Whats your secret to a Happy Marriage/ Relationship?

My dear I think this excerpt from : http://www.telegraph.co.uk/news/uknews/3116323/The-secret-to-a-happy-marriage-Four-hugs-a-day.html is one great tip for couples to help them keep a happy marriage: "............spending at least 22 periods of "quality time" together every month, such as going for a walk or sharing a romantic meal, were also key to maintaining a healthy relationship. Researchers asked couples who described themselves as "happy" or "very happy" to estimate how much time they spend together in an effort to work out the secret of their success. Analysis of their responses suggested that couples looking for happiness should aim to spend at least seven evenings in together every month with two proper dinner dates. Other important elements included two romantic walks a month and at least one visit to a pub or cinema without the children or other friends. The couples also recommended that husbands should give their wife flowers or another gift at least once a month. But they also advised people to spend at least one evening away from their partner a month. Educational Psychologist Dr Ludwig F.Lowenstein said: "Affection, cuddles and romantic gestures are part of a whole romantic scene which is desired by those entering a relationship. "They are the safe gestures which say 'I like you, I am glad to be with you, I like and appreciate your support and care.' "In this busy world we often take our partners for granted whilst we get on with our daily struggles of work and rearing a family. "We tend to forget the importance of hugs when familiarity becomes part of our lives, and as the saying goes 'familiarity breeds contempt'." ------------ I find this article really helpful. I hope you too!

Be married to your best friend. This will get you through most of life's ups and downs. I don't mean marry your best friend I mean make your partner your best friend and treat them as such.

We don't sweat the small stuff. What I mean is even though he may something that really irks me, or vice versa, if it is something that most likely will never happen again, I let it go. If it is something we regularly have an issue with, then it's time to sit down and resolve it. Also the fact that both of us can bend. We both are stubborn, but sometimes we need to remember it's good to be different and have different views. We can be ourselves without infringing on the others ideals. Sharing interests is great. But takes more than that to make a relationship. We don't have to agree all of the time. Must be doing something right. We've been together over 20 years and will have our 19th anniversary this year.

ohh riya,i dont want to tell you whats my secret to make my marriage happy.mylot will kick me out if i type it.well i dont go to bed too with angryness"sometimes"..but it depdns the reason then.my secret is just to ignore the angryness,sitdown,open the computer and surfing the net then it makes me calm down.

I've also tried to follow this rule but still, we can't help arguing sometimes and then when I cry because of the argument, I fall asleep. But maybe one thing that I can share to have a happy relationship is having something in common with your partner, either a hobby, a favorite band or music, or common goals. If a couple have totally separated or opposite ideas, and I don't really believe in the "opposites attract" thing, the couples have lots of arguments. Or maybe there should always be someone who's willing to give up or be silent sometimes.

as much as possible, we have to keep the fire burning. my husband and i would exchange gifts on christmas and valentine's day. on our anniversaries, we make it a point to go out on a date, either to a candle lit dinner or to an overnight trip with just the two of us. we do anything just to keep the love and romance going.

I don't let a fight or an arguement linger on.I just forget it and go on as usually.Initially I found it difficult.I think over the years I learn't its best to resolve it as you say before going to bed.The next day you wake up as if nothing really happened or else you will wake with long face and the fight continues.By prolonging it nobody really gains anything from it.

I'll put it in another way. One of the senior colleagues once told me that even if you argue with your better half in a day time, please do not go to sleep in a separate room or bed , he advised that we must sleep together on the same bed. And I have observed that his 'idea' works, most of the times, atleast in my case. Whenever we enter into arguments, we make sure that either of us does not carry the baggage to the next day or next morning, this way things start becoming normal, gradually.

Mutual belief,love and affection,respect for each others' opinions,sharing of happiness as well as worries ...all these constitute binding marital relationships.

To me the secret is communication! I have often heard the 'never go to bed angry' thing and agree with it. For me, it means we must communicate to each other whatever is weighing heavy on us before going to bed. Your mother was wise to give you that advice.

I feel you have to give and take. I have gone to be angry so I do not take your mom's advise. I also think it does not always have to be my way. When he is bugging me because I want things my way I have to stop myself and say. "why does it always be my way." and that really helps me.

Me, i think our marriage/relationship is going stronger now...for now we are on the 8th years of being happily married with 6 kids. We keep our relationship very strong not only with our kids but maybe our secret with my husband is that we have a constant communication almost everyday, we share foods & everything. Sometimes we have quarrels or arguments but that's part of marriage life and patch things up very easily. marilyn23

We are doing the same like your Mom says, although it doesn't seem to happen all the time, specially when I go to bed first, but most of the time it does work for us. Apart from never go to bed angry and upset, I think communications, respect and understanding is also important.

I agree with your secret there, riyasam. That is one of the things I try to do but there have been times that I have gone to bed angry at Boyfriend. Boyfriend and I have been together for six years now. It seems a long time but it sure feels like we are still starting out. We still always look forward to seeing each other and more than ever, we call each other once a day when we don't get to see each other for a while. We give each other some needed space as well as some sweet surprises. We like to do things together, be it extravagant or just a simple walk.

well for each marriage it is different for a successful marriage you must have trust,you have to be long suffering,you have to give and take.love each others with your whole heart.don,t think you always right,listen to your mate.please your mate,satisfy your mate.learn to shoulder responsiblity.don,t allow other to interfear with your relationahip.romance your mate.don,t lie to your mate.keep jealouy at bay there is no room for it.

don't guess i had one. been divorced for over 30 years. lol. think your mom's idea is a good one.

that and honesty, trust.. if you have all three and really love each other nothing should be able to tear you apart

Forgetting the past...So far it is working and hopefully it will continue. Also I have always been told that open communication is the most important thing in a successful marriage/relationship and so far that is said to be true!

Hello my friend riyasam ji, Our secret of long married life remains with belief taht whatever our parents did for us, did good and continue with same. Follow living together forever with small bickerings. may god bless you and have great time.

knowing that both are your own person.your mate needs time to them self and time with you.if my wife wants to talk i try to be there.when she needs time to think i try to be some where else.i worked in china a number of years.in china the sir name comes first.you could always tell who the person there had met first my wife or me.if the person had met me first they would call my wife ms britt.if the person had met my wife first they would call me mr cheryl.in a way i like that better then mr and ms Jones.(not our real sir names).we are two different people but we have some how mixed to become three her,me and us.