do you trust people easily?

Philippines
February 7, 2009 10:10pm CST
hi everyone!! I just want to know if you trust people easily? giving them private issues about your life and trusting them about keeping secrets about you.? I trust people easily specially when they have been an important part of my life. you know, i need someone to talk to and stuff like that. without them, my world be so quiet and private that all i need to do is talk to myself and solve my problems just by myself sometimes you need people to ask for advice but sometimes you dont even know if that person deserves your trust. :(
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@Kenzierou (108)
• Indonesia
8 Feb 09
My head told me not to do that, but my heart always betray me again and again. Stupid...
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• Philippines
8 Feb 09
sometimes we need to follow the mind.. but when the heart interrupts us.. we become weak and follow the heart.. Thank you for the response Kenzierou
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• China
8 Feb 09
I used to believe each person has a good heart.But i find out it's not always true as i grow up.
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@magojordan (3252)
• Philippines
9 Feb 09
Well honestly it's hard for me to trust easily especially for strangers who I am meeting for the first time. Unless they are friends of my friends I could go trust them quite easy.
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• Philippines
10 Feb 09
Hi magojordan, thank you for the response. Yup that's a good way of trusting people. I can say that is the most effective way! Thanks for sharing. Have a nice day!
@annjilena (5618)
• United States
9 Feb 09
no i don,t trust people easily been stuck to many times by people they will smile to get what they want once they have it and have to pay up they give you their behind to kiss.i have meet a lot people that are backstabbers and liars so after all this you can see why i don,t trust people easily.
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• Philippines
9 Feb 09
AW, I am so much like you. I have been with backstabbers and liars! My gosh, why are they existing in this world! They do not have space in here. Hahaha, They are one of the reasons why i want only few friends.
@masata (408)
• Indonesia
8 Feb 09
Nope. I don't trust people so easily. In friendship, we need to build that trust. It is not easy of course but it is worth to build that trust. Even, I have trusted someone, if they sort of betray me, then it will be difficult for me to forgive them. I think that if someone have betrayed once, then there will be many possibilities that those persons will betray again in the future.
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• Philippines
9 Feb 09
Hi masata, Good day. Yes, Mistake is a mistake and giving second chance is not that good. For me, I should use my head rather than my heart. But its hard you know! =))
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• United States
8 Feb 09
It's hard to trust anybody anymore! Your best friend even family can betray you...
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• Philippines
9 Feb 09
Hi champion. =) Good day, How can you say so? Have you been betrayed? I'd love to listen from you. thanks.
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@SuperJay (37)
• United States
9 Feb 09
I only trust a person enough when I know who they really are. If you've known someone all your life, then you would be able to talk to them about personal and secretive issues. But if you've just met someone and don't really know them that well, then I wouldn't give your secrets to that person. Also, even though you know someone for a long period of time doesn't mean that they can keep a secret. I have a few friends I've known for about 2 years, but I'm not will to share with them a single thing of private life.
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• Philippines
9 Feb 09
Hi superjay, Thank you for the response about this issue. I understand a person like you because nowadays it is really hard to give your trust to friends, even long time friends.
@alexdra77 (147)
8 Feb 09
Honestly i dont trust people easily, there are very few that i do trust, I also dont tend to divulge too much information about myself either. The person must be extremely close. It is hard sometimes to know who is who but at one stage or another we might just have to take that gamble.
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• Philippines
9 Feb 09
Hi there alexdra77, Thank you for your response. I agree with you. When it comes to giving information about yourself, you should be careful.
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@mikeysmom (2088)
• United States
8 Feb 09
i used to but not anymore. i am careful about what i tell people and who i trust. i have found many people to be very untrustworthy and alot of people who do not know how to keep their mouths shut. so i keep alot to myself and share only with a handful of people.
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• Philippines
8 Feb 09
Nice one mikeysmom!
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@mscott (1923)
• United States
8 Feb 09
It depends on the situation. I generally trust people until they give me a reason not to. However, I am not going to trust complete strangers with large sums of money or my life. Trust is earned and the better you know people the more trust you put in them. Just my thoughts.
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• Philippines
8 Feb 09
thanks for the response mscott! yeah it really depends on the situation. :( what if you told a secret to this person but like after a month you two hada conflict. do you still trust him/her for not telling your secret:(
@uicbear (1900)
• United States
8 Feb 09
I guess I do trust people from the get go. I don't necessarily divuldge all my secrets and hopes and desires from the beginning (I think that would scare most people). But if someone asks me an honest question, most of the time I will give them an honest answer. People don't always live up to our expectations, but if you don't give them the chance, you will never know if you can trust them or not.
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• Philippines
8 Feb 09
Hi uicbear, Good day. Yes, you'll never know if you should trust them or not because People just come and go and thats life.. I should be used to it and be prepared for anything that will happen! Thank you for the response
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• China
8 Feb 09
hi wyethlovesyou!I don't trust people easily.people can't be judegde by their appearance.So it takes time for us to get to know them.If i need people to ask for advice or talk to,i will choose those people trusted.Sometimes the private stuff should be shared between closed ones.
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• Philippines
8 Feb 09
Hi langu0112! Yeap its hard to trust people but its also hard not to trust people but yourself. You are right Time will always be an answer for our problems. Thank you for the response!
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• India
8 Feb 09
no i dont believe peoples that much easy. no never say anything about me to anyone. i trust the one who helps me when i am in bad situvation. i say so because the person who helps you in bad situvation only will have real affection on us..thats it.
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• Philippines
8 Feb 09
Hello srinathmsvit, thank you for your response in this discussion. Yes you're right sometimes you'll know your true friends if they will help you when you're down. There are some people who treat you as a friend because you have traits, material things, and stuff. thank you!
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• Malaysia
8 Feb 09
i was a person who trust people easily before. but my ex bff stab me from my back. i used to tell her everything especially my problem. but she told everyonelse just to bring me down. since then i never trust anyone easily..write a diary so you will not feel alone, talk to your family members they are trusted and knows you better. it may helps and choose the right person to trust.
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• Philippines
8 Feb 09
Hi bloodcakelover! im so sorry to hear that.. Yes, actually i do have a multiply account where i write my blogs and all about me, specially when i need someone to talk to. Internet is an option. hahahaha. Family will always be there, through good times and bad times. I cannot live without them. I wish my bff now would not stab me from my back. =(
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• Philippines
8 Feb 09
hi there wyethlovesyou.. i do trust people easily and share with them my experiences and problems! Like you, i also need someone to talk to.. but i dont share with them some private talks! sometimes you just have to limit yourself.. happy mylotting! ;)
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• Philippines
8 Feb 09
hi christieanne! Thanks for making friends with me here in mylot!
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@livewyre (2450)
9 Feb 09
I don't trust anyone more than I need to - I guess I have just grown cynical over the years and see too much selfishness and greed to be willing to trust without that trust being thoroughly earned. I generally will only trust those who don't have anything to benefit by lying to me - why would I?
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@jesbellaine (4139)
• Philippines
9 Feb 09
Hi there! Good Afternoon! Well, it really depends but I can say that sometimes I find myself trusting a person easily as long as I feel that it is okay to tell her about me but of course, there are things that are only kept for myself only. I guess, it depends if the person you are talking with is trustworthy. I don’t just tell other people my secrets but if there are people that I trust, it is my family and most especially my friends. For me, I can share everything with them without worrying that they will spill it out to someone. I love telling my friends almost everything about me… as they do to with me… it really nice to have people around you that can be really trusted with your secrets. Thanks for the discussion. Happy Mylotting and Have a nice day! Cheers!
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@silverjam (969)
• United States
8 Feb 09
Well I guess I do. Am very trusting as I don't want to harbor any bad thoughts for anyone. However, am a little apprehensive in telling my secrets to just anybody except they are my best friends or somebody very close to me. Trusting people wins you a lot of friends and it's nice to have friends everywhere as they can make life more meaningful and cheerful.
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• Philippines
8 Feb 09
Hi silverjam, thanks for the response. I think i should learn to limit myself from telling secrets/private issues to people even thought they are my bestfriends. nowadays, its really hard to trust people, because you'll never know thir true colors.
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• Philippines
8 Feb 09
I don't trust people easily. I always keep something to myself to avoid regrets. Well, I base this answer from personal experience and I don't want that to happen anymore. I also believe that it's my family/parents that I should be confiding on first before any other people. They know me better and I think they deserve to know my problems/secrets first.
@Pistas (95)
• Portugal
8 Feb 09
I only trust people whom i consider trustworthy. To win my trust it's a bit difficult,but when i do find a person is worthy of my trust, i do trust them to my heart.That's the reason i guess i only have a few good friends,but the ones i do, i would even trust my life...and that's good enough for me!
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@itsme_cha (504)
• United States
8 Feb 09
hi there, i guess trusting someone easily is a little bit of risky,, unless you know that person for so long and your know that person is someone you can tell anything and that person can be trusted. i have many friends but very few of them that i really trusted,my friends that i can talk to for almost anything. so i guess the most important is to get to know that person who you want to trust with.
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