Will you save some and not be that extravagant during occasions?

The attitude that most adopt is that this is aa occassion that comes once in a lifetime whether it be the father spending or a peson spending on thier weddings. They save money over the years for occassions like this. But sadly so Mimpi these are more become as social status issue. That is why there is a huge extravagance displayed many times beyond the true capacity of the people. I would have thought that instead people can instead spend less on the functions and save more for themselves. And if the resources were in extra there is a whole world out there deprived and starving. I would keep the occassion simple, few guests and with simple food and keeping the whole event a simple one.

Hi mimpi1911! If I am very wealthy, probably! lol...just joking! I am not that wealthy to afford a very extravagant and pompous wedding besides I am just a simple person who gets easily happy and contented in simple things but wishing to be super wealthy one day! lol.. Take care and have a great day! lovelots..faith210

the occassions like weddings are usually organised by parents and they do spent lavishly(i think it is a sort of prestige for them)but ,my personal opinion, i donot like extravagance of any sort.if things were in my hand,i would have opted for a registered marraige.

I am someone that is ALWAYS cost conscious because I am trying to achieve certain goals at the moment and need to be disciplined in this area. So any occasion really will have me exercising the same mindset and I will be conservative. I would like to think that it's the thought behind any gift I were to give that matters more than the cost too! lol.

My partner and I are planning on getting married soon. As we don't have many friends and my family and his is too far away, it is just going to be the cost of the registry office, so we'll not be having the whole nine yards, probably not even a celebratory meal.

I think now a days it is much more practical to save some money because of the global crisis that is affecting each one of us.

I don't like spending money extravagant for various occasions like birthday and other occasions. I am from a middle class family and know the value of every single paisa. I think people should save the money for the future rather than spending all the hard earned money. I thin it would be great to save money for the future.

it is absolutely correct. In this economy, we should always save something for the rainy day. why should we spend so much on occassions.

I think there are too many people who worry about how things look to people outside, so much so that they get a bit too carried away with weddings. This is extremely typical of us Indians and has always been the case. My brother got married last year and my parents wanted to invite everyone they knew including people they hadn’t seen for years and it was a case of “oh we have to invite so and so because they invited us when their son got married”. I argued with them that their son got married 15 years ago and my parents had had no contact with that family since then so why suddenly invite a family of 5 people at £50 a head just because they were invited to their wedding so many years back! My brother’s fiancé (now wife) was adamant that we should not invite people who we were not close to and she had the right idea. Why throw so much money away just to impress people that you’re not likely to see again just to keep up appearances. We don’t live in India where it quite common to have 1000 or more people attend a wedding, here it’s ridiculous amounts like £50 a head and inviting people you barely know is just not an option nor it is necessary. Yes, a wedding should be remembered as a special day for many years to come but what is the point of having strangers in the wedding photos that you don’t know (and will look at in years to come wondering who on earth those people were) but your in-laws said you must invite them because it’s the right thing to do? No one has taken offence that wasn’t invited to my brother’s wedding last year, people are still talking to him and his wife and to my parents, and none of their limbs haven’t fallen off as a sign of bad luck, so it’s really ok not to get carried away with inviting everyone and his dog just for showing off on one day. There are far more important things to spend one’s hard earned money on such as setting up home together and being able to keep that roof over your head long term rather than paying back a loan you took out to spend on your wedding...

I don't spend money on that sort of thing. I can have fun without a lot of hoopla, and would rather use the money for something of more substance.

Well, when my daughter got married, she had the wedding of her dreams, and I didn't have to get a loan to give her that. Does that answer your question?*L* I really cannot understand how someone could spend as much on a wedding as some people spend on an house. I mean really, what makes a bouquet from this place so much more expensive than the same one from that place? They are the same flowers. Or, how someone can pay 150,000 for a wedding cake! Even if I had all the money I could possible want in my life, I think I would still be a little conservative. Yeah, I would probably be a little more extravagant, but not anywhere near a million dollars for a wedding. I watch bridal shows, sometimes. Can you tell?*L*

If you were talking about weddings, I would say no. I once attended my best friend wedding, I can say that she was really happy with her wedding. It is not that grand but she still spend a lot for it. As for me, I will really not spend much on that kind of occasion, just like how my wedding went, civil and not much guest. It is so cheap but it does not really matter. although I sometimes picture myself having a grand wedding, my wallet can't picture it. As for other occasions like birthdays, it really depends, but I would always stick onto what my pocket can afford, may it be grad or simple.

Hello mimpi19111! I am not really that kind who would want to have extravagant weddings, or birthday celebrations or something. I just want a simple celebration. I remember when I was in highschool, I would just ask money to my mom than giving me a birthday party. I would say that at least I would enjoy it and I could really use it to something important.

No I am not that kind, I enjoy on occasions but save money.

I am totally against squandering money on any occasion.Well we can make any celebration can be rich without making it vulgarly showy.Limiting the number of invitees and giving them the finest reception with the choicest food will do than making a lot of unnecessary varieties that go to the dustbin at the end of the day. The saved money can be deposited in the couples account.

i dont like to spend much since i know how hard to get money. i try to save as much as possible cause i cant make money yet and i am still using my parents money. :)