Do you approve ALL friend requests?

@breepeace (3024)
Canada
January 23, 2009 2:58pm CST
My ex roommate (who used to be on MyLot) approved every friend request that she received. I've found in the past that I get a lot of friend requests from people trying to coerce me into being their referral, and no one is really interested in being my friend, so now I have a qualification that I only add people who have 100 posts or more. What about you?
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@TheCatLady (4695)
• Israel
24 Jan 09
I approve everyone. I have only received one or two spams since being here. I don't care.
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@Lucky12 (769)
• United States
24 Jan 09
yeah me too. i like to approve everyone. Send me a friend request I will approve you too. LOL
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• Israel
24 Jan 09
I just asked you. After I did it, I realized you could have just asked me.
@loveyevi (513)
• United States
23 Jan 09
I have only been here a short time and have gotten about 10 friend requests already. I have approved all of them, so far I have not been asked for anything from them. And although I do not have much communication with them, I do not see anything wrong with accepting everyone. It can help you get your discussions and posts more visible which is always a good thing. I do not allow people with obvious bad intentions in their names, that have anything to do with making money or whatnot.
• Philippines
28 Apr 09
Yes, the more the merrier. That is what I wanted here in mylot to meet different kinds of people even some of them will not treat you nice. I want also many friends for the reason of many discussion , I always prioritize my friends discussion.
• United States
25 Jan 09
I have never had any friend request since I've been here, but I have only posted like 34 times or so, so I imagine the more I post the more people might try to add me. I would certianly wonder their motives.
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• Canada
24 Jan 09
Nope, I do not approve all friends requests. Like you have said, the first qualification to prevent spammers is that they have to have responded to discussions and started some of their own. They have to be participating here. I will look at their profile, and read some of what they have said, to see if we have anything in common, too. Sometimes I will request someone because we have been talking in a discussion and agreed on something or I just plain like their attitude. But I do find it odd when someone asks my friendship and I have never seen them in any of the same discussions I am in so I really have absolutely no idea who they are or what they are all about. If I read their posts and they seem like a hostile person in general, I'm likely not to approve them. I currently have 8 people in limbo, waiting for me to approve them. I haven't decided yes or no yet.
@jambi462 (4595)
• United States
24 Jan 09
Yeah I accept all friend requests because who am I to deny anyone the right to be my friend. I've come to realize that you can't really choose your friends because sometimes the friends that you want just don't want to be your friend. On mylot the more friends you have the more responses to your discussions your most likely to get. The more responses you get the more you earn and I guess that's what I'm really here for.
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@France7 (385)
• Philippines
24 Jan 09
How are you there? I'm just a newbie here and am still skeptical whether i could really earn here or now. However, when it comes to making friends, i would love to add friend requests. While others may just be fair weather friends, there are still some who could be true friends. I will soon know who my real friends are here in this site as I continue browsing. Why not add me up and let's be friends?:)
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• United States
24 Jan 09
I used to accept just about anyone who asked but I found that it made it hard for me to find discussions, under the "friends" tab, that were interesting to me. I now have my own requirements when accepting or requesting friends - they need to be established here for starters and they need to be people I would actually consider "friends" off line - people who have things in common with me. We do not have to agree on everything but if a person can be respectful and express themselves and their views in a positive way without insulting others, then I can accept them as my friend. I have people on my friends list now that I probably need to weed out but I haven't found the time to do it yet.
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• United States
24 Jan 09
I just started here at mylot, is it good to approve the friend requests, like i mean does it do any good to you in any way such or form? I mean i am a little hesitant to allow somebody that i completely don't know, to be able to be my friend, does that sound right to you?
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@oldboy46 (2132)
• Australia
24 Jan 09
No I don't antomatically approve all friend requests. When I receive a request, I will check the member's profile to see what they have been doing etc. I read the discussions and see whether they go back to those discussions to make a comment and give a best response. Then I read as many responses they have made to other member's discussions to get the 'feel' of what they are like. It doesn't particularly matter to me how many points the person has because at one time we all have a small number. The other thing I do check is how many friends the person has and that I find can be a good indication of the potential as a friend. For example recently I had a friend request and the person had 1 post but over 100 friends and they had been a member for a week at the time. I later found that this person had been spamming other members through the pm system. Deny! It simply is not possible for anyone to be friends with everyone. It is for that reason alone that I do not accept everyone. I have friends from a number of different countries and of different ages as well, so that is not an issue. However I do not have much in common with say a 16 year old female who is still at school and hanging out at the mall with her friends. The first discussions I respond to are those of me friends and if I have any spare time, then I check out other areas. It is for that reason that I like to be sure that I have so me things in common with those friends I accept.
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@Lucky12 (769)
• United States
24 Jan 09
Well I add everyone. I am not the type of person that will just not add someone becasue of whatever reason. i am not saying that yall are wrong everyone has their own way of friends and stuff. i just add everyone that I can. Two Iam new so yeah it is better for me to add everyone. i can never have too many friends.
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@aisaellis22 (6449)
• United States
24 Jan 09
Hello breepeace! I do accept all friend requests no matter what their intention is. I don't mind actually as long as they did not harm me. I just ignore those person who are sending me pms trying to let me join to any of the paying sites. Well, if I am interested with the site, well, why not?hehehe..But it's still up to you. If you think that would work for you, go for it..
@user_786 (1338)
23 Jan 09
i always approve all friend requests. there isn't harm in accepting friend requests.
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@lovesummer (1162)
• Malaysia
23 Jan 09
yes i approve all of them, i don't think that is harmful. happy mylotting :)
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@tdemex (3545)
• United States
23 Jan 09
I'm like most of you.When I started out I took em all under my wing.Then as I matured here,I saw some of them asking me to join certain sites as a referral,being new to all of this I did a couple and it started becoming a time waster for me.So I became a lot more selective and deleted the ones I learned weren't really friends.I'm now alot more comfortable in my space here at Mylot,I don't even care what the number is in my star! LOL! Have fun! tdemex
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• Bangladesh
24 Jan 09
It doesn't any matter how many friends you have. but the matter is who are your real friends!
@funtasy (98)
• Malaysia
24 Jan 09
well, i will aprove all for now, cause i still new to mylot.but i think i also will make some choice about adding friend's. you know, a huge friendlist are hard to manage, i don't like to miss anyone if i have to send some wishing~.~
@Jellen (1852)
• United States
24 Jan 09
Three years ago when I started at MyLot, I approved all friend request, with the exception of a few with names that scared me off. I took a few years off MyLot, but when I came back, I decided to do things differently. Friends that I approve now are ones I have known elsewhere or ones whose profiles I connect with. I too, shy away from adding those with many, many friends. I'm not into that sort of game. Although it's like praise, when someone wants to be my friend. I go right away to check out their profile to see what they are posting on and see if I actually want to read their stuff and write on their discussion questions. Profiles are critical and some membrs don't spend the time to complete theirs. When I check a profile, there must be something in common, something that connects with my perspective, values, or interests. If not, I'm sorry, but I deny the member's friendship.
@GAUCI123 (1042)
• Malta
24 Jan 09
I accept everyone as my friend, If I see that I am having lots of people asking for referals I just refuse to sing their sites :)
@potrish78 (742)
• Philippines
24 Jan 09
Oh yes I do. Some members would really try to ask you to be their referral but so far, from my experience, that is only a small percentage of people in my friend's list.