the back. So, it is extremely hard for me to trust anyone, and there is only one person in the entire world that I trust 100%, being my fiance. Everyone else has limited or no trust from me. But yea, I'd rather have one person in the world I can trust and rely on and talk to about anything than a million so-called friends who'd just as soon backstab you if it tickled their fancy.
@snowcat46 (2322)
• United States
19 Jan 09
Quality. I've been hurt a lot by people who pretend to be your friends, and take you for all they can. But the true quality friends are priceless. Besides, quantity means I'll be getting bugged all the time. I've had that route already. Those people didn't seem to grasp that I had to sleep sometimes! They wanted to talk on the phone, then as soon as you hung up on one, the next one would call. It's like my whole life was supposed to revolve around when they had free time. I didn't enjoy that at all. Definitely quality. At least they understand when you say you have to go!
• India
19 Jan 09
well i would like to do is friends quality not friends quantity because if your friend has quality then he is guide you in right way and if he is wrong and he never thinks about you then he is not a good friends of yours
• India
19 Jan 09
hi i will prefer to have true friends than having more in quantity. because if we have many in numbers and one is unavailable on time then whats the use. so its anytime better to have hand full of friends than to have more in numbers. thanks http://www.creativeporta.com
• China
19 Jan 09
i regard quality higher than quantity,so i only have a little friends to contact with.but i really prefer to stay alone than to make lots useless, worthless and boring friend . have two or three good friends and share you joy and sorrow with them , that's nice. also enough.
@Bluepatch (2480)
• Trinidad And Tobago
19 Jan 09
First of all I don't really choose that way. When you meet someone unless they do something you really don't like you just offer them friendship which is good unless they become unacceptable for some reason. Also its easy to have all the friends you want. Just be nice and open to everyone. Reject the unacceptable and welcome all the others. You'll have friends whether you hang out with them or not.
• India
19 Jan 09
I have both the two types of friends. Some are always there to party, to laugh and talk, and some are there in every need, and crises. Thus I am blessed with both the types. But if you have to choose between the two types, definitely the true friends are always better.
• India
19 Jan 09
according to me frnds quality is more imp. then frnds quantity.......i sacrifise many frnds for a good frnd.........
@jesssp (2739)
• Canada
19 Jan 09
I would rather have quality but sometimes that is easier said than done. It's easier to make and keep the 'quantity' friends and it seems like if you don't put in the time and effort to maintain the 'quality' friends then you find yourself surrounding by acquaintances. I don't mind so much because I have family and my fiance to talk to if things are bothering me but I do wish I had more of those quality friends. Of course in a smallish town with limited social opportunities it's not so easy.