Are you ready for being a father/mother?

China
February 10, 2009 8:17pm CST
Hey,my dear fellow mylotters,long time no see~~Busy again recently~ Around last week when I was having dinner with my friend and he said,"hey,do you think of having a baby this year?If yes,are you preparing to being a father?".Yep,my wife and I are thinking of having our first baby this year and we did do the preparation,such as maintaining our health,changing our diet structure,adding more sports and planning the last trip before our baby born as well~~lol~ Am I ready?I'm not so much sure at this moment.I understand that besides the physical side ready,we need the mental side ready,say,we need to be ready to welcome our bady and become the parent`lol~we need to UPGRADE our mind to the parent level,to take responsibility.Am I right?For sure,the economic side is also very important~lol Please please give me some comments/suggestions,my dear friends.Whatever you're being a father/monther or just like me to prepare or ....thanks~~ Have a nice day`~
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@aisaellis22 (6449)
• United States
11 Feb 09
Hello tonytt2009! Honestly, I am not ready to become a mother yet. My husband and I just got married last year and we're planning to have a baby 5 years from now. Like you, being a parents is a big responsibility. We haveto be ready in terms of money, health (physicall and mentally)
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• China
11 Feb 09
Yea,it's not bad really~just enjoy the time before baby come~`wow`~Good day my friend~
• United States
11 Feb 09
hahaha..oh yeah..I even also want to have my partner's full attention on me..
@bubbletush (1333)
• Philippines
11 Feb 09
I'm so ready but unfortunately I've been trying to conceive for the past 14 months and still unsuccessful until now.
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@bamakelly (5193)
• United States
11 Feb 09
I am sorry to hear that. But you know that I have found that it is possible that you could be trying too much. It could seem easier said than done though. When you let your guard down a little then God will take over the rest. You will have a baby when he feels it is time. There could be more things in life you were meant to do before having a baby. Good luck to you!
11 Feb 09
my husband and i are both ready to start a family its just our lifes are not. i am in uni and work part time, my husband works full time and pays for everything, as my money is used to save for a house after my degree. so we said we will try in a year or so and that if we can buy a house, becoues when the baby come we may not have the money to do
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@bamakelly (5193)
• United States
11 Feb 09
That is true when finances play a big role in your trying to start a family then it can be a struggle. Sometimes it is hard to tell when is the right time and it can just happen anyway. It is a mature way of thinking to just wait and save for the right time.
• Philippines
11 Feb 09
Well i've been married for almost two years now and hubby and i are preparing ourselves to be parents. Still have to pray more, patiently to wait for God's will of when is He going to give us our bundle of joy. Definitely, I'm excited and very much anticipating to be a mom.
@bamakelly (5193)
• United States
11 Feb 09
That is a good time to start preparing. After a couple of years a married couple can start turning their attention to a family of their own. Praying is a good thing to do however if you just let your guard down and let go then you will probably be surprised with a bundle of joy in no time.
@Lindery (853)
• Latvia
11 Feb 09
I think it's great thing to become a mother or a father! I am waiting for my first baby to be born, on next May I will be a mum. Me and my partner are together for 7.5 years, we didn't really plan a baby at this time but it just happened. We both were ready in our minds to become parents. Few years ago when we were 24 years old we tried very hard to make a baby but it doomed to failure. And thanks God to that because now I know we weren't ready for a baby at that age. Now we are 100% ready, we just feel it. After you find out you are pregnant, your philosophy changes! Your mind fills up with parents molecules! We are ready when it happens! That's all lesson from my side. Good Luck!
• China
11 Feb 09
Congrat to your first coming baby``wow~that's great~ I think of MAKING a baby this year~lol DO REMEMBER,you always have my wish to your baby~~
• China
11 Feb 09
Hi tonytt. I think you are making enough preparations now but raising a kid is another thing. I am sure you guys are financially prepared for this baby and also physically fine. The pre-preganacy planning seems very fine now, lol. I am still not ready to be a mother now and either bf, haha, ok, we are not married yet. This should be a very good year to have a baby since the economy isn't very well and it's a great opportunity for both having a baby or futher education. Well, you guys are doing the exact thing! Great:D
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• China
11 Feb 09
Thanks for your comment~ For me,I think it'll be possible to have continue education after having baby,even not so much deposit in my bank now~lol
@JOIEMARVIC (2342)
• Philippines
11 Feb 09
Me, I am defintely not ready to have a baby.Im just 24 and im just starting to enjoy life. Me and my boyfriend have plans on gettng married next year or by 2011 but having a baby is not on our priorities yet.I guess my boyfriend will have to be contented having me as his baby, as someone he could take care of..lol.. Having a baby needs a lot of preparation. Emotionally, financially and physically.If time comes when were married and ready to have a baby, i will definitely love to make..ooopppss..i mean have one..lol
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• China
11 Feb 09
Well my friend,first of all,congrat to your coming marriage~~ Regarding to the kids,we should be fully preparation~ Have a nice day`~
@kun2349 (23464)
• Singapore
11 Feb 09
Being a parent is never easy.. It's not a short term planning but a long term and tedious one as well ^_^ Being a parent means lots of sacrifices and not taking it out on anybody.. Whatever they do fro their child, it's out of love and that, their responsibility is forever ^_^ U need careful planning and even financially because once u have a kid, it's a never ending process ^_^ THus, it's better to be well prepared mentally ^_^
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• China
11 Feb 09
Well,that should be the point I missed in my discussion,being a parent means forever responsibility.Just to see my mom & Dad,they always concern about what I have done today and when back home for dinner~~I think of being a father as I like kids`~as well,I'm getting ready to welcome my baby I think~~lol Thanks for your comment~
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@dreamy1 (3815)
• United States
11 Feb 09
I haven't made up my mind is I even want kids but even if I did I don't have enough money. I'm not even married (haven't decided I want to do that either) so no I'm far from ready.
@itsme_cha (504)
• United States
11 Feb 09
i am thinking about having baby this yr,, i could say i am ready as i am getting older i think its the right time for me to do it, and i am ready for it.
• Philippines
11 Feb 09
Hellow tonytt2009. Good question for this valentine celebration. A lot of new engagements will happen during this day. Also break ups as well but we cant deny new relationships bloom during this celebration. Relationships if managed relegiously and intellegently can be preserved or nurtured until the time the woman and the man faces the challenge to dedicate themselves for a lifetime commitment. To become parent or our longing and nature to build a happy family with our most loved partner is a great achievement considering the condition of our society today. It is more than a career or a profession. Qualifications to becoame a parent suppose to be the most hard to achieve. Today a parent must be matured and healthy physically, mentally, spiritually, emotionary and socially; must be financially stable; must be an intellegent molder for their children; and must have faith and unbreakable love to his/her partner. So enjoy being single first and be ready to face the nest step.
@zenki08 (700)
• Philippines
11 Feb 09
Being a parent is a big responsibility. Honestly at my age I want to be a parent but I think I am not yet ready to be one. But I guess no one is really ready, I think the fun part of being a father or a mother is being surprised when it comes.When one is caught off guard it sometimes brings out the best in that person.
@sunil_008 (1270)
• India
11 Feb 09
Hi, I think you are the first person whos so excited about planning a baby this year.I thought couple do lots of practice on the be3d to have a baby.But, i think you are doing more than that. after all the excercises on bed again maintaing health and food stuff well really remarkable things...I live in India here people don't really think about all these things before having babies...(when you ask them,with a smile they say never planned...God's gift:0)).That's why we have a huge population over here. And of course about the mind state that you are asking is really changes after you see the pregnant wifes tommy.The way it will grow will change your mind set as well. Since you are going to be father for the first time .with the child grow you will learn the responsibilities as well. Agrown up girl's father gets much respects than a grown up boy's father...:) lastly congratulations for your planning again.