I have lost passion for everything
@chaobreeder16 (425)
February 1, 2009 10:04am CST
Just broken up with my boyfriend saw it coming a week before so started greiving ahead of schedule even though everybody said his change in communication was just him stressing about work. I was able to and still can pretty much read him like a book. Am third person I know so far in the last week to have broken up with thier boyfriend/ fiance and its so unbearingly depressing. I always contemplate self harm but my conscionce would never let me away with it and I would be far to lazy to do something like that anyway lol.
I still feel I have purpose in life even if its just living for others but I just dont feel like I have anything to really look forward to or be passionate about in the future now. I make jewellery and nintendo themed phone charms for conventions which I really like doing but they only happen a few times a year and I used to play videogames a lot however I have no tv or internet access at my student accomodation. So I have no idea what to do with myself.I do have a lot of university work to do this semester but I have trouble motivating myself if I dont have something I am really looking forward too, anya dvice anyone? and dont say help others and do volountry work as I already work with an NGO and help young people who have had cancer or have cancer through a youth forum service and will probably end up absailing down one of our universitys buildings to raise money for that.
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@kykidd (6812)
• United States
1 Feb 09
I am so sorry to hear about your break up. These things can be so difficult for a person. I think maybe there is no real answer, except that time heals all wounds.
I had a break up, after 6 years in a relationship, back in October. I felt like someone took a huge part of me. There were some days that I would just sit the whole day and stare at the television. I would unplug my phone and still couldn't even tell you what was on tv.
I hope things get better for you soon.
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@chaobreeder16 (425)
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1 Feb 09
Yeah sorry to hea about that totally know the feling. Would like to do that too but too many people want me to do things for them, would like just to move away and start a whole new life where nobody knows me and leaves me alone lol.
@chaobreeder16 (425)
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1 Feb 09
Would like to join a club or something that involves a hobby or something I enjoy, but its difficult where I am geographically my university seems to be in the middle of nowhere and cant really travel too far as I am in pretty much everyday. Wont get a break until april.
@Sammy_pink (163)
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1 Feb 09
Sometimes removing yourself, like moving away is the answer, or a short break that will involve you with new people, like hiking in a group of strangers is great as u don't have to tell them about your bad news instead forget about it and be the real happy you, this will lead you to meeting people that like u for u and a whole new world of possibilities. And i agree that time heals and memories do fade if you let them.
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@kitttenskysong (676)
• United States
1 Feb 09
*hugs* I'm so sorry your feeling sad. I write when I'm sad, it takes my mind off of things. You might need a distraction, or find someone to talk to a counselor or a friend. Maybe you need a shoulder to cry on. If you need to cry do. Don't let anyone tell you not to, sometimes we just need to cry.
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@kitttenskysong (676)
• United States
1 Feb 09
your welcome, and I hope things get better soon.
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@dropofrain (1167)
• India
2 Feb 09
I am also going through the same phase. I do not feel like meeting anyone or going out with friends. I just want to be in my den all the time. I am always hiding from something or the other. I just wish everything in the world ends here only.
@suzzy3 (8342)
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2 Feb 09
Never ever say that men are ten a penny and you will meet someone else soon and wonder why you ever felt like this over someone that left you alone.Get out there and have some fun no man is worth it love, beleave me,promise me have a life,as he is not brooding over you is he.
@mzplased (255)
• United States
1 Feb 09
I am sorry about your break up. Thats always a tough one to get over. I would suggest working on yourself. Not saying that there is anything wrong with you, but why not take some time and do the things that make YOU happy and things you've always wanted to do. You have to get back back the passion that you lost for the future, dont let some guy take that from you! Get that chin up and dust yourself off and start living in the moment for yourself! You said you enjoy making jewlery, why not start looking at differant avenues that you can sell them, maybe taking them to local shops and seeing if they would like to purchase a few to resell to their customers. You like to play video games, find some people around your housing that also like to play and what a fun time that would be. It may seem like you will never get over this, butyou have your whole life ahead of you and so many things to accomplish. Good luck and keep that chin up! (((HUGS)))
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@chaobreeder16 (425)
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1 Feb 09
Yeah my auntie and uncle are very encouraging about selling my stuff like at church markets and stuff.Think I will look into it, may as well look into taking a work experience year with the university for next year also and take the trip to Goa for feild research.
I think because it was a friendly brek up I am not as devestated as I could have been so I do respect him for that but I shouldnt feel hung up or dwell on it,may as well focus my energy into something positive.Think there is a scifi and anime convention in March close to where I live so may as well attend that also and try to make some friends.
Think the boys in the flat beside us on campus also have loads of video gams so may as well try o make friends with them, flatmate has a crush on one of them I think so would have an excuse for playing video games with them also.
@CRIVAS (1815)
• Canada
1 Feb 09
I think that you need to find a hobby that you really enjoy, it's great to help others but maybe now is the time for you to worry about yourself and try to do something new and exciting. make the effort to do somthing that you have always wanted to but haven't been able to. I bet that will help out a little. Hope all works out for you.
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@chaobreeder16 (425)
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1 Feb 09
Yeah mabe thats an idea, now I just have to find out what made me happy in the first place, really love making things maybe I should apply to sell my stuff at the local market once a month or every two months or something, there is a convention in March but I havnt heard back to see if I can sell my stuff there and another one in late June which I am still to hear back from, but at least applying for the local weekly market would give me something to look forward to.It couldnt hurt to a least apply I suppose.
@boilerroom (6)
• Indonesia
2 Feb 09
There's always a stage in life when someone feel the way you do, including me. It could be because 1. Youre just bored, go find new activity/hobby/religion/phisolophu, etc. or..2. You already have everything you went for, get new goals then,..or.. 3. You can be depressed because your BF dumped you, so pamper ourself at beauty spa, get instant make over, or just change your hairstyle, or anything that make you feel like a new person. You just need a refreshment in life.
@tigerdragon (4297)
• Philippines
2 Feb 09
hi, i know how you feel, my friend eventhough i am a guy because my heart have had its fare share of pain. i would suggest that you give yourself time to heal, as in months to a year. think of him often so you would get fed up with the thought of him. then think of the odd and bad things with him, ask yourself if it was worth hanging on to him or worst dependent on him. remember, you are more important than anyone else in your life then ask yourself if you want to be miserable or be happy for the rest of your life. of course, you would rather be happy then work on it. that should be your ultimate goal in life. have a good life. be wise.
@peter123456 (152)
• China
2 Feb 09
I believe that you will feel good after some time. Please just do not be so sad. Do not cry. Just eating you want to eat.
@deborahkat (519)
• Brazil
2 Feb 09
You know, I am passing for the same thing right now. I have nothing in my life to motivate me. I don´t like my job and I am seeing my bestfriend (that is my ex boyfriend) getting further and further from me. I started to notice this year that I do nothing I really like in my life right now and this was really hard to notice. So I am thinking of maybe being back to music studies or try bellydance. Something to motivate me and make me feel beautiful and happy again. Try the same. Take a look in something you really love and start doing it. Maybe it helps.
@mssaranya (193)
• India
2 Feb 09
It has become a fashion for guys to change their girl friends often .It doesnt mean that we should also behave in the same way as them.If they had truely loved us they will surely come back one or the other day.Just think the person who are going out your life are just thinking that they are not worth being part of your life.It will be depressiong for nearly one month..Concentrate on things which you like more.Try to talk with some of your good friends.Share with them your pain.That will surely give you some relaxation.You are already doing a great job by helping people who have cancer.GOD wont let you down in any case.
@suzzy3 (8342)
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2 Feb 09
You poor thing you have a broken heart and it is not very nice.It will hurt for a while but maybe it was not just meant to be.All the advise is take it easy and keep busy doing things to take your mind off him.He has moved on so must you in time you will.You will meet someone else and fall in love again,whether it last forever is in the lap of the gods and life is like that.Your motivation will come back slowy and even though you might not feel like it now you will get over him,so sorry for you sweetheart but things do get better beleave me.
@forslahiri (1042)
• India
2 Feb 09
Hi,
Can U take some days off? Keep those entirely for"Introspection for Self".'For Positive self-talk'.U r really soft,U 've have to draw the ROADMAP in those days.Timebound,step by step where to start where to reach,when.Prepare it Urself, this will give U ownership & strength.Then work on this,like a Bull's Eye.No other priority, no worries, no unnecessary anxiety,apprehension,fear.U have deprived Urself MOST,though U Love Urself most.This self-realisation should come to U in Ur off days.Then, U'll come back with a BANG !
+lahiri,Kolkata,India.
@misslovelyfiles (250)
• United States
2 Feb 09
:hugs: am very sorry to hear that and going through a break up is not easy at all. Do you think you guys will get back together? Well since you already do voluntary work do more of it and with your school work simply think about the reason you wanted to go to that school and pick that major.Also, hangout with friends that will cheer you. Start getting into or find hobbies that you love and do them. see funny movies with friends. Remember what made you want to achieve the goals you wanted achieve and focus on that. go out get frees air join clubs at your school that you have an interest for and most of all keep yourself busy. cry grief when you want to, but don't stay in that moment and your passion for life will kinda creep back to you try to be positve about the stuff that makes you happy it can even be the fact you woke up this morning or how happy you help young people going through cancer feel.
