Stuffed animals = easy way out

United States
January 31, 2009 8:21pm CST
So Valentine's Day is coming up and you cant go into any store without seeing a wide variety of cutsie stuffed animals. Dont get me wrong I think they are fine for new couples or kids. But not everyone wants or likes this things. My husband and I have been married for 10 years (almost) and by now he should know that I am not a cutsie stuffed bear type of woman. But he came home the other day with a dozen roses and one of those big stuffed bears for early valentine's day. Of course I had to pretend it was the cutest sweetest thing I ever saw. I couldnt really break his heart and whack him in the head. Why do men buy these things for their wife/girlfriend? Why do men think its okay to take the easy way out? Women do you get stuffed animals? Do you like them? Do you have to pretend to like them so you dont hurt your man's feelings?
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24 responses
• United States
1 Feb 09
Maybe a giant computerized one holding a vacuum cleaner? Just flip the ON switch & let 'er rip? And yeah, one that even lifts the side of the bed & sofa to vacuum underneath, as well as clears out the cobwebs off the walls & ceilings.
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• United States
1 Feb 09
he could save alot of money and just clean the house himself for me LOL
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@Paula1966 (1102)
• United States
1 Feb 09
Just attach it to a Roomba.
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• United States
1 Feb 09
LOL I got duct tape!!!! LOL
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• Regina, Saskatchewan
1 Feb 09
LOL, welcome to my world! Only it's my kids that do that......and yes they are men! Men are such sops when it comes to creativity in love. I truly believe it scares them! LOL As mother's, wives and girlfriends; hell as women, it is our lot to nurture and part of that is often 'pretending' to like things we really don't because we love the bearer of the gifts given even if we don't love the gift. The effort was made, and though is may have been a 'small' effort, it is a loving gesture on our part to give whatever credit where credit is due. Now whack him on the head and demand jewelry next year! LOL
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• United States
1 Feb 09
he overdoes jewelry as it is I dont have any free fingers left LOL I know its the thought that counts It was sweet that he was actually early and did actually get me something he despises valentines day and hates celebrating it so bless his heart for getting something
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• Regina, Saskatchewan
1 Feb 09
Oh my dear, a woman can NEVER have enough jewelry! LOL For a guy who dislikes Valentine's Day, I'd say he's done himself proud then. Better early than never eh? Good for him and lucky you!
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• United States
1 Feb 09
the rings were mother's day, birthday and Christmas except for my new wedding set that was valentines day our 5th year
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@Rosekitty (19377)
• San Marcos, Texas
1 Feb 09
First i thought you were talking about those things stuffed on the walls..lol..and thought hell no I don't want one of them..then i realised the toy ones..ok I admit i liked them but not after getting one from ex's,kids and now grandkids..so EVERYONE STOP WITH THEM...I don't need anything anymore..my house is full..just give me huggs and brownies...
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@Paula1966 (1102)
• United States
1 Feb 09
When you said "on the walls", I read it as "in the walls" at first, LOL. That's what you can do with them - add insulation value to your home!!!
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• United States
1 Feb 09
LOL yeah the toy ones although i suppose some rednecks might do the others LOL and yeah insulation is a good idea LOL
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@Paula1966 (1102)
• United States
1 Feb 09
I broke up with a guy because he insisted on having stuffed animal heads. Just too creepy.
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• United States
1 Feb 09
OHHHH lawdy! I am NOT one of those women either! I like teddy bears fine.. I don't want to OWN any.. but they are cute! and to be honest, I don't like flowers.. they are just something I gotta keep alive (and I suck at keeping plants alive!) my hubby used to come home with those all the time and I pretended to like em, but then I got tired of pretending and told him that he was wasting his money! hahaha! I like Chocolate.. or something that took some thought.. like a poem or home made something... and I used to love jewelry until I found out he had no taste in picking out something pretty! lol! I have a necklace that looks like it came out of a gumball machine.. but it's real gold! and was pricey! it lives in my jewelry box with the others.. Men suck at gifts.. ya gotta love em for trying though... ya know?
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• United States
1 Feb 09
a bouquet of flowers of great because they are expected to die yeah men in general suck at gift giving
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@Paula1966 (1102)
• United States
1 Feb 09
I wouldn't mind a rose bush... I don't have much trouble keeping those alive, although the last ones my husband bought he planted in the wrong place, so they don't bloom much, LOL. It's like having a living bouquet as a reminder.
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@Paula1966 (1102)
• United States
1 Feb 09
The irises around here are starting to sprout up now, so you aren't too far off. I would be worried about tulips in summer, LOL. Maybe you should rotate out plastic flowers on a seasonal basis, but make sure they are always the wrong season! I have a brown thumb, but roses just seem to like sun and some soil that drains. Of course, I don't buy any expensive varieties, just the ones you buy inexpensively at WalMart. I may treat my roses this year... I have heard they like coffee grounds, so I may start putting those out around them on my way out each morning.
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• United States
1 Feb 09
I like the sentiment behind them but just as I think flowers are a waste of money, that goes triple for stuffed animal toys. Frankly I hate them. Hubby doesn't give the little cute ones.. hell no... he gets the gigantic ones! The first one he gave me was a 5 foot long stuffed tiger. Last year I got a 3 ft tall stuffed gorilla with a big heart pillow. I have absolutely no place to put them and they just sit there collecting dust. He's so touchy about the things he gives me I don't dare throw them out or give them away. So yes I do have pretend I like them so his feelings don't get hurt. I swear if I get another one though, I don't know if I'm going to be able to do it!
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• United States
1 Feb 09
oh my! I am sorry why does he feel that has to buy the giant ones? doesnt he know that size does NOT matter? LOL
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• United States
2 Feb 09
I know! You'd think he was born in Texas or something.
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• United States
2 Feb 09
LMAO I know what they say about things from texas and it holds pretty true for most things LOL
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@ElicBxn (61189)
• United States
1 Feb 09
If its a giraffe or a cat or a horse, I like it.... don't have a boyfriend or husband, so don't get things from those kinds of people
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• United States
1 Feb 09
nope its a bear
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@ElicBxn (61189)
• United States
1 Feb 09
most of my friends know that bears don't do a thing for me, so if someone got me a bear, they OBVIOUSLY don't know me very well.
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@olga3608 (38)
• United States
2 Feb 09
I guess it's because they think that women like cute little stuffed animals and they think women love them. But one day try talking to him about anything then bring up stuffed animals then say I really don't like stuffed animals. Then he'll remember that you don't like stuffed animals and he won't get them anymore! Try it! It may work! :)
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• United States
2 Feb 09
tried that a few years ago it obviously didnt work LOL
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@psspurgeon1 (1109)
• United States
1 Feb 09
I personally hate stuffed animals with a great passion. I thought my husband was going to faint a couple monts ago cause I went through all the stuffed I own and threw like, 98% of them into a bag to go to goodwill. He kept saying "you want to get rid of this...but I got it for you for this..." I just pressed on. I broke down and bought my girls giant stuffed things last easter and I regretted it before we even got to the car. I have thus spent the last year regretting it even more! I don't see the point. I think the holiday is so commercialized that alot of people feel that they have to buy big things and they think the bigger or more stuffed or the cuddlier the better. I say, if you wanna buy me something cuddly, get me a pillow. Or get me a gift certificate, a manicure/pedicure, something useful. Not a dust collector!
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• United States
1 Feb 09
I think its over commercialised too but hey we get gifts! hehe
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• United States
1 Feb 09
Yes I do get them from my husband. I act really happy about it. I do think they are really cute, but I never really know what I am supposed to do with them. I intend to get stuffed animals for my kids this year, but am hoping my husband comes up with something new this year though truthfully it will only be our third together so I have to give him a little bit of a break still I guess.
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• United States
1 Feb 09
I would say that 3 years is enough to have a good idea of what you would really like I think men just dont want to have to put any thought into it LOL
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• United States
1 Feb 09
Don't expect him or anyone for that matter to know what you want. Tell him directly how you feel. Don't be rude about it either. Otherwise he would feel sad or get mad.
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@nympha687 (940)
• United States
1 Feb 09
I think this comes from the thought that these stuffed animals are cuddly and that women enjoy hugging them. It's true. I love getting stuffed animals. I even name them after the person who gave them to me. It's an easy way but still you could do something to make it not just an ordinary stuffed toy.
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@mermaidivy (15402)
• United States
1 Feb 09
I never get stuffed anila from my hubby. When I go to stuff animal store, I always pet them especially the huge soft hair one :-D He is not a romantic person, he never got me roses or stuff animal that cute things, he only spend $$ on "practical" things. He bought me a set of cooking pan, I was okay happy but... I didn't tell him the truth. I just want him to be happy so I won't tell him if I don't like the thing.
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• United States
1 Feb 09
I know what you mean. My husband doesn't usually get me stuffed animals for Valentines day, but he does usually get me one of those heart shaped boxes of chocolates, which I think is just as common and unoriginal as those little stuffed animals. Not to mention that I don't like most of the candies in those boxes. I love chocolate, but the stuff in the centers of most of those chocolates...YUCK! and I never know which are the goods one and which are the bad ones until I bite them of course. Even worse then that though; I absolutely hate to cook, can do it, but just hate it. I would really and truly rather scrub toilets then cook, I hate it THAT much, and everyone who knows me very well at all, including my husband, knows this. Yet, my husband has given me pots and pans and/or cookbooks for Christmas or my birthday! ARGH! WHAT was he thinking???
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@zhangfzoe (432)
• China
1 Feb 09
I don't like stuffed animals. But may pretend to like them as not to hurt the sender's feeling. Anyhow, it's the gift.
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@balasri (26545)
• India
12 May 09
Men do carry the young image of their wives forever in their hearts. Foe instance my wife is still the most beautiful young woman to me after thirteen years of marriage.So I tend to behave like a young lad of yesteryears personally with her.The pleasure is being young forever.Is it not so Zu?
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• United States
12 May 09
being youthful is great but even in my youth I didnt care much for stuffed animals I grew up as a daddy's girl, a tomboy and had 7 brothers i was never into "girly" things I think its great how you still look at your wife the way you do
@balasri (26545)
• India
13 May 09
I know. I think during these three years I have managed to know you as not the coy, eye lashes fluttering lost in the woods babe.May be your hubby is like me seeing the girl he wants to see in you. And thanks a lot Zu. I am enjoying this conversation.
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• United States
13 May 09
I dont want my hubby to want to see many in ways that I am not i want my hubby to love and accept me for who I am
@Paula1966 (1102)
• United States
1 Feb 09
I used to get them from the guy I saw my first couple of years of college, but back then I was... YOUNG. I don't think I've ever gotten a stuffed animal once I was married, and if I did I honestly don't know what I would do with it. When I was a kid, the stuffed animals went on the bed.... and he doesn't want them on the bed, right? Maybe that is a strategy... pile them up on the bed for a while and make him look at them all the time, and maybe he will rething his gift-buying strategy.
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• United States
1 Feb 09
that didnt work with my husband he just threw them on the floor and left them there guess who had to pick them up
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@Paula1966 (1102)
• United States
1 Feb 09
I don't think you want to hear my other subversive idea... so I guess just smile and give them to Goodwill or something. I would say donate them to a group that give stuffed animals to kids, but most of the ones they put out for Valentines Day gifts are safe for very young children.
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@Paula1966 (1102)
• United States
1 Feb 09
OMG!!! Can you PLEASE write a book or something to EXPLAIN this to other men???? (Can I give like multiple plusses on one response??)
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@sacmom (14249)
• United States
2 Feb 09
I used to love stuffed animals when I was little, but now I'd rather have a gift that can be of use, like a washer and dryer, or a vacuum cleaner. Could you imagine getting a vacuum cleaner as a Valentine's Day gift? LOL My husband did get me a stuffed animal for Valentine's Day last year, but only because I joked to him about how we never get anything for each other for Valentine's. I never expected for him to actually get me something! Even though it was a stuffed dog I loved it. Why? Because it came from my husband, of course. Just for the record, my husband and I will be married 14 years in just a few days. And no, we didn't get married on Valentine's Day! LOL
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• United States
2 Feb 09
I would be happy with a vacuum the one I have now .... I hate I want a new one I want one that is NOT a Kirby
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@sacmom (14249)
• United States
3 Feb 09
So what brand do you want?
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• United States
3 Feb 09
ANYthing BUT a Kirby!!!
@Canellita (12051)
• United States
13 May 09
At least it is your husband trying to be romantic. I am middle aged and I only just managed to get my aunt to stopped giving me stuffed animals for Valentine's AND Easter!
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• United States
15 May 09
I am 33 and this past valentines day was the first time that i did NOT get something from my dad and that was only because he past away last year
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@Canellita (12051)
• United States
18 May 09
My condolences.
@cyberfluf (5004)
• Netherlands
12 May 09
I don't get any stuffed animals by my boyfriend anymore, I don't collect them and they will just gather dust and be thrown in the bin after a while. I think it's a waste of money. Flowers are even worse; they die in a couple of days and I don't like them. They look pretty, but they are gone so fast. I don't even celebrate valentines day most of the time because I like it better if your guy is spontanious with a nice gift than to be obligated just because it's valentines day. I collect my little ponies and my boyfriend knows that. One day he turned on the pc and told me to look on ebay and bid on some ponies I liked and he would get them for me, plain out of nowhere. I like that better than some red roses pushed onto you by commerce of valentines day.
• United States
12 May 09
me too! I am thankful that my husband does do spontaneous things sometimes its nothing big, usually like an ice cream or a chocolate bar every now and then
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@cyberfluf (5004)
• Netherlands
12 May 09
That's lovely, I love ice-cream aswell and my boyfriend does occaisionally surprise me with some caramel chew chew ice-cream by Ben en Jerries. He knows I totally love that flavour. Thanks for responding.
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@liquorice (3901)
21 Feb 09
Alfie bear - Alfie bear. I've adopted him now.
Well until recently I wasn't at all into stuffed animals. Didn't see the point in them, and just for kids. (Even though my kid won't go near them, lol!) But a few months ago somebody bought an adorable old-fashioned teddy bear for my daughter. And as she didn't want it, I decided that he was mine. He's so cuddly! (I know this might seem quite sickening to someone who doesn't like soft toys..) But I still don't really get the idea of a man giving one to his partner on Valentine's day. I think it's fine someone buying stuff like this for themselves, but as a Valentine's gift it's a bit soppy for me. I don't want to have that kind of relationship with my partner. But I guess if other people like it then that's fine. It was nice of you to be so nice and appreciative about it. I can't imagine my man getting me one (he is even more against this type of present than I am), but if he did, I'm not sure what I'd do. I might pretend to like it too. Probably depend what mood I was in...
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• United States
21 Feb 09
my husband has bought me some odd gifts before I normally try to find some positive response to give I would never dream of hurting his feelings normally he actually has some logic to his gift giving the challenge is getting him to explain his logic LOL
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@liquorice (3901)
21 Feb 09
That's the best approach to have. At least with odd gifts there is an element of surprise. Never dull I imagine!
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