Would you text him?

United States
January 23, 2009 4:39pm CST
There's a guy I've know for a little over 2 years now. Let me explain the whole situation. When I first met him, he liked me but he told me he had a girlfriend. We were always talking and hugging. Then, he sorta dropped off the face of the earth. I heard about him from a friend last summer, but he did not ask about me and it made me upset because he met me through this friend. Anyway, I see him again in September, four months ago. We hug and he tells me he's single and basically ready to mingle. Mind you, I'm not taking him to serious. However, we exchange numbers and I run into him again. So, we text for a week. Then, he super texts me all the time Sunday and calls me. So, I say want to meet up for something to eat Monday? He tells me yes, sure. That will make my day. Well, I see him Monday morning and have to leave. The time comes to meet him. I text him and nothing. I call and he doesn't pick up and it's not busy or off. So, no call. I call in October. More to see how he was doing. He cuts me off and sounds like he's with a girl. I ignore him and really don't see him. Now, this Wednesday, I ran into him and he gave me his business card with his info. He's hugging me and calling me "love". I checked his myspace and it says he's still single. Should I text him to say hey or just ignore him? My number changed and I never game him my new one.
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13 responses
• United States
23 Jan 09
I would try to call him and then if he blows you off then screw it, at least give him your number and don't wait around for him that is what he wants to know that you are there waiting and he is out messing around. Remember there are always other guys out there in this world that wont do this and would answer anytime you call day or night GOOD LUCK
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• United States
24 Jan 09
Thanks for your advice. I decided not to call him.
@sid556 (30988)
• United States
24 Jan 09
He doesn't sound very reliable at all. I would get too caught up in this one. It is up to you but he sounds like the type of guy who is random and will just fade in and out of your life. Thats pretty much what he has shown you so far, anyway.
• United States
24 Jan 09
You know what? The more I was thinking of him, not even involving me, I thought he can be so random. You are so right.
• United States
24 Jan 09
Well said sid, I call "those" kinds of people a flake.
• Philippines
24 Jan 09
This guys seems to be playing with you and your emotions. He sounds like a player. he seems to be very interested in you at one time and then all of the sudden you wouldn't hear from him. One piece of advice you don't have to take him seriously for he is not serious with you. He is just toying with your emotions and it would be better not to text him at all. Hope this helps.
• United States
24 Jan 09
Thanks for your advice. I'm not going to text him and I am not going to take him seriously. He plays too much.
• Philippines
25 Jan 09
Be happy my friend.
@n30wing (4768)
• Philippines
24 Jan 09
Well I think by now you know him to well. How he treats you, when he only needs you. That is kind a unfair, I don't think you deserve that kind of treatment. If he really likes you he will make a way. If he cares he will give you a message. Man has their way to get what he wants. Now it's up to you, it's your ball not his. You just deserve someone better. Have a nice evening to you!
• United States
24 Jan 09
Thanks for your advice. I am going to try to only deal with guys who treat me well.
@n30wing (4768)
• Philippines
17 Feb 09
Sorry for the late reply. Thanks for that best remarks! Keep on smiling!
@aisaellis22 (6449)
• United States
24 Jan 09
hello smartie0317! Well, I don't know but based on what you said, it seems like he is just playing around. I mean, where are those days that he didn't pick up the phone? Come on! I know you're a smart girl. Try to look for a better guy who will love you seriously not to a guy who will look for you just because he needs you not because he loves you.
• United States
24 Jan 09
Yeah, a part of me is mad he never apologized for not being there for me. Thanks for the advice.
• United States
25 Jan 09
oh, it's nice to hear it..sometimes listen to what your brain says..
@suzzy3 (8351)
23 Jan 09
Quite simply let him chase you if he is really interested he will find you and not just use you to fill in time.ignore him he sounds like he will hurt you again,leave it you deserve better than him.
• United States
24 Jan 09
Thanks, girl. I'm going to let him come to me. If it's meant, it's meant. No time for games.
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@suzzy3 (8351)
24 Jan 09
Good for you,your better than that.
@borgborg (821)
• Philippines
24 Jan 09
I don't think you should text him. In fact I suggest you stay away from him! His a player and his been playing you all a long. He has girlfriend but then he hugs you? I don't think that's the type of guy you wanna be with. He will only hurt you. I hope you don;t take my advice negatively but his behavior towards you is really not nice. I think you deserve somebody who will treat you right! =)
• United States
24 Jan 09
Thanks for your advice. I see things better now.
@singlemommy (2952)
• United States
24 Jan 09
I don't think I would text him. I have a friend who has done this stuff to me. In fact, I texted him earlier this week and he never texted back. Well, so sorry for his bad luck, I'm done with him.
• United States
24 Jan 09
I'm sorry to hear that. You're very strong.
@lovesummer (1162)
• Malaysia
24 Jan 09
seriously i think he is playing you. dont text him anymore, if he ever text you dont reply. just leave him alone or reply to tell him leave you alone. if your looking for something serious he isnt the type. look he isnt even consistent. :) cheers..
• United States
24 Jan 09
Yeah, he's too inconderate. Thanks for the advice.
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@tjades (3591)
• Jamaica
24 Jan 09
L certainly woud not text him. Sounds to me like he's the type of guy who likes to know he has a girl in the shadows waiting on his beck and call at all times. No one should control my emotions like that. As far as I see it its up to you to take charge and give him the boot. I wouldnt allow him to always be the one calling the shots by disappearing and appearing in my life as he saw fit.
@Rustinas1 (440)
• United States
24 Jan 09
I, myself, would of thrown that in the garbage right away. If I even took it. Nope, I would not return his call, he's a player and you're an after thought to him. Sounds to me, he wants to keep his options opened for just in case, and you don't need that. No man or woman deserves to be put on the back burner. Only you can make your own decision though. Advice is always nice, but when it comes right down to it, you have to do what you decide. I wouldn't mind finding out how you have decided and how it turned out.
@bing28 (3798)
• Philippines
24 Jan 09
charge it to experience Smartie. By this you learned something. If you can make it not giving him your new number anymore for you to forget him and meet others to find someone much better, do it. If you really want him however, despite of your frustration on the way he treated you, you may give him your new number but don't see him, give excuses, If he insist let him see you at home. Let him feel that you've changed, that you can't just see him everytime he wants. If he wants you, He must learn how to win you back. For the meantime just think, he's a friend now you see, now you don't.
@kprofgames (3099)
• United States
24 Jan 09
From the sounds of it he just uses time with you as a pick me up when he isn't entertaining others. Kind of sounds like a fail safe to me. Don't be that person. Some guys out there just have to have a fail safe, someone around when they get bored or in between girlfriends. Don't be that person. In all reality, he isn't worth your time. If he's an on again off again kind of guy, god help you if you ever get intimate with him, can you even imagin what a flake he'd be in a relationship if he can't even return a phone call to a potential friend? Text him if you want, but if this were me? I wouldn't text or call him. If I met him on the street, I'd be nice, but the hugging stuff - sorry ewww, honey, you just don't know where that's been.