Does my bum look big in this?????

@James72 (26829)
Australia
February 5, 2009 6:10am CST
Well, YEAH! But it at least draws attention away from ya face! lol. Oh how wonderful it would be to get away with the TRUTH every now and then! Don't go kidding yourself now, because we ALL tell little white lies on occasion to keep others happy..... But surely there are many of you that are like me and would love to be able to let loose once in a while with some honesty! Obviously not EVERY time, just here and there. Be truthful now! Do you have any examples of situations where you said one thing but would have LOVED to say something completely different?
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• Regina, Saskatchewan
5 Feb 09
Sorta like: "Listen you greybacked idiot, you're beginning to sound like your ape ancestors!" Bring it on baby! ROFL
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@James72 (26829)
• Australia
6 Feb 09
Jane Goodall! Is that you? LMAO
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• Regina, Saskatchewan
6 Feb 09
LOL, There ain't no mirrors in a Jungle man, so your guess is as good as mine! ROFL
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@James72 (26829)
• Australia
6 Feb 09
Yeah there are! Ya never used a tiger pee puddle then? Once you can get past always looking yellow, they're quite effective! lol.
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@SViswan (12071)
• India
16 Apr 09
Weddings for sure when asked about the brides looks. Another one is babies. Though I do feel that all babies look cute, there are some that I just can't comment on. And when the mother's the one asking me....I have no other option than to say 'She's so cute and tiny or she's adorable' or something on those lines. Atleast on mylot I have an option of not commenting (not that I've seen any uncute baby pics here) but what do I do when they look at me straight and ask the question?
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@James72 (26829)
• Australia
16 Apr 09
All babies are definitely cute, no question! But I think we've all been guilty of being a little more complimentary than we really wish to be at times. And brides? Oh my goodness! "Wow! That bright orange taffeta dress with the green fake roses really brings out your eyes! You look FANTASTIC!"
@SViswan (12071)
• India
16 Apr 09
I've been guilty of sporting the 'jewellery shop' look myself at my own wedding! And this after a heated argument with the whole family about not wearing so much jewellery. My dad and I were voted out and I ended up wearing around __ kgs of gold and I could have drowned easily if anyone wanted to do away with me! There was so much gold that it was difficult to see the colour of my sari! But I was wise enough not to ask anyone how I looked!!!! I'm too lazy to scan a pic or else I would have posted one here and given all of you a scare!
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@James72 (26829)
• Australia
16 Apr 09
I've been to several Indian Weddings and I can imagine how overloaded you must have been! I was constantly amazed at how much regalia people wore and was surprised they could even move in many instances! The weather was usually quite hot too, so it must have been so uncomfortable.
@Theresaaiza (10487)
• Australia
26 Apr 09
That is the reason why I try not to bully people with so many questions on how I look, or does it fit? Does my tummy look smaller now? Did I lose weight? Coz I recognize that familiar untruthful look on their faces! But sometimes, we can't help it. There are occasions wherein truth just won't set you free. Instead, they'd set you on fire. So some white lies here and there can really come in handy.
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@Theresaaiza (10487)
• Australia
26 Apr 09
I am VERY SORRY this ended up as a double post. I meant to write it as a comment,
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@James72 (26829)
• Australia
26 Apr 09
Jeez Theresa! First you start putting risque words in upper caps and bold and now this??? I'm just so disappointed in this downward spiral and never expected it from you at all. lol.
@Theresaaiza (10487)
• Australia
27 Apr 09
Just like the organism SEMAJ that I named along with my "whateverish", I am sometimes BACKWARDS in the way I deal things. So therefore, do not be surprised if I start gay-bashing, and making racist remarks, and ending up debating with muslims, hindi, and taoists. I may even start trolling you too. Oh gee, never thought my antisocial personality would resurface after having known you, James. You are a very influential person!
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• United States
8 Feb 09
I think the older I get, the less I filter what I say. Some days, there's just no filter in place at all, and everything I say really could use a little fine tuning before I say it.
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@James72 (26829)
• Australia
8 Feb 09
God help us if you live to be 100 then Bo! Sometimes we just can't help ourselves: and to be honest, I think that we NEED to be blunt every now and then too. If we didn't, anything could happen if we built it all up for long enough!
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• United States
8 Feb 09
You know, sometimes we could just say something kind of nice, smile and walk away, while muttering what we are really thinking, under out breath. That way, we are being nice, and not so nice at the same time. Doesn't build up that way.*LOL*
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@James72 (26829)
• Australia
8 Feb 09
But that just sounds too........ NICE! * shudder *
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@riyasam (16571)
• India
5 Feb 09
yup,it did happen recently,i did go for a wedding recently,i had to comment on the brides looks(my friends sister) and i said;you are looking so sweet,my hubby gave me a wry smile which implies;how can you be so untruthful(infact,my maids daughter looks better than her)lol
@James72 (26829)
• Australia
6 Feb 09
Ouch! Weddings are a classic example for sure! I doubt there's been anyone in the history of mankind that's ever told a bride that she looks like crap! lol. "Oh yes! The backless, strapless chiffon gown with the 3 foot wide bow and the white dove in your hair looks sensational my dear! You're so INNOVATIVE!"
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@riyasam (16571)
• India
6 Feb 09
IF YOU HAVE IT,FLAUNT IT.unfortunately,my hubby doesnt echo my sentiments,otherwise i was sure to go backless for my wedding(he didnt want others to oggle at my back!!spoilssport!!)
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@James72 (26829)
• Australia
6 Feb 09
Fair enough riya..... But you gotta admit that sometimes people take that notion WAY too far! Some people have things that just shouldn't be flaunted, yet they don't realize it. So all we can do is step in with the white lies from time to time I guess! lol.
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@mimpi1911 (25475)
• India
6 Feb 09
I find myself there many times. Infact, on fortnightly basis! I just hate siting through those medical sessions bi monthly. How I wish to divert myself from the boring drawls of the practitioners who think they are the best, never kinda stop beating their own drums. But at the end of it I write words of appreciation about the same, of which I hardly remember a phrase!
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@James72 (26829)
• Australia
6 Feb 09
On a fortnightly basis! Now how the heck did you manage to come up with a white lie schedule then mimpi?? lol. Ego stroking is a great example actually! I am sure there are many of us that have sat there patiently (yet with massive amounts of indifference!) while someone drones on and on about their accomplishments..... And of course we agree, even though that little voice in our heads is saying "Oh for God's sake! SHUT UP you big head!"
@mimpi1911 (25475)
• India
6 Feb 09
And if you remember, its one of such meetings that I goofed up with words! Remember, HYPOCHONDRIAC becoming NYMPHOMANIAC!! God knows where I was!!
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@James72 (26829)
• Australia
6 Feb 09
I don't think I wanna know where you mentally were at the time either mimpi! It's kinda like the Judge in a courtroom seeing the defendant chewing gum and asking him to stop MASTICATING...... So he immediately removes his hands from his pockets!
@Theresaaiza (10487)
• Australia
24 Apr 09
Can you concentrate at myLot with loud music blaring in the background? I sure can't. That's why I don't know how to answer your post! LOL
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@James72 (26829)
• Australia
24 Apr 09
Then turn down the damn music! lol. But then again, if it's good music, don't do that at all. I'm sure this isnt the first time someone's wondered how the heck to answer one of my discussions anyway. Even without loud music in the background!
@Theresaaiza (10487)
• Australia
26 Apr 09
If only the iPOD was mine, I would have shut it off to extinction long ago! hehe. Okay so what was your question again? Oh, coke or pepsi? PEPSI!
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@James72 (26829)
• Australia
26 Apr 09
I'm a Schweppes man myself! Mmmmmmmmm SCHWEPPERVESCENCE!
@mtdewgurl74 (18118)
• United States
7 Apr 09
I don't like hurting peoples feeling so I skirt around the truth if it has to do with their looks,hair,or clothes. The famous question...Does this skirt make my butt look fat?.. I guess it is the little white lies that keeps the world turning and a few less knocks in the head from woman throwing stuff at their mates for telling the truth. My husband I would never ask that question. He would tell me the truth and probably make me feel worse by adding to it. He has good reflexes..lol
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@James72 (26829)
• Australia
7 Apr 09
I think most of us bite our tongues on many an occasion for the same reason. As much as we'd LIKE to tell it how it is, we don't wish to hurt people, so we of course remain diplomatic. Sometimes the truth hurts, but there are times when it really does need to be shared. I guess it's great for your Hubby's sake that he has good reflexes too! The making you feel worse bit is a bit rough though, I must say.
@mtdewgurl74 (18118)
• United States
7 Apr 09
I guess he feels that, I don't need a big head to match my big bum..But I would rather face the music and know if I look terrible in something then to realize it when I got home how bad I really looked then I would be madder if I had been told i looked fine and that no it didn't make my bum appear larger then the world atlas..
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@James72 (26829)
• Australia
7 Apr 09
Fair enough. I'd prefer to be told by my Wife if I was not looking as good as I could also I guess, but it also all comes down to how she went about telling me! Some people can be very cruel in the way they tell the "truth" and that's just not productive at all. Thankfully my Wife isn't one of those types of people!
@dawnald (84152)
• Shingle Springs, California
10 Feb 09
Oh all the time. I'm a smoother (smoother overer) and I usually let things go. Mostly peace is more important to me although there are times...
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@James72 (26829)
• Australia
10 Feb 09
"although there are times"........ Oh but ain't those times GREAT when they present themselves, Dawn! Too much peace can get a tad claustrophobic at times I reckon! lol.
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@dawnald (84152)
• Shingle Springs, California
10 Feb 09
I guess it can. Story of my life....
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@James72 (26829)
• Australia
10 Feb 09
Well one good thing about story's Dawn, is that if they're well written, the ending can end up being totally unpredictable! Life ain't much different, you've just gotta work on being creative with the storylines so we can be constantly excited about what might happen next!
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@makingpots (11922)
• United States
20 Apr 09
Confession time.... as a grade school teacher I confess to occassionally wishing I could tell a child to "just get over it". But no, I always kindly suggested, "what do we do when people do something that we do not like?" Oh, and then there were the tattlers!!
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@James72 (26829)
• Australia
21 Apr 09
Tattlers! I'm no Teacher, but given the type of student I was myself, I can only imagine that many of my Teachers had wicked fantasies involving me and the edge of a cliff quite regularly! It would take a special kind of tolerance and internal fortitude to deal with so many kids so regularly. If you ever end up carted away to a padded room, try and get a message to me so I can rally the troops to break you out! lol.
@makingpots (11922)
• United States
21 Apr 09
If the wit you have was developed already while your were a student then I'll bet most teachers liked you. A good teacher enjoys humor injected in the learning process. You are a true friend, you and your cavalry, but my padded room worries are no longer a concern. I no longer teach, I'm a stay-at-home mom and wouldn't have it any other way. I could never return to teaching..... I wouldn't be able to be the mom or the teacher that I would choose to be.
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@James72 (26829)
• Australia
21 Apr 09
Unfortunately the wit aspect of it all didn't really come into play until I matured a bit. I was disruptive and argumentative at best I think. lol. I have some very interesting report card comments, put it that way! I was a constant source of frustration for my poor Teachers because I'd been subjected to every non-standard test available at the time and was off the charts results wise with most of them, yet I was totally ignorant of a majority of the things they were trying to teach me. I just never struck a chord with much of the subject matter to be honest. The things I wanted to learn about, just weren't taught. But all turned out just fine and leaving High School was one of the best days of my life! I loathed school. Good for you for being able to stay at home and raise your children too. I can fully appreciate your midnset when it comes to not wishing to ever return to Teaching, but it's reassuring to know that you'll always have this up your sleeve. Who knows what the future may bring!
@alokn99 (5717)
• India
7 Feb 09
When food sometime cooked by someone taste like rubber , but i give a smile in appreciation when asked a feedback. And i'm thinking, why is there no dog in the house and under the table, where i can make all the food dissappear, and i just hope the host does not ask me have some more. This has happened a lot of tiems how i wish sometimes i let go, but can't. My ex boss, used to seek verbal feedback on some new plans. I did raise my strong objections once only to be sidelined. I learnt that those who gave thier nod and said it was great got to his good side. The plans would fail. But yet he would persist. I learnt to keep quiet and nod in approval,but would be thinking why is he keen on putting his foot in dung everytime ?
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@James72 (26829)
• Australia
7 Feb 09
Oh my, the food white lies! How can we possibly forget them! lol. And you know when you're really in deep trouble when there IS a dog under the table and even HE won't eat what you throw under there! "Mmmmmmm, this is the best soup I've ever tasted!" - Translation - "Good God, I'm gonna need a stomach pump after this!" As for white lies when we agree with the Boss...... Well I guess I used to be this way myself, but these days I call most things as I see them. It's very refreshing to be this way now I must admit! Sure, it can blow up in my face from time to time, but if I feel strongly enough about something, then I'll speak up. Sometimes people don't like it, but I do feel I've earnt the right to have an opinion. On the flip side, I also like it when my own staff speak up too. I won't always agree with their points, but I respect them for having the guts to put them forward.
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@alokn99 (5717)
• India
7 Feb 09
The boss part it was , simply becuase speaking up got me nowhere and would never be appreciated. And then there are instances of some really wierd combination of clothes and some horrible dress sense that iv'e seen some distant relatives wear. ASked to comment i would say nice, but it would be so garrish and if ro one would not want to be seen around them.
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@James72 (26829)
• Australia
7 Feb 09
I've worked for Bosses like that too Alok. Damned in you do and damned if you don't! Thankfully though I never ended up worlking for people like that for very long. And we can choose our friends but we can't choose our family! Now where would we be in life without embarrassing relatives? In a way, they're one of the few things in life that actually give us a chance to feel normal!
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@cyberfluf (5004)
• Netherlands
8 Feb 09
There are lots of ways to tell the truth whilst cushioning the blow, James! . But you are right, it seems a very nice idea to able to speak your mind without having to wonder if you might hurt someone whilst doing so. Just a little hint of honesty here and there wouldn't hurt anyone, right . Because of my upcoming profession I have to deal with a lot of people and children and keeping them al happy is hard, if not sometimes impossible. There have been times you want to say something different from what you would professionally say, because your own values might differ greatly from what you are dealing with. So yes, I know what you mean.
@James72 (26829)
• Australia
8 Feb 09
Oh, when it comes to other parents and their own children, then its a whole new ballgame altogether! It can definitely become one of those damned if you do/damned if you don't situations very, very quickly with some parents. It's very unfair in a sense too, because they are quite happy to walk off and leave their children in the care of professionals, yet any extra-curricular advice can be totally misread at the drop of a hat. My Mother owned and ran a Nanny Training College for some 7 - 8 years, so I know first hand what a challenge things like this can be. Yeah the truth can hurt at times, but sometimes things need to be said and damn the consequences I reckon.
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@cyberfluf (5004)
• Netherlands
8 Feb 09
Indeed, sometimes the truth hurts but it has to be told. Otherwise there is no way of changing certain situations. Loads of the time the person in question allready knows, but they haven't heard it out loud yet and that's the scary part I guess. Once it is out in the open there is no way of turning away from it. It becomes 'a solid thing'. The good thing about it is that once it has become 'solid', you can grab it and work with it; or at least that's how I try to comfort clients when they are shocked or sad about certain things.
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@James72 (26829)
• Australia
8 Feb 09
This is a good way to look at it cyberfluf. A problem can't be addressed until it's at least acknowledged; and many other people in these parents lives are probably way too connected already to be able to always provide an unbiased or beneficially direct viewpoint. It may cause issues in the first instance, but then the required actions can start once the dust settles. Now I have to say good night I'm afraid as it's been a long day today. Cya.
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• India
18 Oct 09
Oh here's an instance James... "Was I flirting with your girfriend back there ?" "(punch on the face ) Does that really sting ?" Heyy James, long time no read ! Its been a while since I was last here. And how can stop myself from visiting your profile !
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@James72 (26829)
• Australia
26 Oct 09
Heya Pratyush! Sorry for the late reply mate, but I've been traveling and very busy lately, so it's been difficult to be able to get on here. The example you just shared sounds like a great instance of jovial karma if you ask me! lol. For some reason it kind of reminds me of those situations like when you fall down a flight of stairs, bruise your entire body on the way down, end up in a crumpled bloody heap at the bottom of the stairs and then someone leans over you and asks "Are you OK???" It's good to see you mate and I hope all is well.
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• India
26 Oct 09
Missed you James. I too wasn't here for a long time. So nice to hear from you... Hey that "Are you OK ?" thing. You know its worst when my I step on my girlfriend's foot (by mistake ) and then ask her "You alright hun ?" And then ... LOL....
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@hiddenwing (3721)
• China
7 May 09
So many times. For example, my freshman roommate's "princess disease" was very very severe. She always looked herself in the mirror asking " I look so gorgeous,huh?" I had to say " I guess!" Deep down I thought she was hopeless to a certain extent. By the way, a good movie called " Thouch of the Panada" is going to show. I guess it will be more excellent than " Kungfu Panda". However, I don't know whether you are sort of interested in Chinese moive. Don't look down upon Chinese movies. You know there are lots of good Chinese movie stars like Jackied Chan, Jet Lee and Bruce Lee. Oh, of course, Bruce Lee is no longer there. haha
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@James72 (26829)
• Australia
7 May 09
oh I've dealt with the deadly "Princess Disease" more times than I care to remember! lol. This new movie you mention of course sounds interesting because it has the word Panda in it! There are a number of Chinese movies that I absolutely love such as Crouching Tiger Hidden Dragon, Hero, Seven Swords, Police Story and many others, but I haven't seen a lot of them. I've always enjoyed all these actors you mention too, as well as Michelle Yeo, Chow Yun Fat and many more.
• China
7 May 09
So far, I don't know who is ChunYun-Fat. Maybe his Chinese name is Zhou Runfa. Believe it or not, this movie will be interesting. http://www.rkanr.com/f59aead6-3300-4d4c-8872-0942ba9d3991.html I gotta go! Bye! I came to your discussion to find some good sentence. It fell out as I expected. "Fair enough riya..... But you gotta admit that sometimes people take that notion WAY too far! Some people have things that just shouldn't be flaunted, yet they don't realize it. So all we can do is step in with the white lies from time to time I guess! lol." This one sounds nice. I wanna lend it for a while. Bye!
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@James72 (26829)
• Australia
7 May 09
Thanks for the link, I'll check it tonight! (And yes, Chow Yun Fat is also known as Zhou Runfa!)
@cream97 (29166)
• United States
16 Apr 09
Hi, James72, my partner!! Yes, I have had many of these days. Everyday, I want to say something to someone but I hold my tongue. When my mother-in-law asked me if she looked young for her age. I told her yes. But, I wanted to tell her no. My mil looks very much older then she is. I just told her a lie just to make her feel good about herself. I didn't want to hurt her feelings. Sorry. But, I tell white lies just to not cause any confusion with any other person.
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@James72 (26829)
• Australia
16 Apr 09
Heya cream! Wouldn't it be wonderful if there was an International Day of sorts where we were able to say whatever the heck we felt like to people! And no-one could ever get upset by it, because this was the DAY for it! If your Mother-in-Law asks again if she looks young for her age, innocently ask her - "Compared to what?" Then be sure to run like the wind! We're all guilty of telling white lies to spare the feelings of others and we've undoubtedly been on the receiving end of many too! lol.
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@cream97 (29166)
• United States
18 Apr 09
I wished that there was a day! I have so many straight up things that I would like to say to my mother-in-law and any other creep that tried to ruin my day. I would enjoy it just as they enjoyed hurting me! No pain, no gain!
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@James72 (26829)
• Australia
18 Apr 09
It would be fantastic for sure! We could say whatever the heck we wanted to anyone we liked and they couldn't hold us accountable for any of it! "But it's Tell-it-how-it-is Day! Don't take it personally!"
@miamilady (4924)
• United States
10 Feb 09
I experience that situation just about every time I get together with my older sister. But, recently I was in IM with her and I had the courage to be honest and tell her what I really thought of a particular situation. I thought to myself "wow, we're making progress here!". The next day I spoke to her on the phone and realize my "honest opinion" had no effect on her whatsoever. She just wants people to agree with her. She has told me numerous time that she doesn't undertand how I can "keep things in" so much. But, truth be told, most people (in my family) aren't realy interested in what I have to say. They just want to TELL ME what THEY think about everything! Oh well, that's why we pick our friends right? cuz we can't pick our families! lol
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@James72 (26829)
• Australia
10 Feb 09
"We can choose our friends, but we can't choose our family" is definitely one of the most accurate quotes out there! lol. I have experienced the type of people you are referring to here as well. They are so forthright with every advice under the sun, but it seems they have a force field around them that repels any return advice! It can really be quite frustrating. It's also one of the major flaws of men in general. A woman wants to open up and share her feelings and all we have to do is LISTEN. But no, we'd rather try and SOLVE everything and offer solution after solution instead. Having people always agree doesn't help either. Sometimes we WANT to hear an opinion and being told that what we feel is the way it should be just doesn't really help any. It's a cop out a lot of the time too. Hmmmmm, maybe if I agree they'll stop talking sooner! lol.
@miamilady (4924)
• United States
10 Feb 09
"Hmmmmm, maybe if I agree they'll stop talking sooner! lol." lol Trust me. I've tried that. It doesn't work!
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@James72 (26829)
• Australia
11 Feb 09
No??? Hmmmmmm. Fake a heart attack then! It's certainly an extreme diversionary tactic, but it just might work and shut them up for a few minutes! (Now if they STILL just keep on talking, even when you do this, then I'm not sure what else to say other than I'm glad I'm not you! lol)
@stella1989 (2274)
• India
9 Feb 09
That's very jovial nature of yours!! I like saying such things.. ya sometimes. It happened in my art class. There's one friend of mine who always sits with me and keeps on me asking me about her drawings. I would like to tell her the truth (she has a very kiddish kind of drawing skills) but she gets angry when some one does that even our own teacher. She says sir is so bad he keeps on telling me that my drawing is so bad and such kiddish. What does he think of himself "MR smarty pants"?? So what change can my words bring to her..?? When ever she asks me to comment I just say ... "hmmm good" "you have a nice concept" And on the other hand my other friend who is very flamboyance and open girl asks for my comment on her work.. I straight away said "What is that.." With wired face. She actually made a "man" and I wasn't able to recognize that ... Woah!! there I just pushed the BIG RED button for her's she kind of fired on me .. Like I would have said that it is bad or good.. but "what is that" what a cruel comment on someone's drawings.. Believe me "what is that" hurts a lot to an artist. he he he Phew I came out alive of my class room what else I could pray for!!
@James72 (26829)
• Australia
9 Feb 09
Hey, you came out alive, so all's not so bad! Art is so subjective if you ask me and it can be next to impossible to make an artist happy, even if they're not REALLY an artist in the truest sense of the word! A similar scenario exists with small children. They'll give you a piece of paper with a scribble on it and you have to pretend that you know what the heck it is! Get it wrong and you're in deep trouble. (And nine times out of ten, you'll get it wrong by the way! lol) "Oh wow sweetheart! Is that a tree???" we will say with great enthusiasm..... Answer - "NO, it's a picture of Grandma!" As for your friend, a true artist can greatly enhance their skills by embracing angst, pain and emotions in general right? I say hit her between the eyes with the truth and let her experience them all at once! "Ooooooh, well doesn't THAT look like crap! Did you draw it wth your feet?" (Be prepared to run like the wind too by the way)
• India
10 Feb 09
Oh no .. I am in love with my life so much that I am not gonna try that again.. no- never She's not gonna spare me this time you know. (she kept on teasing me from head to toe for two weeks to get even.. my hair, my clothes, my shoes, my shades my pencil and even the way I sit!!! C'mon) Well the classes have finished now.. And yes One should learn what is bad so that he can judge the good one out. I prefer to ask for others opinion about my work, So that I could expand my grounds of creativity and thinking ability. Instead of telling me whats good or bad just give me your opinion. And Criticism is good but please make it more reasonable for me. I can't take the straight pointless criticism from any one.. Give a reasons for why is it good or bad like.. Have I used too many colors.. Or I should use less objects in my poster. does this look too Plain?? etc.
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@James72 (26829)
• Australia
10 Feb 09
Fair enough and I couldn't agree more with your attitude. It's not easy for people to accept criticism, but as long as it's constructive, then we can use it to ultimately better ourselves. Many people just haven't yet managed to find the ability to NOT get on the defensive all the time and this really is to their detriment in the long run. The one thing that is far worse than not being able to accept constructive criticism and act on it positively, is to go through life thinking that everything we are doing is perfect when in reality it's far from it! We learn from our mistakes, we learn from the opinions of others and we GROW as people by stepping out of our comfort zones once in a while. We also tend to become very biased towards ourselves of course and a good prod every now and then can help us not get too set in our ways. lol. Hopefully your friend will learn to have a thicker skin in time.
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@SaintAnne (5453)
• United States
5 Feb 09
"No, it does NOT!" aka Yes it does but you might crush me if you say that. "No harm done/no worries/it's okay" aka do that again and I will choke you literally. "Tee Hee Hee" aka OMG that was a lame joke. "I kid, I kid." aka jokes are half-meant.
@James72 (26829)
• Australia
6 Feb 09
Oh yes SaintAnne..... All so, so true! And let us not forget the classic white lie uttered by us all when we are sharing food with a friend: "No, no. YOU have the last piece, I don't want it! I'm SO full already!" Now come on??? We ALWAYS want the last piece right??? Why do we never seem to take it then???
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@SaintAnne (5453)
• United States
6 Feb 09
This is what I do. I ask people if they want the last piece that I have stabbed my fork into. It usually works and I get the last piece with a chuckle.
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@James72 (26829)
• Australia
6 Feb 09
lol. Great method SaintAnne! (It's certainly far more sophisticated than my own method of licking the last piece and then asking who wants it too!)
@sid556 (30999)
• United States
7 May 09
do these socks make me look fat? obviously looking for hugs.
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@James72 (26829)
• Australia
7 May 09
Not at all! Whoever bought you the wrong size really does need to check with you first next time though. lol. * James sends sid a lifetime subscription to "Hugs Monthly" *
@sid556 (30999)
• United States
7 May 09
aawww....thanks James! ditto!
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@Hatley (164338)
• Garden Grove, California
24 Oct 09
hi james72 oh yes I once replied when this jerk asked me if his shirt collar made his neck look too big, no, but 'what I would like to have said, is no your neck looks a lot smaller than that big head of yours. He was a person who felt he knew everything, and had to tell you about it for hours and hours. The bad part is he lives here so I have to be courteous to him.
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@James72 (26829)
• Australia
26 Oct 09
Heya Hatley! Hahahahahahaha, I know EXACTLY how you felt in that situation let me tell you! So many times I've been in similar circumstances and would've given anything to be able to just say what I really thought at the time! Of course manners and common sense kick in more times than not and we remain diplomatic..... Hopefully one day you'll get the chance to give that guy what for!