those good old days....

@vanities (11395)
Davao, Philippines
February 4, 2009 8:56pm CST
just a little bit curious on about infatuation or even love if it is ...what happen to the person you had love or infatuated for the first time , do you have any communication or known whereabouts of such person with or without the knowledge of your present partner?is it too personal? then if so then i understand if you wont respond to this...in my part..well i haven't seen my first love if ever it was a love not really sure of..(i was 17 years old that time and he was working as a second chief mate or whatever..in a ship that time(he had finish Bachelor of science in Marine transportation))but last i remember reading his name in a newspaper! i was curious that time when i saw a caption in the paper of passers of the board for chief mate ..well good for him and im already married during that time...Im happily married right now ..no regrets i guess...what about you guys??
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@rmuxagirl (7548)
• United States
5 Feb 09
I don't know much about what happened to my first boyfriend. We were in high school and lost contact over the years. I know he is getting married and still lives in our home town. I am I happy he is getting married, but I kind of wish he was able to get out of our small town.
@jillhill (37354)
• United States
5 Feb 09
My first love is the same way....never left the farm and he had so much more potential ...but it does work out the way it's supposed to!
@sid556 (30960)
• United States
7 Feb 09
The first guy I was infatuated was in first grade. He was in 3rd grade and he was the line leader when we lined up for the bus. I thought he was the hottest thing next to Paul McCartney only closer! I watched him from afar for the next 2 years. I doubt he even noticed me. Then my family moved away and I grew up some. We moved back to the area when I entered highschool. I ran into him again and now he was the next best thing to David Cassidy...only closer. He umped ball games and tho I had no real interest in the sport, I attended the games regularly just to watch him. If I passed him in the hallway, I had a meltdown. Still...doubted that he noticed me. I dated others and later married (not him). One night, my husband and I attended a part at a friends house and this man was there. Instantly I had butterflies and all the old feelings came rushing to the surface. He came over to where I was sitting and began talking to me. My heart pounded as we talked. My husband and I had been having problems and I felt horrible for the thoughts racing thru my brain. he did in fact notice me all those years and felt it time we got to know each other. He turned out to be as great a guy as I imagined he was but alas...he was gay. I had no idea. end of crush.
@KrauseHome (36449)
• United States
7 Feb 09
Well, besides the first guy I was ever engaged too that I hsve kept in contact with from time to time, even after 25 yrs, there is a Guy I really liked when I was in Jr. High and Freshman in High School that I remember when I was around 21 or so I heard from his BIL that he had gotten Married, and wished it could have been to me, but I have always wondered how he is doing from time to time, and hope he is still quite Happy as well. But there is no regrets as we were both really young, and I am very Happy now as well.
• Philippines
6 Feb 09
Hi vanities.. I remember my first crush was when I was in kindergarten (that early). He was my neighbor and was older than me. He wrote me a letter and as a very young lass I felt like a princess at that time. Funny because my mom is a Dentist so I can see her letters address to her with Dra. Young as I was, I thought that its an abbreiation for the salutation DEAR, that if its a woman its DRA and for a man its DR. So when I wrote back to him I used DR We transfered to another house when I was in grade school so every chance that I came across with his Mom she teased me with it. Such fond memories with my childhood. By the way, he's happily married a long time ago.
@neildc (17239)
• Lapu-Lapu City, Philippines
6 Feb 09
My high school sweetheart is what I can say my first love. Though we did not last for a year, it was so memorable. We both made it in the top 5 student in our class, being nowhere when we started the year. We were so supportive with each other. She was my inspiration. I can't explain what went wrong and we cooled-off when I went to college. Since then, I never heard of her. I was still 17 that time.
@bing28 (3795)
• Philippines
6 Feb 09
I met him after 26 years. I am a widow, he's much married but with problems with her wifey. Our children were all grown ups. He thought of having our love, the second time around. Can't be, we better be the best of friends. He's married (though according to him not happily) and thought of leaving home. I just can't leave my children and go for another relationship. We dine out together, go sing along with friends, even went to movies, but till there only, we can't go on with the relationship, hehe 26 years ago. Love maybe still there but we can no longer be lovers.
• United States
5 Feb 09
My first love was so troubled and I did not find out until much later , years later after I had been married for a few years , I was on line bored and googling people I know names, and I did his name and it came back his obit so I called some friends and they finally found his mom and I guess he had been an addict for years and it finally got him she said. How sad.
@jillhill (37354)
• United States
5 Feb 09
My first love ditched me for my best friend...so I lost both of them in one shot...they are still back home on the farm....and I don't think life has been such a barrel of roses for either one of them! LOL....I really don't care though.
@laydee (12798)
• Philippines
5 Feb 09
I don't really know where he is, but I know he's still alive. I saw his photo with his girlfriend few months ago at a social networking site I am on. He's still single but he doesn't look half as good as I could remember ~ perhaps that's why they call it 'puppy love' or 'infatuation' in the first place. Anyhow, my partner knows about him, it's no big deal since I was in grade 6 when that happened! Getting jealous over the guy would have to be too immature for us (my partner and I) right now, at this age. I don't have regrets whatsoever because I know there wasn't anything serious between the two of us, and I'm sure he doesn't even remember me, I remember him vaguely.
• Brazil
5 Feb 09
I remember all my old loves or infatuations. And I am friend of two of them so sometimes we talk online. Some days ago I met one, he went to visit me at my house and he is a guitar player. So he showed me a song he wrote for me in the past. Very beautiful. It´s good that now we can be friends. In the past I was a bit mad at him but nowadays all passed.
• Malaysia
5 Feb 09
hi vanities i had a crush once , it was my school sports boy of the year .. did he have the muscle at proper places .. i was just 15 and he was 17 ... i wrote a "secret admirer" letter and placed it on his school desk ... believe me he read it .. then we communicated via the letters for almost 4 letters ... i cant remember now what i actually wrote in it ... Then our common friends found out and they wanted to introduce us face to face .. lol, he treated me like a baby .. it has been more than 20 years now ... our friends said he went to another country to work .. dont know what happen ... then at 21 i met my husband ... we are happily married too thank you for reminding those good old memories cheers
• Canada
5 Feb 09
id be completely honest about it. his name's Katke Ong. haha i know he's in Cebu right now and he still hangs out with my friends so i get to see him in pictures once in a while. i have completely moved on and have gotten over him but definitely, there's always a part of him that will stay in my heart. we've talked about all the things in the past and we even could laugh about it now. its so good to know that we have become good friends again after our little ro-oh-mance affair before :D
• Australia
5 Feb 09
I'm still friends with my first love. We've been friends for 7 plus years now and he's my oldest friend i have. I wasn't infatuated with him but rather it was a steady type of relationship. We're friends first before dating and being friends first makes our friendship long lasting rather than the 'promise to be friends after the relationship ended' thing. I'm still in contact with him and know what he's been up to. He's going for army soon this year so.. i pity him haha. I had my first infatuation with another guy and we had a great time together, while it lasted. It was really fun being with him but we're not in touch anymore.
@becdmd (704)
• Philippines
5 Feb 09
I don't have communication with my first love, it's a long process before I totally moved on, good thing he was married with one kid because if he's still single maybe I'm still blinded, what I mean is, those good old days I thought we were meant for each other. I can say that I will not forget him because he made me a lot stronger and I've been in love for the first time. I did not regret the moment I met him.
@gr8life (6251)
• Malaysia
5 Feb 09
Hello vanities, I had known my first love when I was 14. We had been together for 1o wonderful years and broke up for some reasons later. I don't keep in touch with him anymore and I know where he is but not sure about his status right now. He did try to keep in touch with me but that time I was busy 'lovey dovey' with my husband to be. My husband knows about my past but he doesn't like me to talk about it anymore. My ex is a good man and I have no regrets knowing him and also, I am very content with my life now and my husband is the only person I do love so much right now and maybe, forever!
@izathewzia (5134)
• Philippines
5 Feb 09
I thought about it a lot of times in the past also. I haven't seen my ex for years already. My first especially. But I do hope they are all okay and are enjoying with their lives. Because I am.
@ANTIQUELADY (36440)
• United States
5 Feb 09
oh, he still lives here in fact right next door to a good friend of mine. no, i don't have any regrets. he has turned out to be a jerk.
@Opal26 (17679)
• United States
5 Feb 09
Hey vanities! That's nice that you still remember your first love! I honestly don't remember! I guess it wasn't that important! It was such a very long time ago and there were so many awful ones since! lol But, that's ok! I am sure that I am not missing anything! I have no regrets about anyone that is no longer in my life! There were reasons that they aren't so I am not unhappy about it!
• United States
5 Feb 09
My first I ran across on myspace, just reconized the picture, looked at her profile, then kept browsing. My life's a lot different than what it was back then. To me, I feel that it's just best to let sleeping dogs lie. I ,also, heard someone say once that there's a reason that the people in our past didn't make it with us to our present.
• United States
5 Feb 09
My first love (puppy love perhaps) is still where I left him. We "dated" on and off from middle school all the way until I went to college. We broke up half way through my freshmen year for good I thought...I got married, then divorced, and we hooked back up...he was still at home with the parents, working on and off. Well a year pasted and we went our separate ways...I am remarried now with a beautiful little girl, and he is still at home. We where that couple who loved to hate each other. We don't talk now, but my hometown is small so I get updates on him about once a month, and I am sure he gets the same. In a way I wish things would have been different between us because I do care for him, but we just couldn't get it together. BUT things do happen for a reason and I found my true soul mate, not just puppy love.