I dont know what to do !

There comes a time when you need to choose. You are married, you are happy with the person you chose, why have you not started a life together in your own home? As long as you live with your parents, you are subjecting them to the dealing with a person they don't like and they in turn, are making you miserable on a daily basis because of it. Move out, move on and get started creating your own life!

it's hard to say.because you are more embarrassed in this relationship.if your parent dont like your wife,i think you can tell your wife about your parent sth,such as your parent liking,habit,and so on.if you intention to do these,i think your parent are moved.hehe.

ossan1...I think, my friend, that that would be a very difficult situation, BUT, all involved MUST remember that that is your parent's home...their domain, their shelter in the storm! And if someone decides to live under their roof, with strained conditions, you still must treat them with dignity and respect! And so must the partner! If you cannot get along...you & your partner must strike out on your own, and create your own home!

First go find a job that can give you the opportunity to move out. Even if the relationships between the husband/wife and in-laws are good, there is no good to live together.I know it from my own experience. Till the moment you can rent your own apartement, you can have a discussion with you parents.Let them understand that you chose the person to marry because it makes you feel happy and gives a meaning to your life. usually parents, want their child to be happy.Whem you tell them you are happy and please respect my choice, than they will realize that what really matters is the relation you're having with your wife/husband and not what they would have liked for you. I don't think that any parent will be pleased with their kids' choice.There is always someone better, taller, skinnier, richer,younger,older than what you chose. So, don't worry, just have the courage to stand up for your happiness, talk to them without fighting. And FIND A JOB AND MOVE OUT!!SOON!!

I understand your situation because there are many newly married couples in Indonesia do this. The first reason to stay with one's parents in law is that one's spouse' parents still want to have their son or daughter who's just married. The second reason is what happens to you: you live under one roof with your parents because you have not got a job right now. I know this because I live in Indonesia as well. What is more important now is that you and your wife can get along with your parents. Get a job as soon as you can. Cheers.

Living is with in-laws is quite difficult as it needs patience, understanding, love, and courage to be with them. Taking from my own experience, i got married with a man, who was the favorite of his mom, for not to brag, my husband is so responsible. Thus, when we got married, my in-law treated me in a very negative way, for probably she thought im her rival when it comes to treating her son. Despite of her bad treatment, i tried my best to give her respect as she is the mom of my husband. As with the case of my husband, he decided to let us stay in another place away from her parents just to solve the problem, but then that did not help. After sometime, I and my husband's persistence paid off. Now we are in good terms, for she finally realized that I am not her rival instead i am a part of her family, who can share love for her son and for her as well. Thus, in my opinion, both you and your wife still need to show love and respect to your parents not just because you are staying at their home but because they are still your parents. Other than that, have your own job, and eventually, build your own nest where you can stay comfortably with freedom. Just remember, "PERSISTENCE PAYS OFF.":)