why do men make so much fuss?

@katsalot1 (1619)
February 12, 2009 6:18am CST
Why is it that when men get ill, they make so much fuss. It doesn't matter if it's a cold or a splinter, they always seem to get it much worse than you've ever had it. The amount of moaning and groaning they do is so out of proportion to the discomfort involved. It makes me laugh, when in films you see the hero gets shot, and he just shrugs it off and carry on with his mission. In real life he'd collapse, demand immediate attention, and take 2 weeks off work! Have you noticed this?
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@mamabeezy (172)
• United States
12 Feb 09
yeah, i've noticed this a lot. all i can say is, i'd love to see them pregnant/giving birth. a lot of them complain over stupid things, and some think we shouldn't complain while we're pregnant.
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@katsalot1 (1619)
12 Feb 09
Oh, if they had to go through that our lives would be hell - imagine the moaning!
• United States
12 Feb 09
Haha very true, and I'm sure it would be a lot different in the labor room When they're the one's hitting/kicking in pain.
@Tony78 (89)
• United States
13 Feb 09
Obviously men can't get pregnant or give birth but we can experience pain similar to that. I have known men with kidney stones, which supposed to be similar in pain as giving birth. I personally had a kidney removed last year which is probably the closest I will ever get to having a c-section or giving birth. Fortunately I was out during the surgery it still hurt real bad for a long time afterward. So I do understand pain, I actually stopped breathing a few. So please stop with the stereotyping.
@Tony78 (89)
• United States
13 Feb 09
Most men I know are not like that I am not. Sure when I was sick and just got out of the hospital my fiancee stayed with me and waited on me for the first two weeks after I got home but, it was a major surgery and even the doctors said I would be in pain for a while. I would do the same for her though. I personally have went to work while sick. I have vomited just before and during a 16 hour shift and had a severe headache but I never complained or left work early. I was ordered to leave work once when I was (the boss ordered me to go see the nurse) sick and my blood pressure was really high. Sometimes men want pampered by a wife or girlfriend, but moaning and groaning is usually going a bit overboard. Oh, by the way how much time should a person take off after getting shot? Most gunshots victims do need immediate attention.
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@katsalot1 (1619)
13 Feb 09
We've all been to work when feeling ill, men and women. It's just that men usually let you know that they are suffering and still going to work! Recovering from major surgery is different, everyone is entitled to attention after that. I do admit there are some men who suffer in silence, but I think that they are a minority.
@jlamela (4905)
• Philippines
13 Feb 09
Oh yes, that's the true nature of men. There's a saying that goes: men are physically strong but emotionally weak, that's there emotion when they get sick that made them so fussy. But that's what they are really, this feeling rooted from the fact that they need attention and affection, they want to be taken care of and they want their love to be with them when they are ill. Sometimes men in general feel like babies that we must understand, sometimes I find this behavior of them really cute, isn't it?
@katsalot1 (1619)
13 Feb 09
No, I don't find it cute.
@Jae2619 (1484)
• United States
12 Feb 09
Oh, I've noticed this. My husband is bad at it, though he'd differ in response. He doesn't take off work when he's sick but on his days off, the moaning, groaning and whining starts, and then he's knocked out cold for two days, and then get up and be like wow... gosh, I feel amazing. I would too, If I could sleep for two day and not have to carry on with daily life, dealing with kids and stuff. I just figure men do this because they are always taught stand up and be strong, don't cry over anything. So they use a sickness to get out those repressed feelings about not being able to show major emotions.
@katsalot1 (1619)
12 Feb 09
That's a very interesting theory - I'll have to think about that.
• United States
12 Feb 09
Wow what a question and the responses are pretty interested too! I am going to take the position that you are correct in your statement and tell you why we act the way we do. It's because deep down inside every big, tough, he-man of the universe, there is a little boy wanting the attention of his parents, (moms and dads take notice) We spend all day trying to be all this and that, bragging to our buddies how bad we are, talking smack about the days of long ago, yea that's us. In reality we aren't all that and a bag of chips. We just want some attention and of course, all men majored in drama class! We go overboard, testing the waters, stepping over the line of reason. Basically, we're all a bunch of little boys trapped in a grown mans' body. Sorry ladies, we are from a different planet than you. But alas, we still love you despite all of this.
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@katsalot1 (1619)
12 Feb 09
If what you say is true, that men are just little attention-seeking boys, then obviously the best thing to do for their own sakes is to ignore their whining in an effort to get them to grow up! I'm all for that!
@max1950 (2313)
• United States
12 Feb 09
oh come on k he's just looking for a little love, maybe your not giving him enough. "}
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@katsalot1 (1619)
12 Feb 09
I blame his mother. She used to give him chocolate if he hurt himself!
@lucy02 (5017)
• United States
13 Feb 09
Ha! You just described my husband to a "T". When I'm sick I have to fend for myself but when he's sick I'm running to the store in the middle of the night for some orange juice and medicine. I guess we're just the born nurturers and they are the nurturees.
@ehlana88 (330)
• United States
13 Feb 09
In a lot of ways I blame his mother. She fluctuates from being way overly attentive to aloof and cold to him. When he gets hurt he whines. If I tell him to suck it up because its only a stubbed toe, I'm the bad person. I care for him and love him and take care of him but there is a line that has to be drawn. We all understand that you may be in pain, or tired, or achy but if I have to suck it up to get things done so do you. If you can't say aww baby I'm sorry here's a cup of tea everytime I'm hurt then why should I say aww baby I'm sorry here let me take care of all your stuff and mine too?
@di1159 (1580)
• United States
12 Feb 09
So true.. but then if heaven forbid you get sick he can't understand why you would ever fuss. My husband is the same. He whines everytime he has a cold, or his back hurts, or something simple, he makes you think he just had major surgery.
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@max1950 (2313)
• United States
12 Feb 09
thene get him one of those 3 pound hershey bar's that should keep him busy for a few day's
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@srganesh (6344)
• India
12 Feb 09
I know most men do that.I think it is because they excuse themselves of having a great illness so that they shall not be expected for their daily routines.As for me,I will follow the medications and simply go to sleep.That will get me into my normal activities soon.
• Malaysia
12 Feb 09
Yup..I have noticed this..the moaning and groaning..all of it. I guess that it's because men normally don't go through so much of pain and all...so when it comes, then its like the world has crashed..hahah..well..just as you, I find it amusing. It'll be those days for them to take advantage and have us all run behind them on their every beck and call..heheh..:) Princess
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@syankee525 (6293)
• United States
12 Feb 09
because they are babies. most men growing up was told big boys don't carry. so we often used to cry to our mom. so we get older we cry to our wife.lol. but not all men is like this, i don't compalin or cry over things. most of the time my wife don't know when i am not feeling good.
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12 Feb 09
y i have noticed this, my other half is just the same, but when i get ill he says oh stop maoning what is for tea plzz. i mean the cheak of it
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@alharra (507)
• United States
12 Feb 09
I have no idea why men are such babies. I don;t get it either. My boyfriend had a cold and stayed in bed for 2 solid days. And then when he did finally join the land of the living he asked me to fix him something to eat. what's worse if that he didn't even have a fever. When I get sick I'm still expected to get up and take care of the kids. Why can't I get the luxury of laying in bed fror 2 days? How is that fair?
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@sunil_008 (1270)
• India
12 Feb 09
hi, Its because we are not that strong as you are. and in films what they show isn't always real...:)