Facing Unmindfulness

I have been through that, when I was married. It was very disheartening and made me feel very low. I began to doubt myself and think I was stupid. When my husband left I thought it was the worst thing in the world but now I'm happy that things turned out that way. I didn't realize how much that attitude damaged me. When people dismiss your ideas, just turn aside and let them go their way. It's their loss, not yours!

its happen with all my friend every body wants that people should hear him and I think you should try this just don't talk to any body for oneday and say others that I need some rest to speak its give me energy and do it arround one month in every week , you get some help i think thanks for sharing

That is all I have ever got from people all of my life. I hate it to and I even hate to even speak anymore because my words bounce back to me like they were never even heard or understood.

Nobody likes to be dismissed in this way. As a Zen practitioner and therapist, it is very important in my job to totally listen and focus on what people are telling me. I do this socially too. It is showing respect for the person you are talking with.. :-) Derek

Hi sukumar794! Yes, it will be sad and heartbreaking when you are so sincere in helping others, giving them advice but it is being ignored altogether. However, I will still try to justify the person asking for help or advice that maybe, the reason why she or he is acting that way it is because he or she can't think straight with the kind of problem/circumstance she/he is in. But if it is being dismissed as if I am being silly or foolish, I think I would not give an advice or listen to him/her anymore even if she/he would ask for it again. Take care and have a great day! lovelots..faith210

Yes, it is indeed heartbreaking and sometimes even annoying when ever you put your very best just to express yourself and yet nobody seems to listen and try to understand. I hope your not having such relationship because I believe that for a relationship to work, it should be a two way street... Hope you have a nice day!

I am actually having this problem with my husband and as far as I've heard from friends and acquaintances I'm not the only one. My other half often simply doesn't listen to me. This is especially annoying when I'm talking about something that concerns both of us. He often replies that he's too tired to listen or that the conversation is giving him negative vibrations. I'm not a negative person, but there are problems that have to be sorted out and the first step is to talk about them. I can only agree with you, it is distressful.

It might be heart breaking for you... However... if you present some noble simplistic way of what life should be... or how things should be... without taking into account the harsh realities of life... your ideas will be dismissed... as they are not practical... or simply not possible. On the other hand... Your ideas might be good... and the reason no-one wants to listen to you... is because most people don't want to listen or learn anything. They are in their own little confortable world... and don't want to come out of it to try something new.

yes, it is heartbreaking when something like this happens to somebody. i think that it will be fine to wait for that time when everyone is through talking before one will speak his mind out. this is what i normally do, when no one has the moment to listen, to what i have to say as everyone else has so much to blurt about. there are also times when i would venture on saying 'hey, listen to what i have to say on that one'. this is if i feel talking already and it seems no one cares to value about me giving my opinion at all. surely, i get my time to talk, too. it cannot be denied that on some occasions, we don't get our time to talk at all as everyone else is also participating. we just have to keep quiet and be contented about being a mere listener among the crowd of talkers. there are also times when it seems no one values our opinion. kind of, it has fallen on deaf ears. but no, what we have said has been heard. no reactions might have come forth for the moment but, there maybe a few who were struck by what has been said. the words will have been sticking in their minds. yet, no one knows and realizes about this happening. so, my friend, just say those words nicely and clearly, for you are heard.

If some of my kin did this to me that would be the last time i would be around them..I would stay in my room by myself if i lived with them,if i didn't live with them ,i wouldn't have anything to say..That would be the rudist thing to do to a person..It makes you feel belittled..If they ask what was wrong? I would tell them how rude they have treated me.....

Yes of course, a heartbreaking one if found in that situation. But, acceptance is the best healer. That is why, I always wait for the request party forward their intention to me and I will contemplate either to be as an extrovert or introvert type of person at that particular time. If found mine is a very innovative* suggestion, which is very new and pragmatic way then I will render all of it. Sharing my own design thoughts will make me bold in any group of people or organization. - p/s - * innovation - create new or new extension to the existing or duplication or synthesize.