Who do you turn to for advice?
@thinkingoutloud (6127)
Canada
January 31, 2009 10:29pm CST
As a society, we are bombarded with information from so many sources, not the least of which includes the media, the internet, etc. But, when you need advice, on anything from your relationship to what color would look good in your kitchen, who is the first person you ask? Your best friend? Your spouse? A parent? Maybe you post to myLot for diverse opinions? Where does the best advice seem to come from?
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@dodo19 (47121)
• Beaconsfield, Quebec
1 Feb 09
I mainly turn to my fiance. The reason is that he's really the only person that I feel that I can turn to talk to, to confine in. Yes, I know that my friends are there and that I can talk to them, but when I'm with them, I just want to have some fun and relax. I can't feel that I can turn to my parents or my sister. It's a bit of a complicated situation with them. My fiance has been the one that I feel that I can really open up to.
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@thinkingoutloud (6127)
• Canada
1 Feb 09
It sounds like you have a very loving and trusting relationship with your fiance, dodo :) Congratulations! I hope that, as you move forward in your life and marriage, you will always be able to turn to him for support and a shoulder when you need advice.
@grecychunny26 (9483)
• Philippines
23 Jul 09
Literally, everyone especially old one are very welcome to give me some advices. I listen to everyone , even youngs ones have their piece of advice for me. Do you know I feel a bliss when everyone give their advice, it only means I got their attention. I weighed their advice and choose what I will follow, so far so good, I have the prime advisers.
@thinkingoutloud (6127)
• Canada
23 Jul 09
I think it's wonderful that you have so many people that you can talk things over with. I think it's even nicer that you are open to hearing from all of them. Some people do have a hard time accepting advice and, if you can take it all in and weigh it all wisely, that's very much to your credit!
@eaforeman6 (8979)
• United States
1 Feb 09
Mylot. The reason for this is they will give you many opinions and you get more then one idea. I like the variety of answers. I think the advice here is very good. I think thats why we all ask the questions and seek out the opinions here that we do. I have friends here that I have had for a very long time. I value their opinions.@thinkingoutloud (6127)
• Canada
1 Feb 09
I love that people are very willing to share their personal experience and stories here. It makes it easier to relate to one another and keeps things interesting at the same time. I, too, value whatever people have to say and the diversity of ideas allows us to see many sides of the same issue.
@highflyingxangel (9225)
• United States
1 Feb 09
The first person I turn to for advice is my partner. Obviously however, if I have a relationship problem I can't ask them for advice on it. However, I'm the type pf person that tends to really think through things myself. I don't ask people for help often. I think about everything myself. And if I'm finally breaking down and want to find out what my partner thinks, then I'll do it. I do ask her opinion quite often on shopping purcashes and the like. She is really helpful when it comes to that sort of thing.
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@thinkingoutloud (6127)
• Canada
1 Feb 09
Oh boy, I'm a thinker too, highflyingxangel! I think, think and overthink when something bothers me or before I make a decision. I am generally the person that people confide in or ask advice from, rather than the other way around, actually. My sister ALWAYS comes to me when she needs to make a decision about something or when she is contemplating changes in her life... she says I'm the only one she trusts to give her straight, honest advice or feedback. I take that seriously and feel privileged that she feels that way.
@sunny7758521 (339)
• China
1 Feb 09
when I need some advices of work, I often ask my collegue. If I have a problem in the life, I usually ask my hubby or search the network. Sometimes I ask both my friends and my close relatives. When I decorated my house, first I went to my friends' houses and asked them for advices. At last I decided how to do it with my hubby. "Two heads are better than one", so I often ask as many people as I can for an important thing.
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@thinkingoutloud (6127)
• Canada
1 Feb 09
How right you are, sunny... two heads are definitely better than one in a lot of cases! When it comes to decorating, I find I notice a lot about the homes I visit and, when I see something I especially like, I'll take the time to ask the owner about it... how a technique is accomplished or how difficult it might be, etc. I think it's great to learn from people who have done something you really like and it's sometimes more "relatable" than just reading print information or watching "how to" videos where you can't get any feedback.
@smartie0317 (1610)
• United States
1 Feb 09
See, I turn to different people for different things. For some advice, my mother is most hopefully and knows the best. For other advice, I turn to my best friend first. For something else, I turn to other friends for other advice. I turn to mylot if I need unbiased advise or help I know I can't get offline.
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@thinkingoutloud (6127)
• Canada
1 Feb 09
I do this too, smartie... I miss my mom a lot because she used to be a great sounding board for me -- well, my dad too, come to think of it. It was nice to be able to get advice from people that I knew were always in my corner or "had my back" :)
@christinep312 (131)
• United States
1 Feb 09
I almost always ask my boyfriend first. Then if he can't help I'll call my parents.
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