i had pcos...

Philippines
February 12, 2009 8:03am CST
Hi all! It took me some time to realize that I am what the English language calls a barren woman. I always had this notion that when a couple gets married, it is inevitable that they would bear children and build family. Such is what nature intended procreation to be. But I have Polycystic Ovarian Syndrome (PCOS), with the origin quite unclear. I have never had a normal or regular menstrual period ever since puberty. It was quite a struggle for me to accept the fact. PCOS is defined as (from Wikipedia) "an endocrine disorder that affects approximately 5% of all women. It occurs amongst all races and nationalities, is the most common hormonal disorder among women of reproductive age, and is a leading cause of infertility." from wikipedia... The principal features are weight problems, lack of regular ovulation and/or menstruation, and excessive amounts or effects of androgenic (masculinizing) hormones. The symptoms and severity of the syndrome vary greatly among women. While the causes are unknown, insulin resistance, diabetes, and obesity are all strongly correlated with PCOS. My thoughts didn't just end on the fact that I was barren, it well continued on the thought that I am not a complete woman because I am incapable of bearing child. It led me to question my capacities at being a wife, for I cannot bear my husband the children that he so desired. But thankfully, I have a very supportive husband who assured me of his love even if we were not blessed with children. HOw about you? Have you suffered this syndrome? How did you deal with it? take care all and God bless you! happy mylotting! :-)
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mayshella
@mayshella (292)
• Philippines
12 Feb 09
Hi there!! Does your OB gave you something for treatment? Just recently, I consulted my OB because of a sudden change of my menstruation cycle. Unlike yours, I have a regular menstruation before but after I gained weight I noticed that my menstruation is becoming irregular until I have a 10 days bleeding that alarmed me so much. So, I decided to see my OB and she told me about having PCOS reason as well why my menstruation cycle changed. A particular medicine was prescribed for me to take to lose weight by reducing hunger. It's actually a medicine for persons with diabetes but was also prescribed for non diabetic people with PCOS to control too much insulin in our body.
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syankee525
@syankee525 (6249)
• United States
12 Feb 09
i read all of yourself so i could understand what it is. but sometime god will toss us a cuve ball. and how we deal with it, take sometime to figure it out. but you need to see ok you can't have kids ? right.. make sure i got it right. but there is other ways to have a kid. mayne by you not being able to have kids, maybe it's god ways telling if you two adoted a kid and it will not only bring joy to u guys but some poor child. i have bipolar, and pmd. it took me years to deal with many issues in my life, but alos took me longer to except medical condition i have. but i make the most of it all. i finally learn to except it and deal with many things. i wish you and your husband the best. and he's hell of a guy for supporting you
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rsa101
@rsa101 (40962)
• Philippines
13 Feb 09
I have several acquaintances and friends that wer like in your psoition right now. But I guess the medical world nowadays can do wonders if they would be willing to have a fertility workup. I have seen several already that became fertile after going through many test and procedures to have them impregnated. I have seen too there are severe cases where they were unable to conceive despite all efforts done on them. But I guess once diagnosed as PCOS is not the end of the world for everyone, I have seen many that became a successful and happy mothers despite their condition.
ehlana88
@ehlana88 (330)
• United States
13 Feb 09
Internet hugs to you! I too have a severe form of PCOS. I was diagnosed young and it really hasn't changed much. My menstrual cycle has been non-existent since I was 14 years old. When I was younger and thoughts of boys were less on my mind then the fact that I was free of feminine products and missing swimming. As I grew older and the condition, or the symptoms of the condition, worsened I also became aware of the fact that I couldn't bear children. Knowing it from the get-go didn't make it easier in my first marriage. We were young and when we reached a certain age he wanted the children I couldn't bear. From that moment on I have felt like less of a woman. It is so hard when you see your friends and associates bearing children wily nilly from one night stands and "accidents." When even with invitro fertilization I cannot bear a child. I am glad your husband is supportive. I had resigned myself to a life of singleness and was enjoying it mostly when I met my love. He too is understanding and supportive. We hope to adopt or use a surrogate when the time is right for us. I would talk with a Reproductive Endocrinologist regarding your PCOS. They can help lesson the symptoms and are aware of new treatments. I currently am on an herbal blend remedy to ease some of the symptoms but also under the care of a physician. Good luck to you!